Domin8tingUrDrmz
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I also see open-mindedness as a product of the way in which someone was raised. If someone is rasied by closed-minded parents, who place a very high premium on social comformity, I see a child in such circumstances many times either veering far in the opposite direction (maybe forever) or else adhering closely to that and never questioning it for fear of reprisal of some kind (real or imagined). What actually tilts someone in one direction, as opposed to another is anyone's guess, individual and probably multi-facted, (although there must be studies on it, somewhere, I imagine).
This goes back to the age-old debate of nature vs nurture. While many may agree that by nurturing a child a certain way will mold them into who they become, I tend to disagree (not entirely, but mostly). I do believe that environmental aspects do affect how a child will behave in their adulthood, but I only believe it will impact them on a mild level. Who they are will ultimately come into play. For instance, there are many sociopaths who grew up in loving homes but they still behaved in a manner that was, well, sociopathic. While other children grew up in homes of neglect and abuse only to become very strong-willed, successful individuals. I'll go even further. I had a child at a very young age, I allowed my aunt to adopt her so that she would have a stable environment to mature in. I am not religious, my aunt, is very religious. I like to think I am somewhat open-minded, my aunt, she is fairly set in her ways and isn't usually open to negotiations. I am fairly technically competant, my aunt, sees no use in 'new gadgets'. I am artistic (not very good mind you), my aunt, isn't. I was concerned when allowing my aunt to raise my daughter because I thought my daughter might miss out on some of the things that I would be able to share with her, but I also realized I was too young to raise a child properly. Now, here is where I base my opinions on nature being more impactful than nurture. My daughter, is very technologically saavy, even moreso than I. She is artistic, she believes in a god but isn't religious, she is very open-minded and willing to see others views and possibly change her own if she sees merit in another viewpoint. She is capable of standing her ground if she feels it necessary, but she is flexible enough to realize that her way of doing things isn't necessarily the only "right" way of doing them. This proves to me that she inherited many of my traits, but also allowed herself to be influenced somewhat by her surroundings. So, I do not believe that the way a child is raised necessarily predetermines a specific path for them.
Just out of curiosity, do you think that children raised by open-minded parents will sometimes try to rebel and choose a narrow-minded style of thinking?
edited because my fingers are dyslexic.
< Message edited by Domin8tingUrDrmz -- 3/26/2007 4:24:17 AM >
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) and do not seek anything else. They often settle for convenience, for a mediocre home, have a mediocre job, and wonder why they cannot achieve happiness. Those with open minds often strive for greater things - not necessarily material things - but for deeper love, greater happiness, and rarely settle for anything less than they feel they can accomplish. 
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