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Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 5:52:58 AM)

My point exactly.



StellaByStarlite -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 6:23:11 AM)

Eeee... I do know that I need another cup or two of coffee would do wonders for my poor brain-muscle. =)

Mornings would be better if they started later, haha!



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 6:29:54 AM)

Agreed![:)]



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 7:11:29 AM)

I do bdsm stuff the same reason I go to the movies- it's fun and brings me something interesting and meaningful to enjoy.

I get into relationships because they enrich my life and make me MORE me, to enjoy a unique connection with someone that fulfills me.

I get into authority dynamic relationships because it resonates with me more than not.



enslavemenightly -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 9:14:31 AM)

It's just the way i'm made. It's the lifestyle i feel i need to / want to live.



WhiplashSmile -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 10:20:58 AM)

To embrace causing somebody we love pain.
To embrace recieving pain from somebody that loves us.
To know and feel that Love does not come without pain.

The release of pain, knowing you are alive, feeling the rush.
The release of having the other person aborb your own pain.

To embrace both the good and bad, to know and understand
our own humanity.

To exchange, share and live our darkest fantasies as well as
the good ones.  To be whole and complete with another.

To feel pain, to know we are still alive, to give pain and know
the other still is alive.

The mental and physical rush of doing what one side of our
human nature burns to do, live and feel.  Without becoming
lost to one side or ideal.   To embrace both good and evil
inourselves, so we are feeling whole and complete.

BDSM is our spirtual sense and balance in our yin/yang wheel.




MasterFireMaam -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 10:22:29 AM)

"That which is painful to the body, may be profitable to the soul." -- Richard E. Burton

Master Fire



Bearlee -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 10:37:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hime

...
The "draw" for me is to the conscious forethought and consideration that is given to the boundaries and expectations of the relationship.  I respect the Structure, Cherish the openness, and Love the non-judgmental nature of those that I have had the opportunity of knowing in the BDSM & D/s community.
...


<Applauds>  Well said!
 
I wanted to say I enjoy the structure often included in a D/s relationship…but Hime said it better.
 
I wanted to say I’m drawn to how conscious most BDSMers are in the choices they make to entertain a D/s relationship…but Hime said it better.
 
I wanted to say how refreshing the openness and non-judgmental attitudes most BDSMers seem to exhibit…but Hime said it better.
 
I like the boundaries and control, giving up power and enjoying the playful attentions of a Dominant.  I’m submissive; all this draws me…
 
bearlee





MistressLucyFurr -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 10:59:35 AM)

quote:

(not that there is anything wrong with vanilla -vanilla ice cream with blackberries is delicious )


......especially if you add the above concoction to a freshly 'whipped' batch of fleshy (in the literal sense) strawberries, fun had by all! [8D]

quote:

They often settle for convenience, for a mediocre home, have a mediocre job, and wonder why they cannot achieve happiness.


I wholeheartedly agree that complacency can be the road to a blind zombie hell.........the true living dead........................*shudders*..............not this human unit.

Luci



Hime -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 11:15:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Hime did you say you like that the people in here are non judgemental. What rock are you hideing under. You need to start reading some of these post.


No, I did not say that. 

I said, "I respect the Structure, Cherish the openness, and Love the non-judgmental nature of those that I have had the opportunity of knowing in the BDSM & D/s community."


To Bearlee, Thank you for the compliment! *kiss-kiss*

~ xoxo



Smileyking1 -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 1:31:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

To embrace causing somebody we love pain.
To embrace recieving pain from somebody that loves us.
To know and feel that Love does not come without pain.

The release of pain, knowing you are alive, feeling the rush.
The release of having the other person aborb your own pain.

To embrace both the good and bad, to know and understand
our own humanity.

To exchange, share and live our darkest fantasies as well as
the good ones.  To be whole and complete with another.

To feel pain, to know we are still alive, to give pain and know
the other still is alive.

The mental and physical rush of doing what one side of our
human nature burns to do, live and feel.  Without becoming
lost to one side or ideal.   To embrace both good and evil
inourselves, so we are feeling whole and complete.

BDSM is our spirtual sense and balance in our yin/yang wheel.




Very well put.  I believe you may have struck gold with that observation.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 1:32:30 PM)

Except for those of us who aren't into pain at all :)



Smileyking1 -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 1:35:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Except for those of us who aren't into pain at all :)


Maybe everyone's reasoning is different =O  I have no doubt that people do this for a variety of reasons, and I think pain is one of the big ones....



Celeste43 -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 3:26:01 PM)

I make a great Executive Assistant but I make a rotten CEO. This applies to who we run our life, I have autonomy but that's in carrying out the things he deems important. I'm not micromanaged but there is someone else who is in charge.

Plus I love being tied up.



curiouslyseeking -> RE: What draws us? (3/26/2007 3:48:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: StellaByStarlite

quote:

ORIGINAL: curiouslyseeking

For such a complicated topic, considering we are all complex individuals......here is an answer I find very simple;
 
To, me it's all about "FEEL", mentally, emotionally and physically.
 
We are drawn to what is most pleasing and for me, it provides euphoria in all of these areas..
 
Living and learning,
curious



Exactly.. you put it better then I could. At some point, for whatever reason, people are drawn towards bdsm because it gives us pleasure. Of course, there are some that seek it out for unhealthy reasons too, but they're not limited to bdsm... happens all the time in the vanilla world, as well


Thank you, StellaByStarlite...
 
You did make a valid point of those that come for unhealthy reasons...I tend to see only the positive aspects of topics...glad you added that perspective.
 
I am curious if the ones that come for unhealthy reasons are cognizant of it..



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