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Vendaval -> What is your focus? (3/26/2007 1:46:31 PM)
What is your focus? Is it the B&D, Being in bondage or restraining people in bondage? Receiving discipline or administrating discipline? Is it the D&S? Dominating a sub/slave? Submitting to a Master/Mistress? Is it the S&M? Giving pain? Receiving pain? Or some mixture out of all this?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 1:51:17 PM)
Depends on the moment, the relationship, the ultimate goal. It generally all comes down to being me.

PONYSEEKER -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 1:56:51 PM)
Suspention bondage / discipline / anal

jauntyone -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 1:59:04 PM)
Greetings My focus rests solely on Master. His being pleased. Anything else is just icing on the cake. I wish you well melissa

Kana -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:01:26 PM)
It shifts from time to time, right now its D/S with a strong twist of S/M. The dynamics change but for a while now I have been emphasizing mental bondage. Its a matter of taste and mood.

mstrjx -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:02:18 PM)
I'm fortunate enough to consider myself all over the map. This allows me to tailor a relationship with a partner with what is interesting to her, and add little things here and there to see what works and what doesn't. Personally, I know that all of the books say to negotiate everything, but I think with adequate fundamental trust if something is tried and 'fails' then it's no big deal. I suppose I should add that as long as 'said item' wasn't already established as a limit of some sort. I'm careful enough not to overwhelm someone with tons of new concepts, sensations, and emotional triggers all at once, but I'm certainly willing to explore. I appreciate a partner who is also willing to explore, or at least has the trust in me to conduct myself appropriately. Jeff

Padriag -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:04:02 PM)
I would say much of my focus is unquestionably on the "D&S" aspect. While I enjoy using bondage, pain, fetish play, etc. these are for me as often tools to achieve my "D/s" goals as they are for simple enjoyment. So not surprisingly I've spent a lot of time and energy learning to understand the emotional and mental aspects of the relationship and thus end up quoting Adler a lot! [;)]

Bearlee -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:08:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval What is your focus? Is it the B&D, Being in bondage or restraining people in bondage? Receiving discipline or administrating discipline? Is it the D&S? Dominating a sub/slave? Submitting to a Master/Mistress? Is it the S&M? Giving pain? Receiving pain? Yes! Oh sorry... Yes to all the above: ropes and restraining discipline, humiliation serving, (sometimes topping) pain, beatings; floggers, whips, knives, needles sex, loving & intimacy; kinky and otherwise bearlee

mixielicous -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:13:15 PM)
receiving pain and punishment. huge bondage and OTK fan. M/s i like to think i dabble in a bit of it all, except for administering pain or punishment. never never never [unless you are that fantasy girl with the same features as D has]

hisannabelle -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:32:18 PM)
d/s, and, secondarily, s&m. eta: we apply humiliation liberally and bondage every now and then, but our main focus is what's listed above :)

SunNMoon -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:45:29 PM)
Hello, My focus is bondage, domination and submission. And also a little bit of humiliation thrown in for fun. But mostly bondage. Sun & Moon [sm=smile.gif]

daddysprop247 -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 2:51:24 PM)
in the relationship with my Master, our focus is definitely on D/s, and within that M/s, however for us these things are something completely separate from BDSM.

Celeste43 -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 3:05:44 PM)
In order of importance His control of me Then bondage and sex. He'd probably list in in reverse order because he doesn't see his control as a kink. He just likes things to be done the way he likes them. And since he gets that, he doesn't think about it.

dawntreader -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 5:30:32 PM)
For me, i would have to say the focus is on the whole experience, from this side of the kneel, anyway. Being so new, under a year, i am just trying to keep an open mind with few limits until i know where my place is in the right dynamic...

StellaByStarlite -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 6:01:26 PM)
At this point.. I can't say for sure what my focus is. Pleasing, obeying the Mister. That's top priority, but the reasons why change from day to day. That where I'm happy, so I guess it's a focus. Sorry for the vagueness.. just can't put my thoughts into words very well right now ( as usual, lol)

Griswold -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 6:03:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval What is your focus? Is it the B&D, Being in bondage or restraining people in bondage? Receiving discipline or administrating discipline? Is it the D&S? Dominating a sub/slave? Submitting to a Master/Mistress? Is it the S&M? Giving pain? Receiving pain? Or some mixture out of all this? Depends on the moment...however, if cash is involved, my ability to focus on the moment is greatly increased.

bellanotte -> RE: What is your focus? (3/26/2007 6:03:30 PM)
A mixture of them.... ranking them probably... D/s S/M B/D

onestandingstill -> RE: What is your focus? (3/27/2007 4:29:41 AM)
My focus at this time is restraint. It's learning how to take my time and bloom in the BDSM world unrushed. I'm one who goes from 0 to 100mph in seconds on things that interest me or I desire. I'm learning to take time and think through the concept before I act instead of figuring it out as I go along. I'm trying to stop analyzing everything to death and just be. You say how does that relate to BDSM? I say in BDSM this became something I consider a flaw of mine when I use to think flying by the seat of my pants was an asset. So many interactions in this BDSM lifestyle have pointed out my weaknesses to me like never before. That's why I'm working on the current one. If I had an experienced Sir in my life I would primarily focus on the D/s M/s relationship and my submission to his pleasure & if he was willing & I had a choice I think my play focus would be rope bondage, needles & medical play coupled with heavy hard impact play and a little exhibitionism thrown in for good measure. suzanne

twistedkytten -> RE: What is your focus? (3/27/2007 4:31:42 AM)
I would have to say YES!!.. lol truly it is whatever Master wishes.. and in His smile.. I am complete

Lashra -> RE: What is your focus? (3/27/2007 4:35:22 AM)
Well the order for us goes like this D/s, S&M, B&D or whatever order I feel like it at the time. ~Lashra

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