Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions

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wyldsubmissive -> Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/26/2007 11:16:34 PM)
Hello everyone. I tried to make the topic as clear as possible pertaining to this thread. I personally, when my masochism or sadism goes unappeased for a while have very negative reactions. They involve but aren't limited to: seriously twisted masturbation fantasies, short fuse, depression and general shitty-ness. There's a rumor about a fireman in some state who went on a spree of stalking and raping women because his sadism wasn't satisfied. The bad part is he never recognized the emotion for what it truly was. Thankfully enough I got a brief but thorough (spelling?!) flogging that made my cravings a little less worse. So, the question: have you had any experiences along the same lines as myself with this particular issue?

Lashra -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 2:49:02 AM)
Yes, I get very edgy and depressed when I haven't released my sadism onto my sub. He in turn gets very depressed and suffers from bad subdrop if his masochistic needs aren't met. We don't live together yet so we have weeks in between seeing each other and it is tough. We haven't seen each other in a month and half due to illness on both sides and we both are climbing the walls needless to say. ~Lashra

petdave -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 5:25:55 AM)
Yes... i've noticed that around the two-week point, i start getting very needy- the dangerous fantasies, obsesssing over ways to ask for a scene, elaborate scenarios for solo play... Around three weeks, it starts to convert into resentfulness. Reduction in attentiveness- "If i can't get these needs met, then why should i work so hard at meeting hers?" Irritability. Spend a lot of time in garage. Around four weeks, mostly guilt, focus on trying to "earn" a scene- "If i were a better sub, if i could somehow be desireable, maybe i would be worth scening with..." Depression. SI tendencies. Spend a lot of late nights in front of the computer drinking. Around five weeks, despair, usually with a total loss of desire and a bit of mental disconnect- on occasion, i've ended up actually getting to scene during this phase, and it's always ended badly because i couldn't turn the pain-pleasure connection back on. Around six weeks, the "random play" option takes over, and pretty much anything goes... quote: ORIGINAL: "Scrubs" TV show Jordan: No.... I don't know! I'm just completely hormonal! I mean, you try going from out-of-control horny to clinically depressed six times a day. Dr. Cox: Oh, gimme a break, I can knock that out on the way to work. ...dave

SirKinkster -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 5:48:24 AM)
yes I have noticed that it affects me,sometimes i just really need to beat someone.and after I feel so much better....the release it gives me is good

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 7:57:13 AM)
Most people need their happy chemicals- cigarettes, caffeine, seratonins, endorphins, all of it. Your body becomes emotionally and physically used to these patterns and when you change it, your body and emotions don't like it. You can either detox or find a way to get back on the drug. However, it's not a reasonable excuse for poor behavior, just like PMS.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 8:13:48 AM)
I have these cravings when it comes to SM, sex and blood. You're not alone. Master Fire

slave4One -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 8:19:32 AM)
Greetings A/all.... * laughing, searching madly for a lil emoticon of a pressure cooker about to blow* Very interesting topic indeed.. this girl thought it was just her weirdness. After long "dry spells" (so to speak and no pun intended lol) she becomes quite tense, tending to simply go through the motions and doing what needs done on a daily basis.. almost like being on auto-pilot, turning off (if that's entirely possible) all thoughts, fantasies etc as that just seems to make it harder for her to deal with. Then the depression hits.. not a fun place to be to say the least. Once she has been allowed that release however... it is amazingly unbelieveable... the whole scene, before, during and after; the intensity is tremendous. Then she finds however that she is soooooo sore-in places untouched- laughs from the release of tension in her body ... mostly in her neck and upper shoulders where she tends to carry all her frustrations and tension. Again, interesting post, thanks for starting it. Best wishes, ~slave

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/27/2007 12:31:36 PM)
When everday life gets in the way and a short "dry spell' hits us I do tend to get uneasy. I get a little cranky . I just keep myself occupied and know that it won't last long.

sunfleur -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/28/2007 10:41:06 AM)
i think we all need release no matter what your kink / need is. when i dont get a good beating for a while, i can get very restless, anxious, even depressed.

PONYSEEKER -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/28/2007 12:05:05 PM)
Oh yeah... after a couple of weeks I have to devote more and more energies into keeping myself in check.

kyraofMists -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/28/2007 3:48:39 PM)
I sometimes have to go months without sex or SM. I used to struggle dealing with this because I have a very high sex drive (once a day will take the edge off) and SM is entwined with my sexuality. Since I have started intense workouts at least once a week I find I no longer struggle with the edginess from missing SM. The exercise is sufficient to give me just enough of an endorphine rush to balance me out. After exercising I will call him and share my pain so that I can connect with him and give him a little enjoyment over my pain. Knight's kyra

earthycouple -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/28/2007 3:59:03 PM)
What I find is my tension increases when I've not engaged with my submissive for any length of time. It is without a doubt my stress release and relaxation. That is not to say I take out my anger or other emotions on his ass...but I know when my lower back hurts it's time for a "Hada fix" Hada is the name I gave my lovely submissive

raevnn -> RE: Masochistic/sadistic dry spell & reactions (3/28/2007 7:54:31 PM)
I get very quiet and I can focus too hard on things as a way to distract myself from that 'need' to be hurt and used. I'll feel empty, tired, and lonely sometimes. Also, because it can cause insomnia, I'll work myself into the ground with cleaning and exercising in the hopes that I'll be too exhausted not to sleep. I also tend to cry more easily. It doesn't happen very often, but it's painful when it does. I'm still not sure how to make it go away.

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