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kate -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 5:31:32 PM)

i am bi...i don't feel i am missing out when i am with a man and i dont' feel i am missing out when i am with a women.....i like both....sometimes i want one or the other.... but when i am in a relantionship i am perfectl content to have the person i am with and nobody else.........  but also content to envite others *smile*




MzMia -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 6:28:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

Nope, I do not feel I am missing out.  It just comes down to personal preference.  If I wanted to be with a woman, then I would look for a relationship that allowed that - but I am straight and being bi has no interest to me whatsoever and it is something I just have no interest and desire to do.  Would I do it for him?  No.  Because doing so would be a lie and so I choose to be honest from the start and state my preference - if he had wanted a bi woman, we wouldn't be together.  That simple.



This is also how I feel, I love the way you express yourself.[;)]




DiurnalVampire -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 6:33:58 PM)

I am bisexual.  For me, it sint a willinness to do, its more of an interest in both.  If I meet a omwan I find attractive, I wil pursue them, if I find a man I find attractive I will do the same.  I have been bi as long as I can remember, and to me it has never been much about the gender, its been about the person.  I can be perfectly content with sex with either, and with relationships with either.  I also dont have a preference, but I have had more relationships wth men than with ewomen simply becasue of availability.

DV




OsideGirl -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 6:33:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Technically, I'm what I consider to be "het-flexible". 8 times out of 10, given a choice, I'll go for a guy.


I'm the opposite. 8 out of 10 times, I'll go for the woman. It takes a really special guy to get my attention.




behindmirrors -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 6:50:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PONYSEEKER

When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing.  Not sure if I am really getting my question out really effectivly but I guess it boils down to ... do most woman feel something missing when they are asked to be strait?


I'm bisexual, and you have raised some interesting points here. I've been involved in long-term relationships with both men and women, and I agree with the point made earlier that it has a lot more to do with the person than the gender.
I don't think I would feel I was really missing out, but I don't think I would be able to stop being attracted to those of the opposite gender who I found appealing, either- though I would not pursue a relationship or play with them without the full okay from my current partner, and much discussion/negotiation first.
I've been fully capable of maintaining monogamous relationships with one partner, and fully capable of maintaining relationships with multiple partners or a partner who was okay with my preferences for others of a different gender and allowed me to act on that. It has a lot more to do with the relationship(s) involved, at least for me- and what level of comfort is involved between the people in question.
It's one of those situations where you see where you end up, I suppose- and think about what your own priorities are, as well as those of the person you're involved with.
behindmirrors.




Driver1961 -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 7:08:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I like to say that the only difference between a heterosexual man and a bisexual man is that a bisexual will also get turned on by both males and females.  Otherwise, they are the same when it comes to forming and having relationships- this includes fidelity and desire.


LuckyAlbatross-  I like your words here,  cos it is so true, the respect travels to either sex regardless and in my case where My Precious regards herself as bi, I see the fidelity and desire to be the same in her not because I am her Dom  but because she is her with her values. (Double dutch to some but I get it!)

Well this is a nice thread and obviously provides some clarification for those with the big ? on their status of thinking.

Warm regards to all.

P.S. MasterFireMam-  your post allows my thoughts to digress but distance is such a factor!


 




AquaticSub -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 8:45:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PONYSEEKER

Okay stupid ignorant question time. 
I am not that big of a fan when it comes to the idea of sharring my sub with another woman.  I have had my share of threesomes and moresomes when I was younger and have been played out with it so to speak and I much prefer the one on one experience (unless of course its a humilliation thing which somehow makes everything okay...LOL).
When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing.  Not sure if I am really getting my question out really effectivly but I guess it boils down to ... do most woman feel something missing when they are asked to be strait?


I don't claim to be bi, I am bi. I crave women as well as men. Valyraen does not ask me to be straight. He asks me to be monogamous. However, I do not feel denied any more then a straight man does at being asked to be monogamous. I would like to sleep with particular woman, but I do not feel a desire to sleep with any old women. But there are still men I would like to sleep with. It's simply that I would rather have my relationship.




Sirandlittle1 -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 9:38:58 PM)

im bi, i dont miss out at all. Im attracted to being intimate with certain people. How they identify doesnt put me off. Just makes it either more or less likely to happen. I consider there to be more than two genders by way of explanation. And infinate variations past the gender issue such as sexuality that make it even more complex.

The sorts of people i am attracted to in both male and females, do however have many similarities in the way they express themselves, carry themselves, project themselves, that are just sexy. Simple. Sexy is not a gender issue.
And when im in a relationship, then im monogamous, so i can window shop, but dont touch.

little1




Calandra -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 10:45:15 PM)

Stephan,
 
There is clinical proof that humans "need" each other. In a study done back during WWII they closely followed two different orphanages. One was affluent, and had a larger staff than the other, so the babies were held and talked to. The other was strapped and though the babies received identical food, shelter and other forms of care, the nurses and aides were not able to stop and spend time with each child.
 
As I understand it, the mortality rate was four times higher than the rate of the more affluent facility. It's called "failure to thrive" and is a recognized syndrome now.
 
Now a person can live on a desert island without people around, but he would suffer grave psychological damage the longer he lived in those circumstances.
 
I "need" people in My life. I need women and men, and family friends, and associates. You may not see it that way, but Your views do not impact My reality, as Mine likely don't impact yours. I "need" both male and female partners to be truly happy and satisfied - which was what the OP asked.




TheShadows -> RE: bisexual woman (3/27/2007 11:01:59 PM)

I also identify as hetero-flexible.  I've had a few mild sexual interactions with women in the context of a scene or my ownership of them, and they were nice, but not something I have to have to be happy.  If given the choice, I would choose a man over a woman 9 times outta 10 for a vanilla relationship.  BUT, I am the exact opposite when it comes to choosing play partners or slaves.  Clear as mud?

As always, YMMV...

~MrsShadows~




FelinePersuasion -> RE: bisexual woman (3/28/2007 12:42:04 AM)

i am bisexual, and yes it means I desire and want women as well as men, and it's not merely an I could do that thing. women turn me on *now mind you noy ALL w*omen, but not ALL men turn me on either*their tasty and succulent, and I'd better stop before I get all horny before bed.

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ORIGINAL: PONYSEEKER

When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing. 




eyesopened -> RE: bisexual woman (3/28/2007 2:36:05 AM)

A lot of women will say they are bi because it is expected that they will be asked to perform with another female at one time or another and they feel they need to be bi in order to attract a Dom.   i laugh when i hear Doms describe their subs as "very bi" which to me means his sub will not only perform but actually like it.  i will perform if my Master told me to but i would consider it as pleasant as cleaning out the gutters, a chore i would not do if i didn't have to.  i have never and would never declare myself "bi" 




Rayne58 -> RE: bisexual woman (3/28/2007 5:47:35 AM)

I identify as a bi woman, but I can't see myself ever having a (live in) relationship with a female. I define myself as being 70% attracted to men, 30% to women.

I only started exploring this side of my sexuality about 4 years ago. I've found that I really enjoy the softness and sensuality of another woman. I have a female friend I see a couple of times a month for some fun - and Master is quite happy for me to have my fun without Him being present. He has said that when I return home I always have a "glow" about me - and He usually reaps the benefits of that glow [;)][:D]




slaveluci -> RE: bisexual woman (3/28/2007 10:09:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I am bisexual and I have a desires of men and women. I am open to forming relationships with both. I desire women as much as I do men. I have been owned by Mistresses in the past and had girlfriends.  Now, I am owned by a man and have girlfriends as lovers as well as friends. Being bi for me isn't something I could give up, I have a strong desire and attraction to both men and women. It isn't something one just gives up. It is a part of who I am.

i very much agree with you.  i was straight up through and including my college years insofar that i had no sexual experiences with other females but it's NOT that i didn't often fantasize about it.  When i finally did begin having such experiences, i found i loved it as much (but a bit differently) than i ever had "straight" sex.  That was many years ago and, for years, i have identified as bisexual.  i am very attracted to lots of different types of women, more so than lots of different types of men.  i am Master's now and He has been very clear from the beginning that He does not share with other men.  i accept that because i don't have that desire anyway.  However, He understands that i am indeed very bisexual and would be missing out on a very fulfilling part of life if denied the chance to be with other women.  (Not that He minds either, LOL).   But, He is not accepting of this desire of mine just so that He can participate as well.  Sure, He will, but He has made it clear that i am permitted to have relationships with other women in addition to O/our relationship, even if He is not actively involved sexually.  The experience of being with another woman is just so wonderful.  i couldn't imagine being denied that and thankfully i have not been.  i found it quite laughable the other day reading a post about how any sub/slave female who advertises for other females is simply being "conned" and out "pimping" for her Master.  How mistaken that sentiment is.  It may be true for some or even many but not for this slave.  i asked Master to be able to advertise for other female subs/slaves with whom to play - it was not at His suggestion or command..............
slave luci




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