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bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 11:51:44 AM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		Okay stupid ignorant question time. 
I am not that big of a fan when it comes to the idea of sharring my sub with another woman.  I have had my share of threesomes and moresomes when I was younger and have been played out with it so to speak and I much prefer the one on one experience (unless of course its a humilliation thing which somehow makes everything okay...LOL).
When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing.  Not sure if I am really getting my question out really effectivly but I guess it boils down to ... do most woman feel something missing when they are asked to be strait?
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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 11:58:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi,

Obviously, I'm not a bisexual woman, but I'll offer this up for grabs: just because you walk into a bar where there are five women who are attractive, do you feel driven to sleep with at least two of them?  Do you feel something is missing from your life because you've only got one woman?

Bisexual doesn't necessarily mean polyamorous.  Poly doesn't necessarily mean bi, either.  I think you'll have a lot more success finding monogamous women who share your interests, than the men who are only looking for poly girls (ironically.)  Talk about how you feel regarding fidelity, early on, and I think you'll be pleasently surprised.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:01:09 PM   
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Nope, I do not feel I am missing out.  It just comes down to personal preference.  If I wanted to be with a woman, then I would look for a relationship that allowed that - but I am straight and being bi has no interest to me whatsoever and it is something I just have no interest and desire to do.  Would I do it for him?  No.  Because doing so would be a lie and so I choose to be honest from the start and state my preference - if he had wanted a bi woman, we wouldn't be together.  That simple.


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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:05:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yup, by my way of thinking, Stephan has it right... or perhaps there are 'degrees of bi'.
 
I've been with women from time to time since I was in my early 30s (long before bdsm found me)...and I find them lucious!  Omg.....and kissing; their lips and chins are sooooooooo soft... but I digress.
 
Maybe I’m mostly hetro…or maybe I’m just mostly monogomus… I prefer one on one for the most part and do not want to be shared.  However, if I had a Dom and we both discovered we were very attracted to a girl; I rather like the idea of extending the ‘family’ to include her and the three of us filling the bed like a pile o’ puppies.
 
On the other hand, when playing with friends once, the guys kinda decided I should go down on the other woman (a good friend of mine)…and I just couldn’t.  I had no feelings for her ‘that way’…thank the gods I was not owned by anybody; I got to say no.
 
But, that’s just me…and I still choke on that ‘slut’ thang; dammit.
 
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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:17:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Bisexual means- open to forming intimate relationships with both males and females as opposed to only males or only females.

Anything else depends on the person.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:19:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can only answer for Myself, but I guess there truly are "degrees of bi". For Me, if someone said "choose to be with only men , or only women for the rest of your life."  I simply couldn't. I love the male form, masculine charateristics, warm aftershave, and someone who can change My tire if I get a flat. I also love the softness of a female body, the seductiveness of her voice, sharing fashion and shopping and cooking, perfume, lace, lingerie.

I would feel like I was missing something if I could not be with BOTH male and female partners, so poly is the ONLY way that provides for My needs. Yup, thats right, NEEDS.

I realize that other women are genuinely passive about this issue, but I can't be... ~shrugs~ 

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:26:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am bisexual and I have a desires of men and women. I am open to forming relationships with both. I desire women as much as I do men. I have been owned by Mistresses in the past and had girlfriends.  Now, I am owned by a man and have girlfriends as lovers as well as friends. Being bi for me isn't something I could give up, I have a strong desire and attraction to both men and women. It isn't something one just gives up. It is a part of who I am.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:27:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I enjoy both men and women, so I fall under the "bi" label. Technically, I'm what I consider to be "het-flexible". 8 times out of 10, given a choice, I'll go for a guy. But, sometimes, a woman comes along that just does it for me. It's not about sharing and it's not about a show for someone else.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:33:48 PM   
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Oh geezeeeeeee... was it because of THIS thread I just got e-mail from some girl in a country I've never heard of?  Where the heck is Benin and why would a 'straight' girl send a single word note to me?  Hello?
 
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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:38:27 PM   
slavegirljoy


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Status: offline 		i'm sure, like everything else, there is no one blanket answer to your question. 
 
As for me, every Dom i have ever had a relationship with, ALWAYS wanted me to have sex with another woman.  i always complied, even though i never had any sexual attraction to women.  i did it because i am a very compliant submissive and have never said "No" to anything my Dom told me to do.  So, i called myself bisexual, simply because i was not opposed  to having sex with women, for the purpose of pleasing my Master. 
 
However, in the past couple of years, i have found myself with a growing desire to having an intimate bisexual relationship with another woman.  Now, it's both my Master and me who wants to include another woman in O/our relationship, whether as a girlfriend or another bi female sub or a bi Domme to enjoy sex with and intimacy with, things like cuddling and kissing, which are things that my Master (and no other Dom i have ever been with) enjoys.
 
So, basically, my answer to your question is "Yes" to both parts  i will muff dive for the pleasure of my Dom and i would like to have an ongoing, intimate bisexual relationship with a woman to add elements to my personal life that are currently missing. 
 
Hope my answer to your question is as clear as your question was.
 
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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 12:48:25 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		Hello Calandra,

I tend to think of such things as "Desires" or "Expectations"; need, for me, tends to be bare necessities.  I simply don't need another person in my life, to be happy.  Thus, having the right woman, and the right friends in my life enhances it.

Warm regards,

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 1:47:11 PM   
tricia


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Status: offline 		I’m a bisexual woman –  I enjoy being intimate with women on occasion.  My primary relationship is always going to be with a dominant male.
 
Personally, I don’t have any desire to be a women whose only objective is to please their Master – just as I wouldn’t want to be with a man who only pretended to be dominant a few hours out of the day or a gay man pretending to find me attractive.
 
I’m not putting these women down as I would be intimate with women solely on the basis of my Master wanting me to be, as well….I just seek women who can truly appreciate the experience beyond this factor.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 2:38:48 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		ponyseeker,

for me, being bisexual means that i find men and women both attractive in an intimate way, and i am capable of forming intimate connections (sexual, romantic, what have you) with both. this does not necessarily mean that i need to have both at once, by any means (although i am in a polyamorous relationship, i have been monogamous in the past and could see myself possibly being monogamous were i ever to be with another primary partner). it also does not mean that i need to have threesomes, by any means. that said, i quite enjoy having romantic and sexual relationships with both men and women, and although i've never had a threesome, it is something i've always wanted to do. but neither of those things are necessarily, for me; i am -capable- of monogamy.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 2:46:10 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PONYSEEKER


When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing.  Not sure if I am really getting my question out really effectivly but I guess it boils down to ... do most woman feel something missing when they are asked to be strait?


I know many women that identify as being Bisexual simply because they are open minded to playing with other women to spice things up in the bedroom or to entertain their lovers girl-girl fantasy.  *imo* that doesn’t make someone Bi.   Yes, I do identify as being Bisexual.  I am just as sexually and mentally attracted to women as I am to men and I could see myself in a devoted relationship with either sex.  As for "missing" something because I don't currently have a female lover, No. 


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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 2:50:43 PM   
PONYSEEKER


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Status: offline 		Wow, thanks for all the replies ... it gives me a lot to ponder about.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 2:51:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		i agree with Calandra. i can only answer for myself and i consider myself bi. i have asked myself which sex i like better and i honestly can not answer. men r firm and strong while women r soft and cuddly. i do not mean to say i need a man to do things.. but they r fun to play with and they can do things women can not do. im not some full sub and i doubt i will ever be. i must speak my mind. i feel if i only had one sex, be it male or female, for the rest of my life i would go insane. disagree with me if u want but this is my opinion and mine alone.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 4:58:02 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PONYSEEKER

Okay stupid ignorant question time. 
I am not that big of a fan when it comes to the idea of sharring my sub with another woman.  I have had my share of threesomes and moresomes when I was younger and have been played out with it so to speak and I much prefer the one on one experience (unless of course its a humilliation thing which somehow makes everything okay...LOL).
When a woman claims that she is bi... does this mean that she is open minded enough to do a muff dive or does it mean that she from time to time desires another woman.... in other words is there really a true bisexual woman that craves other woman as well as men or is it .... a capable of doing kind of thing.  Not sure if I am really getting my question out really effectivly but I guess it boils down to ... do most woman feel something missing when they are asked to be strait?


 ~Interesting thought, Ponyseeker~
 
I do have bisexual on my profile, just to let it be known in an elementary fashion that I like men and women...However, I personally consider myself a heterosexual woman that has an open mind, depth and the sensuality to enjoy women, among a huge list of other things.
 
For me personally, having a woman in a relationship is not a necessity, it's a fringe benefit. 
 
My needs are in having a Master.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 5:06:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is a very interesting thread.  A topic I have been tossing around my head.  I've wondered for years if I were bisexual.  In my early twenties I had a couple of experiences with a female; a friend of mine.  Back then I decided I was not bi because it really did nothing for me.  Didn't turn me on; didn't turn me off.  But, I was not sexually attracted to her.  I may have felt the same if it were a male that I wasn't attracted too. I do see women from time to time that I am attracted too.  Recently I had a strong desire to kiss a friend of mine when we were out..she's so pretty and I felt turned on.  So I've been wondering again.  I do not feel a need to have an ongoing intimate relationship with her;but, I definately would not be opposed to once in while.  Right now all of this is confusing to me.  Lol.  I consider myself monogamous and then these urges come up.  I certainly wouldn't want to share.  Tacs or my friend.....I'm muddled.  One thing is true though; I don't feel like something is missing from my life by being straight and monogamous.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 5:11:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		As with anything else it depends on the person.  My little one is bi and sexually is attracted to men and women.  She has stated before she doesn't think she could ever have a one on one relationship strictly with a woman, that would have to be with a man.  But, put her in a triad with another woman and a man and she happily fits right in.

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RE: bisexual woman - 3/27/2007 5:23:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like to say that the only difference between a heterosexual man and a bisexual man is that a bisexual will also get turned on by both males and females.  Otherwise, they are the same when it comes to forming and having relationships- this includes fidelity and desire.

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