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MaamJay -> RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have posted by the door so all that enter may be under (3/28/2007 7:04:58 PM)
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At Our last home, We hosted parties for a local group. Potential new members had to attend a munch first or be brought by established members who were prepared to vouch for them and inform them ahead of time of the protocols. We posted play party protocols (a nicer word than rules We thought) in the e-group's files and they covered the following topics:
1. Clothing (for Us, fetish clothing wasn't compulsory, basic black was a good option, as parking at Our house was all off-street on Our large property, covering up wasn't necessary but watch out for high heels on uneven ground!)
2. Safe words, SSC/RACK, possible protection collar from hosts for new subs
3. Etiquette about not disturbing scenes, don't touch unless invited, don't talk/ask loud questions, not a spectator sport, role of Dungeon Monitors, ask them or hosts about any equipment you are unsure of how to use, BYO and use your own intimate equipment (insertion toys, impact toys) or ask before you borrow
4. Photographs (not allowed unless with permission of hosts and those to be photographed, care taken with backgrounds)
5. What happens in the Dungeon stays in the Dungeon ... no gossiping or outing others after the event, whether in person or online, even in our e-group
6. No drugs, limited alcohol (BYO), no play if obviously under the influence, smoking outdoors in one area only, use ashtrays (bushfire risk), don't leave door open so smoke gets inside, food and drink in kitchen and supper alcove only - none in Dungeon unless part of scene (ask permission for that), clean up after your play (top grade disinfectant and paper towels etc in 2 stations within the Dungeon, as was the first aid kit), use the aftercare area (a sofa/chairs equipped with a blanket in a quiet part of the Dungeon) for its intended purpose
7. Don't go into other areas labelled PRIVATE without permission
8. Disclaimer about all care and no responsibility ... you play under your own cognisance etc.
We were fortunate in having a huge airconditioned shed with 2 toilets, a shower, a supper area, a kitchen and a very large Dungeon space some 50 metres from the main house and parking for at least 30 cars on Our 5 acres, so it was very easy to host parties. Nudity was fine, watersports could be done in the shower (that door could be closed for such scenes as there was another toilet available), and equipment for general use was clearly labelled. We used signage to designate the different areas and to remind people of some things such as not leaving the door to the smoking area open, and the intended use of the aftercare area (nonplaying people tend to sit and talk there, that was one "rule" that was difficult to maintain). It seems like a lot, but people appreciated having the chance to read them before attending as We found most were more apprehensive about accidentally breaking some unknown rule. It was clear that these protocols were for the good of everyone attending so no one objected to any of them. It also made it easier having distinct socialising areas separate from the Dungeon play space as some people came along only to socialise on some occasions. We had some great play happening too. We were OK with needle play as long as people were appropriately equipped with sharps containers etc and generally there was minimal blood appropriately dealt with. Many times Dom/mes would happily turn such scenes into impromptu workshops and show others how to do needle play, fire play, fire cupping, correct use of a cane etc although there was no pressure on them to do so. We all learned a lot from each other.
Maam Jay
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