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What rules should a good host or hostess have posted by... - 3/28/2007 10:02:24 AM

SirDiscipliner69

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What rules should a good host or hostess have posted by the door so all that enter may be under the same the same understanding and arrangements?

Rules concerning behaviou

spanking

rights of submissives

rites of submissives

group play

dominant's responsibilites

use of toys

aftercare

playground

dungeon master

health

neighborhood

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:05:44 AM

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Leave your shoes at the door.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:17:37 AM

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Welll....

I dunno.. are we talking about a private home here?

If I spotted a list of rules tacked by the door upon entering.. my first initial reaction would be " Man, these folks sound like real drags. I should have brought my Entertainment Weekly"

Maybe a rule list wouldn't be the ideal way to let others in on the scoop of household expectations.

To me, that would be like having the blissfully wedded couple post The Rules over the rented hall entrance. Ok, strike that..I've been to some pretty wacked out wedding receptions, that may not be such a bad idea. =)

Seriously tho', I'm more in favor of just talking to the invited people about what's expected of them, rather then a list.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:20:11 AM

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If I spotted a list of rules tacked by the door upon entering.. my first initial reaction would be " Man, these folks sound like real drags. I should have brought my Entertainment Weekly"

Perhaps you go to different parties....perhaps...

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:20:22 AM

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I would never put rules up in my house before people come in. 'Mi casa su casa' is my motto. I actually think i would find it a little offensive and insulting that people would think i didnt know how to behave if i entered a house with rules up.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:24:30 AM

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Our home is not a public dungeon so a list of rules such as the ones you describe would be a bit tacky..and insulting to our guests.

Guests to our home are our friends and family. If they have a question about what to do or how to act I hope they would ask.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:37:24 AM

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When I have attended play parties, there was always a sign saying that everything would be under the law of SSC and stating the house safe word. I intend to do the same at my own parties when I am able to host them.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:39:30 AM

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the house safe word.

Pineapple?

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:41:56 AM

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ROFLMAO!!!! Yeah for the intern!

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:43:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

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the house safe word.

Pineapple?

Mine's Santa Clause care to use that one troll?

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:43:50 AM

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In my past dungeon parties, we all talked about house "guidelines", W/we took turns
at each others dungeons, after a while, everyone knew and new players were
talked to and given a chance to voice their opinions at the pre-play dinner.

When i had large more open parties, the Domme wife and i would moniter
activities, never had any trouble at all. Most players are very respectful at
other peoples houses.
If i had to publish something, i would print out about 3 "guidelines" max,
nothing over-welming, but covering safety and play.
"House Rules" does sound kinda harse, but wouldn't most everyone take
it for what it is ... i wouldn't be offended by seeing that at all., or even signing/initialling

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:44:01 AM

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quote:

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the house safe word.

Pineapple?

The pineapple is a symbol of hospitality.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:47:22 AM

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Why do I get this sudden hot flash when the gorgeous babes offer me stuff? Is there a wankers anonymous?

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:52:49 AM

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I think the rules should be pretty simple.
For example the list may be something like

A disclaimer stating you are not responsible if someone is injured playing with another guest.
Ask someone before you touch them if it's OK and remember no means no or you will be removed if you force things
No blood flying all over the place.
No fire play except if expressed permission is given by the host.
Don't interfere with others scenes uninvited.
Don't go outside naked as the neighbors may not like it.
Clean up behind your scenes or have the sub you played with do it.
and lastly Have fun.
Other than that I think as far as sub general rules, rights of a sub, group play, after care & health that should be up to the individual Dom and the sub he came with to decide or the D/s who decide to engagein play there. I think it's the responsibility ofthe Dom to communicate to the host if need be anyhting that needs to be addressed.
Stag subs should still be respectful and have the right to choose who at the event they wanted to play with and who not.

If you wanted to do a theme party where all subs were to be held to a universal set of rules and be allowed to be used by any Dom there, I think that needs to be communicated way before the people Dom or sub get to the door of the event.
Those kind of special terms of engagement should be on the invitation to attend, not to be hit with once you've gotten there.
suzanne

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:53:38 AM

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not bad ...especially the flying blood

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:58:07 AM

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not bad ...especially the flying blood

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Thanks Ross

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 10:59:55 AM

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not bad ...especially the flying blood

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Thanks Ross

you are welcome...but remember I am just acting cool and foolish

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 11:01:51 AM

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Rules tend to get posted because someone in the past decided it would be niffty to do the thing the rule is about and it ended up not being so niffty. I've been to many different events/parts/what-nots that instituted all sorts of rules. Some lax, some not so lax. Hell, there have been a few homes in which one had to sign a copy of the rules and/or waiver before entering.

This is always a good one: clothing is optional if you have the choice.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 11:05:27 AM

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Having attended, and hosted, a private home party or two in my time, I can't say I ever saw or read any formal "rules". It takes a personal invitation to get invited to a private home party. A personal invitation requires some knowledge of the person. Courtesy and "adult" behavior, along with personal responsibility are expected. Adult in quotes, because people can expect "adult" beverages, "adult" activity, and some "adult" movies may be shown on video media. The personal aspect of the invitation usually makes those coming know what to expect. The one "rule" usually inquired about most is smoking and if it is allowed where, in CA the question of "what" also is in play per the host's discretion. That's about the only thing any host should be concerned. If the host needs to publish and get a signature on "house rules" he/she should think again about having a party and/or who is invited.

Specific activities that involve any fluids or wax or anything that have the potential of making a "mess" should be referred to the host. The factors of "Adult", "personal responsibility", and "courtesy" once again being expected. From experience a "mess" is more likely to occur from a spilled drink that wasn't planned, than a wax scene that was.

We're hosting a party next month. There won't be any written "rules" published but beth will greet all with the house rule - "HAVE FUN!" I'll play the "enforcer" role. Oh and there is one other. Following my pool man's advice - No bathing suits allowed in the pool or jacuzzi because the dye in bathing suits is very bad for the filter and heater.

PS - I, for one, am looking forward to the completion of your dissertation paper.

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RE: What rules should a good host or hostess have poste... - 3/28/2007 11:08:11 AM

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Rules tend to get posted because someone in the past decided it would be niffty to do the thing the rule is about and it ended up not being so niffty. I've been to many different events/parts/what-nots that instituted all sorts of rules. Some lax, some not so lax. Hell, there have been a few homes in which one had to sign a copy of the rules and/or waiver before entering.

This is always a good one: clothing is optional if you have the choice.

Usually dispersed via email beforehand ...

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