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CreativeDominant -> RE: no sex or affection (3/28/2007 6:07:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
How many of you would scene with someone on a regular basis where both sex and affection were hard limits?
I wouldn't do it. I've done scenes inside a club where sex was not permitted and so the urge was set aside until it could be satisfied later in more private surroundings. In terms of affection, I have finally come to understand that for some into receiving pain and for some into giving pain that becoming affectionate afterwards drapes a cold blanket over a simmering fire. While I understand it, it is exactly why I would not play with someone who felt that way. I want someone who wants to be touched and/or held afterwards and I freely admit that after turning my dark side to her, I need some affectionate human contact also to bring me out of that space.
I tend to want to play with a masochistic submissive whose masochism is almost fully explained, though not completely, by these definitions:
Pleasure derived from physical or psychological pain inflicted on oneself either by oneself or by others. It is called sexual masochism and classified as a paraphilia when it is consciously sought as a part of the sexual act or as a prerequisite to sexual gratification. It is the converse of sadism, although the two tend to coexist in the same person.
www.indianpsychiatry.com/Glossary.htm
A sexual variation in which the individual derives sexual pleasure from experiencing pain.
www.sexualcounselling.com/Glossary/Glossarym.htm
Where sexual gratification is acheived by pain
www.panteraconsulting.com/sexual_words_3.htm
sexual pleasure obtained from receiving punishment (physical or psychological)
wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
Sadism is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. Medically it is considered to be a paraphilia. The word is derived from the name of the Marquis de Sade, a prolific French writer of sadistic novels.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masochism
Since I am a sadistic dominant whose sadism is explained, at least to a great extent though not all, by the following definitions:
The word “sadism” was coined to describe the writings of Donatien-Alphonse-Francois, the Marquis de Sade. Sadism is a sexual perversion where one person gains gratification by inflicting physical or mental pain on others. It can also mean a delight in torment or excessive cruelty. Example: In his book, 120 Days of Sodom, the Marquis describes and justifies acts of sexual perversion:
www.georgiasouthern.edu/~dougt/goth.html
Named after the French author and sadist, the Marquis de Sade (1740-1814), sadism refers to deriving sexual pleasure from the infliction of pain, fear, and/or humiliation in the context of sexual activity. Muted sadism reflects underlying sadistic fantasy, often played out symbolically, with a relative absence of aggression. Muted sadists appear to be higher in social competence than overt sadists, with increased social skills mollifying the aggression.
www.forensicexaminers.com/terminology.html
A sexual variation in which the person derives sexual pleasure from inflicting pain on someone else.
www.4sexual-pleasure.com/definitions.html
sexual pleasure obtained by inflicting harm (physical or psychological) on others
wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
Sadism is the sexual pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person. Medically it is considered to be a paraphilia. The word is derived from the name of the Marquis de Sade, a prolific French writer of sadistic novels.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadism
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