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RE: Learning humility and being humble - 4/2/2007 9:42:02 PM

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Totally beautiful post sweet! Thank you. Mental and emotional submission is the ultimate for me. Physical just is not enough. I do it willingly because nothing less seems fulfilling enough. I need to give my all to him. Whatever he wishes me to do, as I know he will not damage me....I am very willing to do. Even if it is embarrassing to me at first, I am a shy person, but we are working on that.

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RE: Learning humility and being humble - 4/3/2007 2:15:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

This has been my downfall. It's so lacking within my personality that it has caused so many problems and directly led to the end of a nice relationship. In the past I haven't had the ability to admit that I've been unable to handle things on my own and that I've needed help. I took the hard route and instead of just saying help I allowed all kinds of passive aggressive feelings and pride rule my thinking, my words and my actions. By the time I realized that the only way for this to work was to admit my weaknesses to him, it was too late and too much damage was done. He had no desire to be involved with my emotional rollercoaster and I can't really blame him for that. I've learned that humilty needs to be balanced with my pride. Too much of either can be disasterous.

Thats so sad :(

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RE: Learning humility and being humble - 4/3/2007 2:31:58 PM

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Being humble is having the ability to except there is always more to learn, to experience or see. It is to appreciate beauty both in appearance and personality when you see it. When things go wrong being humble is to carry on regardless because really you're not as bad off as others.

I view being humble is not putting yourself on a pedalstool... recognising when someone is better than you at something and never complaining cos it really could be worse. Last of all it is to be thankful for all you have and appreciation for it cos it might be gone tomorrow.

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RE: Learning humility and being humble - 4/3/2007 3:56:07 PM

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i find that it's an on-going thing. It never stops, probably because you never stop, either ... or hopefully never.

i find humbleness/humility to be a very gracious state, in myself and in others.

That state alone is very beautiful, and is reason enough to engage in BDSM activities - or do anything to achieve it. It's addictive, and you feel miserable without it. Life is so mundane and pointless without it; you move through the world miserably and truly alone as a function of your own problems.

Yes, there is a SHINE to it, and at it's peak, is nearly tangible, like you could cup your hands and they would be filled with this beatiful, golden, sparkling state of grace from this other person. One of my girlfriends was like this - incredibly - when she would stop trying to be stubborn or witty or smart-assed or competitive or all-the-other-things-nobody-really-wants-to-be, and she just let go and let me love her and fully accepted it all into her. (10 years, and she couldn't see or understand when she was happiest. The alchohol didn't help either - that got real bad.)

Happy. Fulfilled. Satisfied.
State-of-Grace.

i get all messed up in being caught up with myself, which is just too easy for me to fall into. So i tend to need something external to re-align me. Oh, am i thankful for that. "Thank-You, i feel MUCH better now :) "
i feel Human again.
Being bratty, or dispicable in whatever way, is a real sign of misery, is without question 'pushing buttons' to get "re-aligned", and is evidence of someone needing a serious beating, so they can be happy again.

But i have achieved that State as a 'Dom/top', and it is beautiful, still. So i want my Domme to be that way, too. But i'll accept a Domme who can't achieve that State ... because i probably will

that's so selfish, isn't it?

To me, that's the whole point of everything. There is nothing more beautiful than that, and nothing more beautiful than two people being that way together, and sharing that much beauty and love.

- richard "puppy"

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RE: Learning humility and being humble - 4/6/2007 6:37:38 PM

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I think being humble and humility come from an awareness that there are other people in this world and they are,and will be different.

My experience teaches me that these qualities in a Dominant make for a very fine Dominant.

And I really feel that as a submissive if you find humility in a Dominant if you don't follow this example then you don't deserve to be with that Dominant.

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If you can't be a good example then you'll just have to be a horrible warning.

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