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From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 9:39:57 AM   
sensitivesoul


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Status: offline 		Having been on a wonderfull journey for the past 3 years with my Owner and Master i have been pondering this question today and would much appreciate any responses.
Last saturday my Master made a joke about an adequate performance from me. when i asked and even pushed to qualify this he replied that he could never criticise me as he only ever wanted me to be myself. i told him he had made a statement even though in jeste and i would seriously like to know how i could please him more. The response i got made everything clear. He encourages , nurtures and cares for me, enabling me to find the confidence to be all that i am and i grow daily. i sit here blown away at what he gives me and to please Him, serve Him and be His seems such a small gift in return.
i am trying to understand what He gets from this. Any help would be much appreciated
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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 9:50:21 AM   
MistressNoName


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Status: offline 		The first word that came to my mind was "Satisfaction." There is a certain satisfaction in watching the learning process unfold before one's eyes. "Gratification," is another word that just popped up. One receives a gratifying feeling as one watches one's submissive receive instruction, learn and grow...even in the face of that submissive making mistakes. It's all part of the process, that if you value it and are able to put it in proper perspective, can be very rewarding.

But this is just my opinion...you should perhaps engage your Master in another discussion on this topic. It might be rewarding for you both.

MNN

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 10:22:12 AM   
sunfleur


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Status: offline 		i am trying to understand what He gets from this. Any help would be much appreciated
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I'd come right out and ask him what he gets from this.   i often like to know things from the Dom's side.  especially when i was a newbie.. i'd often ask.. what's it like for you to flog?  is it tiring?  exciting?  turn on? boring?     asking questions is a sign of intelligence and caring.  that alone will let your Master know how much you are and wish to grow and please Him.

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 10:23:50 AM   
sensitivesoul


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Status: offline 		He tells me the same, He loves the responsibility, the feed back, the control, the satisfaction and the gratification. It just feels like i could never give as much as he gives me.

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 10:27:27 AM   
sensitivesoul


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Status: offline 		Thank you sunfleur
I know the sexual pleasure he gets but the other rewards from being my Master?

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 10:52:59 AM   
MistressNoName


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ORIGINAL: sensitivesoul

He tells me the same, He loves the responsibility, the feed back, the control, the satisfaction and the gratification. It just feels like i could never give as much as he gives me.


And believe it or not, sensitivesoul, that too, can be part of the satisfaction he derives from your service. Knowing just how much and how deeply you wish to serve and please him.

If he is ever truly dissatisfied with your service, I'm sure he will let you know. Right now, tho, you may need to figure out how to live with the feeling of deeply desiring to please him, doing everything in your power to do that and realizing at the same time, that after all is said and done, you are only human and can only do so much. See, it seems like your Master already knows this. And as the process unfolds, hopefully, you will come to understand this as well.

All the best,

MNN

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 10:59:53 AM   
mstrjx


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ORIGINAL: sensitivesoul

He tells me the same, He loves the responsibility, the feed back, the control, the satisfaction and the gratification. It just feels like i could never give as much as he gives me.


My 'way' is very similar to this.  I do not seem to ask for much, yet take great pleasure, even if it's not immediately evident, in watching the fortunes of my partner unfold.  There is a great 'rush' during the control, but that isn't easily discerned.

The only thing I might add to this list, which I think sums it all up, is 'pride'.  I am proud to be able to be part of her journey, and given her one that few would dare try.  I am proud of 'her' pride in her own evolution and awakening.  And of course I am proud to be so lucky to be with one as devoted.

All very 'quiet', but it definitely comes out in ways that encourage the process even more.

Jeff

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 12:14:31 PM   
hawkwolf7


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Status: offline 		All the words used here are correct, but perhaps an analogy would help?

Consider the pride and joy of a parent when their child takes their first steps, says their first word, or graduates from college. Your master's feelings are (probably) the same or similar. The parent knows that they didn't do it, but they enabled and supported the child's success, and can share in it. At the same time, the parent is intensely proud of the child. And if the process has been a struggle for the child, the success is all that more poignant.

Taken all together, it is a wonderful feeling to have; and a very fullfilling place to live.

HawkWolf

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 12:27:01 PM   
onestandingstill


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ORIGINAL: sensitivesoul

i am trying to understand what He gets from this. Any help would be much appreciated

Maybe what he gets as being your patient Master is the ability to watch his influence free you from the parts of you that prevent you from flying free on your own, or knowing who you were before you submitted vs the wonderful creature you are as his sub has something to do with it.
Think about it like this.
If you were a teacher in school and the kids soaked up your lessons like warm butter is soaked up by bread wouldn't you have immesurable self confidence and joy at watching your actions benefit your students and change them in the very core of their selves.
Another analogy would be you as a sub. If you slaved all day cleaning the house spotless, painstakengly dressed for him, prepared his favoirte meal, and in turn had an evening with him where you could see how much he loved, enjoyed and respected the work you did on his behalf to please him wouldn't that just make all the effort and work you put into making him happy bring you a sense of self accomplishment and joy?
Like others say here we can only venture to guess why your Master likes it.
You should ask him what it is he likes about it as it could be lots of things.
suzanne
Knowing you make an incredilbe difference in someone is a very gratifying thing.

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RE: From Your point of view - 3/29/2007 12:29:43 PM   
Lashra


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ORIGINAL: sensitivesoul

Thank you sunfleur
I know the sexual pleasure he gets but the other rewards from being my Master?

Watching you bloom and live happily under his guidance. To know that he has had a positive influence on your life makes it all worth it. Those are biggies for me and perhaps they are for him as well.

~Lashra


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RE: From Your point of view - 3/30/2007 12:52:14 AM   
sensitivesoul


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your responses. Much of what you have said he has, from time to time, reflected back to me. i think i am very absorbed in being His sub and sometimes need to take a step back to look at things from His perspective, enabling me to be better sub to Him.

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