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Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:02:19 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Will be locking up my subs manhood this weekend. It marks a big step for us in that i will be "taking possession" of him as mine at that point.  I want to make this special, with some ceremony, similar to a collaring. I ahve some ideas, but would look forward to hearing others....from all sides please. If you have done this before or not.

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:09:07 PM   
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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:10:19 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		yes. he needs shaved as well, so that could be incorporated

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:16:47 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Go to the site frugaldomme dot com site. They have lots of rituals and ceremony sources in there.
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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:33:21 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		What a beautiful idea. i had not considered it before. i am glad you posted! i would love to know what you decide works for you, if you are open to sharing... here or on the other side...

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:41:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		One fairly typical theme of rituals is to "cast off" ones old life, and "don" the new life.

This can be symbolized during the ritual as simply having them disrobe at the beginning of the ceremony, and dress in different clothes before the end. In the middle could include things like installing the cock collar, vows of devotion, etc. Maybe your idea of shaving him could actually take place as part of the ceremony too.

Some of the coolest things I have seen as part of ownership rituals included application of the marks of ownership; brands, cuttings, or tatoos. But, if that is too intense, magic marker can be used. It will eventually fade, but a re-affirmation ceremony can be invoked to redo it. (Kind of like getting married again after having been married for awhile.) :)

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:42:35 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		thanks!  more good ideas.....

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 12:51:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your very welcome.

I had another thought...

Instead of having them simply disrobe, consider cutting and tearing their clothes off during the ceremony. This would symbolize your "taking away" their old life. If your sub has the "being taken" fetish, it would probably work well.

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 1:02:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with the shaving, and You should draw the entire event out as much as possible, before actually locking him up .... giving him a long time to think about the step you both are about to take. Take some time to prepare some words, describing the commitment, posession, and submission ..... maybe use candlelight during the ceremony. I'd also compose a vow for him to repeat to You as you secured the device, promising his loyalty. (I've been in a few chastity devices, and most are not 100% foolproof).

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 1:12:21 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		What about having him write my sexuality privledges and handing that paper to you symbolising you are now the only one that posses control of him in that venue?
Or have him write my sexual sensation freedom and both of you light one corner of the paper and let it burn to ashes.
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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 1:38:56 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		love the idea of cutting away the clothing. sloooooooooooowwwwwwwly.

thanks veronica, i know devices are not fool proof, it's really up to him to keep the promise, verbalizing it might help remind him of that. It means everything to him already, but i think this would also help his mental space with me as well

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 1:53:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I assure You ...he will remember everything about You and the moment it is locked on for the first time, and his commitment to You will be the thing that keeps him from trying to elude the captivity of the device. The look and feel of the device itself, just serve as reminders of You and the commitment.  I always looked at the various devices and looked for the flaws in design ... it's just the way I am.... but I never violated the commitment or my Mistresses wishes of Chastity.  It really plays on the mind more than some may realize.

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 1:57:40 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		It is the affect on the mind that i have always been facinated by. Turns out he was looking to lock himself up when we met, just to have some control. The fact it was his idea originally makes it even better from my perspective. I love watching how the mind works and this subject is soooooo full of information about that. I am very excited to see how things play out over time.

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 3:02:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

Will be locking up my subs manhood this weekend. It marks a big step for us in that i will be "taking possession" of him as mine at that point.



I personally haven't been into chastity with my submissives, but this sounds lovely. If you're so inclined, I vote for the report afterwards as well. :)


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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/30/2007 6:29:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		When we got ours it was at christmas.  I had mentioned I liked the idea and said when he felt ready to give himself to me he should get one.  The week before christmas when we had our mini one (we werent together over the holiday)  he presented it too me in a nicely wrapped box and told mehe wished to be all mine and asked if I would like the keys.  He said some really nice personal things and the evening was just perfect.   The element of suprise made it best for me  I had no idea he had got one !!

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 3/31/2007 3:08:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a template you can always hijack the formal Christian Chastity Ceremony /Purity Ball

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20070322/lf_afp/afplifestyleussexchastity_070322082138
"WASHINGTON (AFP) - It has all the ingredients of a wedding. The proud tuxedo-clad father, the frosted white cake, the limousines and an exchange of vows. But there is no groom and the girl in the long gown is no bride. She's daddy's little girl, there to take a vow of chastity..."

Just replace words like Daddy, Daughter, Tuxedo, Gown.
or keep them and wrap them in "quote marks" depending your relationship. Lets face it, no matter how you change it, you can't make an event like this remotely vanilla or non creepy

Keep the cake in

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 4/1/2007 4:35:03 AM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Interesting article. I had heard vaguely of these balls. I think the ring thing really takes it to the next level of creepiness!  no wonder 88% break their vows.

As for us, this weekend didn't work out. We are 2 hours away and he was unable to make the trip. Which worked since i didn't feel great and now have more time to make a really fun and meaningful plan. Thanks for your support


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RE: Chastity ceremony - 4/1/2007 5:17:19 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou
Interesting article. I had heard vaguely of these balls. I think the ring thing really takes it to the next level of creepiness!  no wonder 88% break their vows.


I thought All good Christian girls took it all up the butt so they could stay virgins?

Do good Christian men suffer from "whoops wrong hole" syndrome too?

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 4/1/2007 8:22:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		You know, in reading this discussion, I realize that I was very lax in the way I collared my first sub. We discussed the possibilities, and, when she turned to me and said, "You can do anything you want with me," we both took that as the beginning of a D/s relationship. It was, for a while, but without the ritual noted in this forum and similar, it led to misunderstandings and, eventually, disappointment.

I think the use of more formal procedures would have made things a little better, and there would have beeen a clearer understanding of what I meant, and what her reaction would have been. Without the substance, there is little form, and without the ritual, there is the potential for tragedy.

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RE: Chastity ceremony - 4/2/2007 9:42:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		i hear this drives men insane.  some will risk taking a powertool to get the device off.  i can't imagine b/c the longest i've gone w/o an orgasm since puberty is probably 4 days.

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