Bearlee
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Joined: 10/25/2004 From: South Central CO Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Rumtiger ... As for the whole liking to top but no dominant bone in her body...no..cant do it, I cant feel right if whoevers doing anything isent really into it at all, it would be like asking me to go and start flogging some girl..am I capable of doing it? I guess, sure, but..i'm not going to be into it or anything, i'm not going to like it. Sooooo, I'm just curious if you've taken another look at 'selfishness'? Can you see...just like your last sentence here, that two people CAN and DO engage in D/s where BOTH of them get something out of it? Like you said...who'd be into doing something if they're not ALSO getting somethiing out of it? Yanno? I'm just sayin...I like win/win. I like being submissive, I like being beaten, too; it is NOT something I do just because the other person likes it; I LIKE IT. Okay, a relationship is more than just that...but two people can come together in a way that gets both their wants met. So, I see 'selfish' not as a bad thing; but as a way to ensure things are win/win. The person who 'endures' submission just to make another person happy is that door-mat we've been discussing. And...what sadist doesn't love a bottom who throughly enjoys being 'abused'? LOL bearlee
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