rskenderian
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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
Oh yeah, and as the others said, your profile needs work. It's very plain.
You don't give an impression of depth, experience, etc in your profile. It's polite and all, but it's shallow and simple. It doesn't tell me a thing about WHO you are.
Well, maybe that IS who He is, which is why He wrote His profile as He did.
People are different, and change with time.
Give the opportunity to write anything in the world about who He is, what He wants, etc., He chose to write what He did.
That's probably because of who He actually is.
In ten years, His profile might read very differently.
If He's saying He's attractive, and pontificating on that, there's probably a very good reason - and i can vouch for that, having been His age and been in 'similar' circumstance.
So, what He wrote, from the infinite things He could have, is therefore absolutely valid. For Him - and for everyone else.
ifneedsbe:
Do not change Your profile.
You will never get what You want or are needing if You change it to reflect what other people want, instead. Perhaps You don't feel 100% confident in some areas, but know You have a lot to offer in other departments. i don't know. You go on Your journey and learn through life, You grow, and that's the whole good thing about it, and i haven't found any shortcuts yet ... that actually work. i have tried all of them, though. 
You are really looking for one person, so let it be the right person.
The one who responds to what You have to say.
You wrote what You wrote for a reason.
When You feel You want to say something different, then say that.
Having Your profile called "shallow" or "simple" is going to tend to make anyone rush out and change it, to make it "deep" and "profound".
But, the fact is, You may actually be 'simple' on some level at this time, or You might not be 100% sure about things so therefore You do not say them. That's very legitimate. You're really still young. As You change and grow, what You would want to say about Yourself, will, too.
i suspect that You're trying to be extremely honest in Your profile. You are not attempting to say anything You are not 100% certain about.
That is excellent, if so.
When You are certain about other things, You can put those in, too.
...and that is perfect, absolutely beautiful, and a true simple and honest solution about what to write.
In the meantime, i read Your profile, and it says a LOT about who You are - in between the lines, it's all there, for real. You want the person who will hear You 'between the lines'. That's what You want and Need right now, which is exactly why You wrote what You did.
When this is no longer valid .. then change what You HAVE (as in 'possessive') to say. What do You HAVE? It's all there, right in Your profile, in what You wrote, and in Your "Lives For", "Loves", etc., list. For You, that list says most of what You want to say, i would imagine, and then You just added a simple context in which that list takes place.
There is nothing in Your profile that is NOT true, and that is pretty evident - and that fact is what, i think, You are REALLY communicating with Your profile. You want the person who understand thats; that will be the one You have the chemistry with - if they can feel that in Your profile and they do respond to that feeling. You dont write that You don't B.S - You DON'T B.S., instead; proof is right there. You don't say it, You do it, instead. You don't say You're honest; You ARE honest, instead.
That's more than completely valid. You're far better off being honest - as it does appear You're trying to be - by NOT making statements which You do not feel completely certain about - than by 'rushing' Yourself to grow or evolve or become 'deep' or whatever might be said or thought. Doing the latter is how people make 'wrong turns' in their life. That's how someone takes the wrong road through their life, then have to backtrack all the way back to square one again when they're twenty years older. You don't want to have to do that. Really.
my advice is to continue to be completely honest - and to continue to refrain from saying anything You are not completely 100% certain about. You do Yourself the biggest favor in the world by doing that, and You do everyone else right, too. Your whole profile speaks that You will not say something that is not 100% true to Your knowledge. You don't write it - You DO it - which is the proof. You have even refrained from saying that, because You prove it, instead.
i applaud Your uncompromising integrity, restraint from temptation, and sense of virtue.
Hopefully, someone else will , too 
... if they can see and feel that deep 
(no offense to anyone else; i've just been in similar, so i know)
So, now You know how to approach a sub 
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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
Read mine and contrast it to yours..mine is probably on the other extreme (too long and too indepth) but then that is ok because I am trying to attract a certain kind of person and I feel my profile weeds out people I wouldn't be interested in.
lol...
i have you beat on extremities. i just took out about 6 paragraphs. i have a lot to say. But i actually want to consolidate and 'organize' mine now. i don't think i need to explain everything as in-depth; i think i can rely on Those reading to understand that where i say "so-and-so" there's automatically other things and feelings that come with it.
ahhhh... i feel better and know more what i want to do. Thanks :)
it's all good.
- richard "puppy"
<edited to switch words - "just You" to "You just" ... geez>
< Message edited by rskenderian -- 4/3/2007 2:38:16 PM >
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