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MissSCD -> Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 8:26:51 PM)
My slave and I had a very relaxing date today. Instead of the usual scene type date we do, we took the day off and had a vanilla date. That is what I refer to as a date without BDSM in it. We went to dinner. Then we went for a long drive in the country enjoying all of the blooms down here as well as shopped some. We came home and watched some television. Today was my first Saturday off in about a month, and he has been working overtime quite a bit lately. We just wanted to hang out. Do you all have "Vanilla Dates"? Regards, MissSCD

hisannabelle -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 8:30:16 PM)
greetings all, greetings missscd, if we do stuff that isn't kinky, but i'm still submissive to Him as is normal when we're doing it, does that count as a vanilla date? if so, then pretty much all the time we don't spend in the bedroom...or in the playroom...is one big vanilla date. ;) we have dinner together a lot, and i don't go around leashed during dinner, or anything like that. i'm not required to kneel while i knit, read, or watch tv when i'm at His house. we look like any other couple when we go on trips (although i think we might occasionally annoy the folks in the hotel rooms next to us...we do our best not to). we don't consider it vanilla, because our dynamic is inherent in our relationship, but some might consider it such. respectfully, annabelle.

AquaticSub -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 8:32:32 PM)
While I never stop being his submissive, plenty of the things we do look pretty vanilla from the outside. Particularly when I've begged him to take me to a chick flick. [:)]

WhiplashSmile -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 8:33:18 PM)
Well I know I sure do, and enjoy them. There's more to life other than 24/7 BDSM scene play. It's good to get out and do other things. Diversity! What did you think BDSM somehow excludes or takes you off to another universe or different world? Sorry, I just could not help myself with that remark. Dinner, Movies, Shopping, going places and doing other things is all part of life. BDSM is just another facet to living, but not the BE ALL, END ALL to living.

Valyraen -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 9:42:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub While I never stop being his submissive, plenty of the things we do look pretty vanilla from the outside. Particularly when I've begged him to take me to a chick flick. [:)] "Begged" isn't quite the word I'd use, kitten... when you want to go see a chick flick, I don't get any lasting peace until you've seen it. A dominant has no power against the tidal wave of estrogenical cinema. [:'(]

azzmaster -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 9:50:49 PM)
i think its strange to think just because ur not floggin someone etc its vanilla... the power exchange exists no matter what the activity is

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (3/31/2007 11:52:06 PM)
Most Ms relationships look exactly like most vanilla relationships about 90% of the time. Going to the movies isn't a vanilla act or a bdsm act- it's just something people do. I'm glad you guys were able to just BE together and do what you wanted rather than worry about stupid labels and fantasies.

onestandingstill -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 4:55:09 AM)
I think when I'm someone's sub often we do vanilla venue things. Still underneith is the aTPE where the Dom's been fully in control in D/s ways even at a family cookout. So while activities seemed to be only vanilla we brought the energy exchange with us that still keeps vanilla events D/s. I think D/s M/s is all encompasing. It's not something I can turn on and off with someone short of no longer choosing to submit period. It's always with me just like my nose. It goes with us no matter what the day at hand holds. suzanne

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 7:21:50 AM)
i merely date without the "vanilla" description attached to it. it doesn't make a difference if the guy i'm with is nilla or in BDSM, i'm going out to have a good time in their company

missturbation -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 7:25:06 AM)
We have days, times when the D/s dynamic is not as prominent as normal. I wouldn't say we nilla date as we are not nilla but we have times we just wander round places we both enjoy holding hands and talking etc etc.

juliaoceania -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 8:01:18 AM)
We do all those things, but we do not call them dates really, and they are not vanilla either. Most of our time is spent doing the same things that other people do, it is the dynamic that is always in the background that makes it not vanilla. Example, for my birthday last week he took me and my unmentionable to a special ice cream place (I adore ice cream!). I can assure you there was not one BDSM element to it, but there was the D/s element to it, there always is. There is always a look, a pat, a comment made that only we understand... it is completely psychological and emotional... and undetectable to outsiders

velvetears -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 11:01:36 AM)
i think probably most in some form of M/s or D/s relationship spend at least 75% of the time doing non bdsm oriented stuff - like going to the movies or taking a ride in the country etc. The nice aspect to this is that while engaging in those activities there is the underlying psychological aspect still going on - at any moment you could be challenged or called to do something - ie: pull over to the side of a country road and give your dom a bj or maybe he wants to bend you over the hood of the car and spank you etc..

curiouslyseeking -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 4:30:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD My slave and I had a very relaxing date today. Instead of the usual scene type date we do, we took the day off and had a vanilla date. That is what I refer to as a date without BDSM in it. We went to dinner. Then we went for a long drive in the country enjoying all of the blooms down here as well as shopped some. We came home and watched some television. Today was my first Saturday off in about a month, and he has been working overtime quite a bit lately. We just wanted to hang out. Do you all have "Vanilla Dates"? Regards, MissSCD *I'm glad you had a wonderful day with your slave...it sounds as if you enjoyed life..and remember life is not about just scenes.* *However, I just cannot use the term "vanilla date". I don't have a "vanilla side" and a "submissive side"....I'm just me, a slave, with many many diversified interest.* *Have fun on your next venture..* *curious*

spanklette -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 4:42:03 PM)
We do things that people would consider vanilla all of the time, because we must be able to navigate the world around us. That being said...ask me this again after nine holes of golf with Him...not sure how submissive I'll be feeling right about then.[:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 4:52:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanklette We do things that people would consider vanilla all of the time, because we must be able to navigate the world around us. That being said...ask me this again after nine holes of golf with Him...not sure how submissive I'll be feeling right about then.[:D] giggles That I understand completely.

completenz -> RE: Vanilla Dates! (4/1/2007 9:47:53 PM)
hi gotta agree with LA here. We are a couple, yes we are living in a D/s relationship but.... we have family, we have 'vanilla' friends, we have workmates. i will always be His submissive just as He will always be my Dom but we have a life that emcompasses all. We go do coffee, a meal, shopping. We argue about politics and current affairs. Our life together is about more than the D/s hugs c

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