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Crying - 3/31/2007 10:18:54 PM

zindyslave

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Okay my question is: does anyone else end up crying during a session when being whipped?

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RE: Crying - 3/31/2007 10:26:55 PM

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uh.... it HURTS to be whipped or flogged. I cry when I'm in pain. So. Um. Yes. Count me in as one of the weepy ones. ('Course, he likes to see tears, so...)

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RE: Crying - 3/31/2007 10:38:40 PM

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Catharsis is very common. "That which is painful to the body is often good for the soul."

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RE: Crying - 3/31/2007 10:40:04 PM

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Once I did, and it changed something inside of me when it happened. Before Sinergy I tended to laugh to minimize being upset. It is a defense mechanism that helped me release emotions that I have had for years. I used to laugh when he beat me, the last time he hit me I cried, actually I sobbed. It was like I was laid bare open for him to see everything and I could not stop. It was transformative for me in ways that would be hard for me to convey, and I am so grateful it happened. I feel like it healed something for me.

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RE: Crying - 3/31/2007 11:24:55 PM

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Once I did, and it changed something inside of me when it happened. Before Sinergy I tended to laugh to minimize being upset. It is a defense mechanism that helped me release emotions that I have had for years. I used to laugh when he beat me, the last time he hit me I cried, actually I sobbed. It was like I was laid bare open for him to see everything and I could not stop. It was transformative for me in ways that would be hard for me to convey, and I am so grateful it happened. I feel like it healed something for me.

juliaocoeania,

Thank you for sharing that..I relate to your words completely.

Most of the time, my emotions were released in laughter. The first time this burst of laughter happenend to me, I was so grateful that the Dominant understood what was taking place more than I did. (not a pretty picture with a Dominant holding a crop and I cannot stop laughing)

Crying, even in day to day life, I had considered being a sign of weakness..which I've learned since then it is not....so, imagine the very first time, breaking down in uncontrollable sobbing..it definitely is a transformation as you so well verbalized. I do feel like it peels so many layers back and you get intuned more with your soul, a tremendous cleansing.

For me though, the crying is not just when being whipped or being beat, or necessarily with pain...it's coming off of a ride of a combination of pain and pleasure...

I have learned that emotions will release themselves by their own choosing..I never can predict and never can dictate them.

These emotion burst are very rare, which I've learned to appreciate them and even crave them, especially the crying...

I'm generally just left with a clingy nature for a bit, which is out of character for me and then resume and emerge back to curious.

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RE: Crying - 3/31/2007 11:33:19 PM

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When my father passed away when I was 13 I was told not to cry because it would upset my mother (like anything could upset her more than losing her life mate). The next day I went into a store with my sister inlaw and we saw Smurfs, I started laughing at them... I could not stop laughing at these stupid things... uncontrollable laughter... it was a release because no one allowed me to cry. I think it switched something off for me, and I think that when I cried that night it set something right. I do not know if that makes sense or not.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 1:01:36 AM

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I do, whether I'm flogged or spanked.
I'm generally fairly quiet when being flogged/spanked, depending on my head space at the time (not to be confused with subspace) and/or the force behind the blows.
After a certain degree of pain, it starts out with bursts of laughter/giggles, to a continuous laughter, to a few moments of silence, to a few cry outs, to a continuous sobbing.
I think the combination of the laughter and sobbing are emotional releases from past "stuff".

I've made it to the edge of subspace once, being spanked, it was one of the best moments of my life.
I look forward to the day that I make it there completely.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 3:12:10 AM

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Not I- its funny I can be whipped till my skin bleeds and I never shed a tear. But say one sweet thing or a speak in a not so happy tone and I'm crying like a baby.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 3:50:02 AM

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Sometimes I get very quiet, sometimes I giggle, and sometimes I cry.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 5:31:13 AM

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I havent crying when being whipped yet... but I have ended up crying after a very passionate love making session. I just had a feeling of total completion wash over me. I had never before felt so content or that I belonged. So I cried silent tears as we came to a finish (was very hard to explain afterwards but it earnt me the biggest hug and smile I had ever experienced)

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 6:33:35 AM

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I have and it isn't from the pain. It is usually just the rush of emotions I get and I just let go. I usually feel very good afterwards. I have been known to cry with other forms of punishment also. Depends on my mood and mindset.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:08:28 AM

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I cry big time in the beginning due to the pain and then it turns inward. The cry really cleans out all the sad emotions that need to come out.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:22:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: zindyslave

Okay my question is: does anyone else end up crying during a session when being whipped?

yes...tears of joy from the release.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:22:27 AM

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nope, I have a very high pain tolerance. Started in high school getting paddled for
detentions, getting them "burned off" as we used to call it.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 7:37:51 AM

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If flogging falls into the 'whipped' category then I'd have to respond in the negative. As it is i don't seem to cry from physical pain .. emotional pain, however, .. my own or someone else's .. does bring on the tears. i know, when we attended play parties, my last Master seemed to enjoy hearing the cries/sounds some subs made .. He even wanted me to go up to one and tell her how much he enjoyed listening to her [i didn't though .. which did get me a few wacks with the 'evil stick']. In our last sesson together, He did say He was going to get me to cry .. He came close but it didn't happen .. i did notice the whites of my eyes were slightly red ... not sure what caused that though.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 8:04:02 AM

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lol its like you read my journal, OP

"i continued to get whipped with a super icky cheap rawhide whip that surprisingly did not leave many marks other than a few bruises and a good gash on my hand from when i tried to block.

it continued until i was in tears and was told it would only stop when i begged it to, which i soon did. "

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 8:46:40 AM

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I cry sometimes. I have a wide range of reactions during play from laughter, tears, aggression, screaming, etc. Sometimes I will have multiple reactions within one scene. It is just how my body is processing the sensations. When he uses a paddle on my though, I will cry. A paddle just hits an emotional trigger in me and I just cry.

For me it is very cathartic; I just let go and let him take me where he wants me to go.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 10:35:16 AM

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Well, I am glad to see that my Master isn't the only one that likes to push limits.

The whole reason I asked is because the other day Master was pushing my limits on spankings with our flogger and I started to cry after a bit but I never said my safe word which made him proud. So, has anyone had this experience?

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 10:47:52 AM

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A safe word is only as good as the person respecting it...or respecting the depth of physical and/or emotional submission their ward enters. So much is spoken of proudness of depths entered and endured...I would like to hear of the sessions that don't turn out so well. That is where learning really takes place...or should. If the majority of stories focus on positive or near positive outcomes; let us not forget the not so great aftermaths. These are the stories newcomers and those easing into deeper levels need to hear.
As to tears: I consider them children of one's soul. They need to be born into the world of flesh and blood; regardless of reason or circumstnace. Not crying is a conscious overriding of nature. Just be mindful of the path you might take if distancing one'self from one's natural responses. Resonance to music/events/ touch/voice/memory should be held very dear. It is one of the unique attributes of being human.

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RE: Crying - 4/1/2007 10:50:30 AM

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I always end up crying from a play session and most times from sex. Neither is in response to pain. It's just a wall that gets broken down.

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