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thetammyjo -> RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dreams? (4/3/2007 6:57:57 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
Tammy,
Many expanded on the OP's focus. He said; "I have often wondered how many of us have achieved what we set out to accomplish in this lifestyle."
I added some consideration to physical and/or monetary considerations, but didn't in posing the question to you that you didn't understand. SORRY!
I agree - A day without learning is a wasted day.
You have goals and dreams together and associate achieving them with the day you "...have died or the day that I am ready to die". My question, again in the spirit of the OP's question, after reaching your goal, wouldn't you want to enjoy it for awhile?
I do enjoy them. That's part of the re-evaluating that happens.
Am I content with this or is there something more?
Is there is more I want to experience, I make a new plan. If I'm happy and don't see a benefit to doing something different or something more, then that part of my life is settled -- my marriage is a good example of this.
Let me use school as an example. I got my bachelors and decided that I wanted to be a university professor so that requires a PhD. Got my masters at an Ivy League school and decided I didn't want to teach at a research institution so moved for my PhD. I used to think I wanted to be president of a university one day but as I've observed more about how these organizations work, I've decided that would make me unhappy. I'll be fine tenured and teaching 2-3 classes a semester I believe.
If you want to put things in terms of BDSM I can do that to. I've read books, joined groups, apprenticed, I've learned what I needed to learn but I'm always open to learning more. While I love the sense of community from a local scene I decided that some aspects of the current local scene is not healthy so we left it. I've learned that I don't value my own selfless work for the community when it isn't respected or valued so I won't volunteer so often and I will work should nastines occur.
I have one slave and we are content but I'm very open to adding more people. I'm realistic about what we as a family need and want and about the mundane realities of things right now. So I enjoy having one slave and I don't worry about finding more.
I think the problem is that I don't a "A GOAL" -- I have multiple goals that change with the realities and with my growth as a individual and my family. As the smaller or step goals are reached I do indeed enjoy them.
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