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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/2/2007 12:52:56 PM

Padriag

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All of us have fantasies, hopes and dreams -- many of which are completely out of reach and defy reality. I have often wondered how many of us have achieved what we set out to accomplish in this lifestyle. Has it been as rewarding as you imagined, or has it been a disappointment?

I've achieved some of them, and in those cases it has been rewarding. It always feels good to know I've achieved something I set out to do. But I still have many goals left to work towards. There's always something more to do. At this rate... I just might live forever!

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/2/2007 4:18:17 PM

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Dammit all, they keep changing.

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/2/2007 4:22:28 PM

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I will always have goals and I will always have dreams; when I don't, then that will indeed either be the day I have died or the day that I am ready to die.

Your goal is to die once you have obtained your goal, or when all your goals and dreams are met? Did you mean it that way?

Huh?

I do not understand how you turned what I said into what you said.

It's the same for me and learning -- I learn something every day, the day I stop learning will be the day I am dead.

Learning is part of who I am. Setting goals, reaching them or re-evaluating them is also part of who I am.

I may stop being who I am when I die.

Maybe not. Perhaps in the next life I'll still be setting goals and learning.

I think you are correct when you said that my perspective is about "I" -- of course it is. Who else could it honestly and realistically be about? I'm the person I was born with, the person I'll live with and the person I'll die with. No one else will be with me as long as I will be with myself.

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/2/2007 5:01:37 PM

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Tammy,
Many expanded on the OP's focus. He said; "I have often wondered how many of us have achieved what we set out to accomplish in this lifestyle."
I added some consideration to physical and/or monetary considerations, but didn't in posing the question to you that you didn't understand. SORRY!

I agree - A day without learning is a wasted day.

You have goals and dreams together and associate achieving them with the day you "...have died or the day that I am ready to die". My question, again in the spirit of the OP's question, after reaching your goal, wouldn't you want to enjoy it for awhile?

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/2/2007 7:00:23 PM

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 6:57:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Tammy,
Many expanded on the OP's focus. He said; "I have often wondered how many of us have achieved what we set out to accomplish in this lifestyle."
I added some consideration to physical and/or monetary considerations, but didn't in posing the question to you that you didn't understand. SORRY!

I agree - A day without learning is a wasted day.

You have goals and dreams together and associate achieving them with the day you "...have died or the day that I am ready to die". My question, again in the spirit of the OP's question, after reaching your goal, wouldn't you want to enjoy it for awhile?

I do enjoy them. That's part of the re-evaluating that happens.

Am I content with this or is there something more?

Is there is more I want to experience, I make a new plan. If I'm happy and don't see a benefit to doing something different or something more, then that part of my life is settled -- my marriage is a good example of this.

Let me use school as an example. I got my bachelors and decided that I wanted to be a university professor so that requires a PhD. Got my masters at an Ivy League school and decided I didn't want to teach at a research institution so moved for my PhD. I used to think I wanted to be president of a university one day but as I've observed more about how these organizations work, I've decided that would make me unhappy. I'll be fine tenured and teaching 2-3 classes a semester I believe.

If you want to put things in terms of BDSM I can do that to. I've read books, joined groups, apprenticed, I've learned what I needed to learn but I'm always open to learning more. While I love the sense of community from a local scene I decided that some aspects of the current local scene is not healthy so we left it. I've learned that I don't value my own selfless work for the community when it isn't respected or valued so I won't volunteer so often and I will work should nastines occur.

I have one slave and we are content but I'm very open to adding more people. I'm realistic about what we as a family need and want and about the mundane realities of things right now. So I enjoy having one slave and I don't worry about finding more.

I think the problem is that I don't a "A GOAL" -- I have multiple goals that change with the realities and with my growth as a individual and my family. As the smaller or step goals are reached I do indeed enjoy them.

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 7:01:56 AM

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I agree with most in that mine keep changing.YES I have archived many of my goals and most of my dreams.IT just those few elusive ones that I keep chasing..bounty

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 7:02:07 AM

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Greetings

I have not even come close to achiving all that I wish to in this lifetime. I hope that I never do; to stop trying for something means to die. In my eyes anyway.

I wish you well

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 7:11:34 AM

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With Daddy's guidance and advice, i shall one day achieve all of my personal goals with time and patience. i'm currently on the right track into achieving one of them.

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 7:13:28 AM

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Hello. =)

It's funny.. up until a few years ago, I honestly thought goals and dreams were for others, not me, lol.

Now I'm able to take a good long look at my life and what I'd like to accomplish. Things are possible now that weren't before, so I'm still looking at options.

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RE: Have you achieved your goals and fulfilled your dre... - 4/3/2007 7:22:31 AM

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Greetings stella

it is a wonderful feeling is it not? To look to the horizon and see all that is possible.

I wish you the best on this beautiful day

melissa

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