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restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:38:34 AM

mixielicous

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does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:44:41 AM

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Master loves reaction. He wants to know that he's getting to me. So, he actually loves when I'm trying to squirm away, flinching, swearing.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:46:34 AM

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I had a Dom who used to insist that I had to keep my eyes and mouth open at all times (keeping your eyes open during orgasm is VERY VERY difficult, let me tell you!) and that my hands had to remain flat and at my sides at all times.

I loved those restrictions! It kept my mind going in multiple directions to follow His current orders plus the restrictions plus keeping from orgasming. It was a mind-full and I really enjoyed it!

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:49:19 AM

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Like Oside my Master enjoys some fiestiness. I have never blocked something, that could result in another part of me getting the brunt of the action. Depending on the activity I will sometimes squirm and I definately say ouch or other things. Master enjoys a response from his actions. Unless gagged I am a very verbal person.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:57:12 AM

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Sure. I'm not allowed to block, crap the tool, get up and of course do anything disrespectful. So long as i "stay in place" i'm good to go. When i have difficulties with that, Master always offers to help out. When i cant resist blocking, Master will tell me to put my hands under me. When i cant stay still - Master has thousands of techniques with helping me out there. If bad words come out of my mouth, Master is always helpful in providing a gag.

He is very helpful = )

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:58:15 AM

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Like Oside my Master enjoys some fiestiness. I have never blocked something, that could result in another part of me getting the brunt of the action. Depending on the activity I will sometimes squirm and I definately say ouch or other things. Master enjoys a response from his actions. Unless gagged I am a very verbal person.

ugh, when i block He will go for the inner thigh *nooooooo*

the reason i am not allowed to say no [i think] is that, well, i want it [even the punishment, not for the pain - but the emotions i get as a result]

if i sit there saying "ow, ouch, ow" i think it makes Him feel some pity for me.. and well, ya know what happens then [scene ending, anyone? lol]

but He seems to really dislike when i squirm. He used to tie me down but now prefers mental bondage. . . hmm maybe He does like the squirming, but only the ones that are so intense i cant help but wiggle, lol. i digress, i am thinking aloud [atype?] at this point!

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 7:59:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister
When i cant resist blocking, Master will tell me to put my hands under me.

He is very helpful = )

from recently - when i cant resist blocking, He will just whip my hand, LOL

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:09:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

When he feels like it. I'm rather chatty during sex (or as my ex once put it, I get real religious) and sometimes a screamer during orgrasm. When he feels like being very evil, he orders me to be silent. I don't think he's ever given me an order to not flinch though.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:15:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

When he feels like it. I'm rather chatty during sex (or as my ex once put it, I get real religious)

how the hell does THIS work?? pray tell!

i am a screamer too

lol

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:35:33 AM

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Sometimes I get carried away, and putting a restriction in place helps me calm down and sort of refocus. He doesn't always put in restrictions in place, but sometimes they just nice for a change of pace. I don't think I could adhere to one about not flinching though..that seems more involuntary.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:37:40 AM

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Only if we're doing a specific scene and he wants to see me struggle or enjoys seeing the discipline. Generally we get off on the sincere immediate response- things like "OMG you mother fucker" will elicit laughter and deliciousness.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:44:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Generally we get off on the sincere immediate response- things like "OMG you mother fucker" will elicit laughter and deliciousness.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 8:46:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

When he feels like it. I'm rather chatty during sex (or as my ex once put it, I get real religious)

how the hell does THIS work?? pray tell!

i am a screamer too lol

You know:

"Oh God OhGodOHGODOHGOD!"

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 9:00:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: topcat

quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

When he feels like it. I'm rather chatty during sex (or as my ex once put it, I get real religious)

how the hell does THIS work?? pray tell!

i am a screamer too lol

You know:

"Oh God OhGodOHGODOHGOD!"

oh ....

my god.....

DUH

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 9:15:09 AM

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does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?
i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"
talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

Master's one main requirement is that i react HONESTLY. If, during any given activity, this means trying to move away or block something, crying, etc., then so be it. i am pretty new to the lifestyle and have no experience with any dominant other than my Master. Neither of U/us were exactly sure how i would react to the many things W/we have since done. One of the ignorant thoughts i had was that to be a "good" slave, i had to show no emotional reaction such as crying, saying it hurt too much, trying to pull away/block, etc. i thought to be what i "should" be, i should be like a rock, not expressing pain or a desire for something to stop. At first, this just wasn't possible. But, as things progressed and my pain tolerance (which was already pretty high) grew, i found i WAS able to react stoically. So, one night as i was tied spread-eagle and whipped quite harshly, i managed to bite my tongue and not make a sound. Master and i both remember that as being the hands-down WORST experience W/we have shared! After it, W/we had a lengthy discussion during which i explained to Him that i thought that's how a "good" slave acted. He told me that, as my Owner, He owns all of me and that hiding my genuine feelings and/or reactions is, to Him, the equivalent of lying or faking an orgasm
( - 2 things i would never do). From that point on, i am always careful to allow my real reactions to show. Of course, i don't cry and carry on so over any little thing but when i really need to, i do. i never curse or call Him names or anything like that but one funny thing that did happen involved hot wax. i always thought i would just love that experience. Turns out, i was wrong. Having lots of it poured on is great but those dastardly little drips everywhere just happens to really piss me off . Anyway, my true reaction to that was shown in the form of really, really straining against the ropes and mumbling through my gag such phrases as "i really hate this. i'm not kidding." LOL. This didn't slow Master down one bit and, as a matter of fact, only encouraged Him of course. But...my reaction had been so strong and surprised us both so much, that when He finally finished and removed the gag, W/we both burst out laughing. It was one of the best memories i have. Master still does this at His pleasure and He still teases me with the phrase "i'm not kidding." Just goes to show....when i showed my real reaction and didn't try to mask or change them to be what i thought was a "good slave," O/our experiences together became so much better and deeper........slave luci

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 9:23:03 AM

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we don't "scene", but whenever i am being beaten, i am not allowed to block any part of my body, cry out, or move of my own accord. there have been times, especially in the early days, when i have been unsuccessful. i remember one horrible beating in particular where he caught me by such surprise, and i was so terrified of him, that without even thinking about it i found myself crawling away from him and using my arms to try and block some of the blows. of course that only made the beating worse, but in the moment i couldn't comprehend that. it was a rough night.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 9:23:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mixielicous

does your Dom/me give you restrictions within a scene?

i am not allowed to block, flinch [after the swat], or say "ow"

talking, screaming, crying, laughing et al are all acceptable.

I cannot think of anything I am not allowed to do specifically. He has told me to shut up once because he wanted to see if it turned me on (it did

, but I am somewhat of an interuptofile). He will tell me not to move a certain way, hold still, or that sort of thing... but these things vary from playtime to playtime. I cannot think of anything that I am never allowed to do like you describe.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 9:44:09 AM

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The only restriction I have is that I am not to look at him unless directed to do so.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 11:26:38 AM

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He has told me not to move when he is whipping which is hard sometimes because he can get rough and my pain tolarance is low, but I always do my best.

But other than that I can cry out and say whatever when I don't have a gag in anyways.

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RE: restrictions - 4/2/2007 12:35:25 PM

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I have no hard set restrictions for every scene but it at times amuses me to give specific instructions for a specific scene.

Sometimes it's no noise. Sometimes no movement. Hell, maybe I will make him sing supercalifragilisticexpealodocious after every ten swats.

But for the most part I get a charge out of watching and hearing his responses, however he feels he needs to express them.

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