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hereyesruponyou -> Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 8:12:22 AM)

I see alot of subs on here post complaints of not getting responses to their emails or getting negative or rude ones. I have a really good suggestion for you.

Try writing a personal note to the person whose attention you want to capture and tell them how you can serve THEM.

I am oh so tired of getting notes telling me all of the things i can do to please the sub and how that makes us the perfect match. There are plenty of people out there who are available for play and i have stated that this is not what i am looking for in my profile. So don't waste my time or yours if that is all you are interested in. And please do not act like you are doing me a favor in responding to my ad.

It takes so little to get a positive response i just can't understand why it is not understood by more



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 8:31:45 AM)

People often think that just because they're attracted to us it means we want to do them. It doesn't help when magazines like Maxim publish articles that say, roughly, "If you want a hot time in bed, find a Fem Dom."

Master Fire



MsKatHouston -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 12:39:25 PM)

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If you want a hot time in bed, find a Fem Dom


aw but that's true ;)

It doesn't mean said hot time will be granted to every person who sends me an email, though.  Another suggestion would be to graciously take no for an answer.  I remember those and if my situation every chages I may go a-looking for those who were gracious and courteous in their replies to me when I did reject them.  It also gives me more incentive to pass on names of potentials to friends who are looking.



BabyNyla -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 12:50:00 PM)

I had been talking about this the other day with someone ... and I realized there are two big things that turn me off from a profile and make me tend to not respond to an e-mail ... when the first picture that pops up is their ass or a very hairy chest or a nice picture of them but in the background their house is a filth pit (presentation and representation is soooo key!!) and the second thing is peoples' names they choose for their profiles.  Things like cum4me, kingmasterofu ... all turn offs ... I like to know people are real.



spanklette -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 2:26:26 PM)

I always get the best responses when I ask a question in my journal or profile. It's always something I'm interested in so that the responder doesn't necessarily have to be attractive to me for me to want to write back. Besides...if they answer the question, it proves they read my profile.



petdave -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 6:29:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou
Try writing a personal note to the person whose attention you want to capture and tell them how you can serve THEM.

I am oh so tired of getting notes telling me all of the things i can do to please the sub and how that makes us the perfect match. There are plenty of people out there who are available for play and i have stated that this is not what i am looking for in my profile. So don't waste my time or yours if that is all you are interested in. And please do not act like you are doing me a favor in responding to my ad.


Just a suggestion in return... i took a look at your profile after seeing this post, and noticed that almost all of your likes/dislikes/interests are related to BDSM... that may have something to do with why you're getting messages of that nature. If you talk more about yourself as a person outside the lifestyle, it might provide more of an "in" for someone to relate to you on levels other than... intimate service [:)]



Misstoyou -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/2/2007 7:51:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

It doesn't help when magazines like Maxim publish articles that say, roughly, "If you want a hot time in bed, find a Fem Dom."



Ooooh! I've got to find the back issues! [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]



stella40 -> RE: Suggestion to get responses (4/6/2007 4:55:58 PM)

I speak from my own experience, prior to being with my current Domme I would receive an offer on average every six weeks and would be complimented on my profile on average once a month.

WHAT TO PUT ON YOUR PROFILE AS A SUBMISSIVE.

1. Who you're looking for.

2.Who you are.

3. What you are like.

4. What you have experienced.

5. What you can offer.

6. If you attach a photo make sure it's a facial or full body shot.

WHAT NOT TO PUT ON YOUR PROFILE

1. Your BDSM interests. (Any genuine Dominant will ask you at the right time)

2. What you want and expect. (Again, wait until asked)

3. Anything untrue.(It comes out sooner than you think)

4. Negative comments about other people. (Puts people off)

5.If attaching your photo avoid posting photos of genitals or body parts. (This is true of dick pics, remember someone always has a bigger dick than you)



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