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Pontificator -> Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:18:26 AM)

I am very curious, are there many subs on this site looking for Black Doms??  I have been on for a while and I see very few subs looking for an interracial relationship.  Now I do understand that this is just a matter of preference, yet I am curious as if there are many subs that would be willing to be with a member of an opposite ethnic group. . . specifically African American men. . .  ?



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:23:10 AM)

In searching for my slave, race is not of issue, I would expect that is true of many who are seeking a Dom.  What is of issue is their understanding of what I am seeking, their willingness to consent, and their moral character.  Physical attraction is certainly a factor, but for me, I am attracted to many colors - I imagine the same is true for others.



mnottertail -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:26:24 AM)

Doooooooooooooooode..............they are crawling all over out here.

You will do fine if you want inter-racial or even if you snag a girl that ain't looking for no particular model this a way or that a way.  Ain't a great deal of holes plugged up over tanning solutions out here.

Ron  



grlneedstolearn -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:26:44 AM)

When i was looking for my Dom, race wasn't an issue. But for some reason there aren't a lot of African American's here in CO



MistressNoName -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:33:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Doooooooooooooooode..............they are crawling all over out here.

You will do fine if you want inter-racial or even if you snag a girl that ain't looking for no particular model this a way or that a way. Ain't a great deal of holes plugged up over tanning solutions out here.

Ron


Ditto.

edited to add: Although don't quite get the tanning solution line...well, but I can be a little slow...



LotusSong -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:36:34 AM)

Sir,
 
First, let me say that I am a dominant white female.  Personally, I would have no problem interacting with another race.  What inhibits me is the history between our two races.  In reality, the whites are constantly being asked to apologize for slavery in the states and told we are the history of our acts way back then.
 
Granted.. BDSM slavery has nothing to do with reality slavery.  SPEAKING JUST FOR ME, the seed of guilt has been drummed into us for decades now that I personally could not dominate an African-American slave. 
 
Now in converse.. if I were a submissive, I'd be more inclined to submit to a black Master.  It could just be the Catholic guilt to pay for the sins of my race.   
 
It should be that race plays no part in all of it.  I session the whole person.. not their body.  This includes their baggage, their hopes and dreams and their history.
 
I've been curious with this type of of pairing- does the thought every even briefly pass one's mind about the past dynamic between the two?



greeneyes1962 -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:38:18 AM)

OK, when i met my Dom, i was not specifically looking for a black Dom, nor did i exclude black Doms. I wasn't really looking for a serious relationship at all. I got more than I planned on :). Now i couldn't be happier, but it's the man inside i'm interested in, it has nothing to do with his or my ethnicity.

I have seen some white subs and slaves that are searching for black Doms only.



hereyesruponyou -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:42:51 AM)

1st husband was black. Not by choice just because that's who i fell in love with. I have a biracial daughter. Not really looking for anyone in particular, but i do feel out people's opinion on the subject before i play with them. Anyone who would see my child as less could never gain my personal respect.

I have gotten interest from black Dom's in the past, but none that ever worked out. I don't think that had anything to do with race, just timing and distance, as with many others. A nice picture is a help.  Being able to write coherently is what attracts me most to anyone online honestly.



BondageTopJere -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:44:59 AM)

I think a lot of it depends on what area you live in TBH.  BDSM does trend towards mostly asians and whites worldwide, but I think thats due entirely to culture factors rather than racial ones. For example, I've seen very few hispanics in the areas I've lived in on personals sites and RL functions, but they get much more prevalant the farther southeast you go, especially Cali and Texas.

I'm pretty sure you will find very few subs that are specifically looking for an interraccial relationship, however, I think a large majority are open to the possiblity, even if its not stated as such.



Wildfleurs -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:45:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Sir,
 
First, let me say that I am a dominant white female.  Personally, I would have no problem interacting with another race.  What inhibits me is the history between our two races.  In reality, the whites are constantly being asked to apologize for slavery in the states and told we are the history of our acts way back then.
 
Granted.. BDSM slavery has nothing to do with reality slavery.  SPEAKING JUST FOR ME, the seed of guilt has been drummed into us for decades now that I personally could not dominate an African-American slave. 
 
Now in converse.. if I were a submissive, I'd be more inclined to submit to a black Master.  It could just be the Catholic guilt to pay for the sins of my race.   
 
It should be that race plays no part in all of it.  I session the whole person.. not their body.  This includes their baggage, their hopes and dreams and their history.
 
I've been curious with this type of of pairing- does the thought every even briefly pass one's mind about the past dynamic between the two?


Oh yeah I keep on hounding my owner (who is white) for my twenty acres and a mule.

If you are having guilt I think its your issue, maybe its just black people in Arizona, but up here I would not say the majority of black people spend a lot of time trying to make while people apologize for slavery.

C~

Edited to add: for us its not an issue, although there certainly are cultural differences but for the most part he meshes in well with it (and doesn't even eat ribs with a fork.... all the time).  I could be wrong, but I don't think he feels any white guilt or weirdness from having a black slave and I don't feel any weirdness from having a white owner - his race was unimportant to me (and vice versa I believe).



childofpain -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:48:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Sir,
 
First, let me say that I am a dominant white female.  Personally, I would have no problem interacting with another race.  What inhibits me is the history between our two races.  In reality, the whites are constantly being asked to apologize for slavery in the states and told we are the history of our acts way back then.
 
Granted.. BDSM slavery has nothing to do with reality slavery.  SPEAKING JUST FOR ME, the seed of guilt has been drummed into us for decades now that I personally could not dominate an African-American slave. 
 
Now in converse.. if I were a submissive, I'd be more inclined to submit to a black Master.  It could just be the Catholic guilt to pay for the sins of my race.   
 
It should be that race plays no part in all of it.  I session the whole person.. not their body.  This includes their baggage, their hopes and dreams and their history.
 
I've been curious with this type of of pairing- does the thought every even briefly pass one's mind about the past dynamic between the two?


i wish i was this articulate...thank You Ma'am for putting my thoughts into words



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:51:57 AM)

I had this discussion with a friend of mine.  He is a black dominant and he is the one who introduced me to CM.  He asked if I would take on a black slave, and I too thought of the 'white guilt' associated with this.  I actually think that would feed into the dynamic moreso.  For one, they have all the knowledge of history just as we do, they may in fact have had someone in their family who was an owned slave during those times.  To me, this shows me they have a deeper understanding of what it is that I expect, and a more informed consent.  I would certainly own a black slave.



MissSCD -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 10:56:23 AM)

I am FemDom, and to me there is nothing more fine than an African American man.
One day I will have one again. At 26, I was engaged to a black male and had to break it off because of my family beliefs.  They have all passed but two of them.  I would not have a problem now with them. In other words, it was my father and grandfather that would not allow me to have the love of my life.

Regards, MissSCD



mnottertail -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 11:02:35 AM)

Edited to add: for us its not an issue, although there certainly are cultural differences but for the most part he meshes in well with it (and doesn't even eat ribs with a fork.... all the time). 


LOLOLOLOLOL, see how far us crackers have come in a couple hundred years?

Rick James



JerseyKrissi72 -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 11:03:29 AM)

       I grew up in a very racist home and was taught that dating outside of my race was wrong but I never believed it myself. My mother had me with a married man ( a big secret in our family) and he was Puerto Rican and black--- so I was taught to be ashamed of who  I was...when I found my half brothers my mother told me to go live with my (i won't say the word she used to describe them but a very vulgar word). Unfortunately, I never had a chance to have a relationship with my father but I am proud of who I am and I see nothing wrong with having a Dom of any color. I tend to date black men myself but have dated white men as well---I guess it just depends on how we connect on a higher level....I find black men very sexy personally[8D]



patina -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 11:04:03 AM)

I don't mean to sound picky but i just checked your profile and it is completely blank.  That will get you nothing.  We gals like to have something to help us know if there is any kind of a match.  You need to write at least a 3-6 line summary or even more about yourself.  Tell if you are looking for a LTR or a short term one.  Are you into TPE, or just the kink part.  A photo is good or stating you will send one on request.  If you don't have the time or inclination to make your profile worth anything why should i take an interest in you.


patina

good luck



CreativeDominant -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 11:40:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pontificator

I am very curious, are there many subs on this site looking for Black Doms??  I have been on for a while and I see very few subs looking for an interracial relationship.  Now I do understand that this is just a matter of preference, yet I am curious as if there are many subs that would be willing to be with a member of an opposite ethnic group. . . specifically African American men. . .  ?


An interesting question and one that does make me ponder.  There are plenty of sites on which you see white women openly craving interaction with black men, especially black dominant men and yet...apparently...this site does not have that many?  I wonder why..

I've always been open to relationships between myself and women of any color...white, black, yellow, brown.  Just didn't make a lot of difference in most ways so long as they were intelligent and open and yet, I would be lying if I said that for me, the color ... when in contrast with my own...does not play a factor.  It is a highly pleasurable visual distinction when I have been with someone of a differing skin tone.  It is not the only pleasurable factor nor the most important...if it was, I wouldn't even deal with white submissives except as friends...but it is another unique link on that ...hopefully...infinite pleasure chain we all have.  As a curious person who likes to learn when the opportunity presents itself, I also found the cultural differences intriguing and I've learned several things through the years, though sadly... not enough that I have the secret to bridging racial differences that create hostility.



WhiplashSmile -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 12:01:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

When i was looking for my Dom, race wasn't an issue. But for some reason there aren't a lot of African American's here in CO


In part because I fear because of racial issues that are already a negative, combined with BDSM that is a negative in many vanilla eyes.  It's a bit of a heavy load to handle I fear.



onestandingstill -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 12:14:18 PM)

I think many more than you think are open interracial dating than you think, they just see no need to specify as they are more interested in the man than in his skin specifically.
I think saying you seek people from one race or mentioning specifically you're open to a race just limits your choices more than opens them up.
Basically if they don't say no people of color in their profile I'd assume they may be open to it.
suzanne



Dnomyar -> RE: Black Doms (4/2/2007 12:14:37 PM)

patina there are a lot of threads out there on profiles. This isnt one of them.



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