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Collared ? - 4/2/2007 2:15:28 PM

subintraining13

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Being rather new to all this, i would like to know what does it mean to be collared ?
For the sub and her master.
Is it always up to the master to asked or can the sub as well asked to be collared.
I have been thinking about this for a while but i don't think i know enough about this.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 2:23:14 PM

spanklette

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It depends on who you ask...I'll tell you what it means to me, but a collar is what people make it.

I have been living/submitting to my Daddy real time for a little over two years. I am not a collared submissive...I am an Owned submissive. I consider a collar to be tantamount to marriage, but that is because our relationship is romantic. He has told me that He plans on proposing, wants to have children...He hasn't mentioned a white picket fence, but I bet it's in there too.

All that being said, a jeweler is at this very moment making my collar. We will have a private ceremony (just the two of us) with vows of sorts. When we get married, this will just make my collar legal, not any more binding than it already is. That's us.

Different strokes for different folks, though...the differing answers for the same question are always amazing to me.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 2:36:33 PM

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 2:42:03 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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In theory, a "collar" is a commitment you make to one another; it's a symbol of ownership. To some people, they'll collar/be collared to someone they just met, and break it just as quickly. To others, they see being collared as a commitment on par with being married.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 3:02:00 PM

lateralist1

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As a dominant woman I decide when I think a submissive has earned his or her collar.
If I ever got to the point of collaring someone I would be certain that it would make them extremely happy.
It is difficult to give a vanilla example as to what it means to me because the vanilla symbols have been debased along with the 'lifestyle' ones.
But the nearest I can get is an engagement.
Branding is like marriage but with no divorce.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 3:39:02 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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the stainless collar around my neck is my "wedding ring" given to me as a sign of my lifelong committment to Daddy. it also symbolizes that i'm owned by Him as my Dom and loved as His daughter. i have others however this is the main one i wear 24/7 like my chain. like many others have stated being collared might mean something totally different to them.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 3:41:50 PM

spanklette

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I should also mention that my first collar had nothing to do with being "engaged" it had everything to do with being owned. There was a contract and little to no sexual contact. So, even to the same person a collar can mean different things. I suppose, it's all about the timing and the people involved.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 4:24:54 PM

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Good point spanklette. Thankyou for pointing that out. I can envisage in the future collaring someone in a totally service orientated situation. But at the moment that's not what I'm looking for. Both subs would wear my collar but each collar would mean something different.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 4:33:31 PM

santalia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subintraining13

Being rather new to all this, i would like to know what does it mean to be collared ?
For the sub and her master.
Is it always up to the master to asked or can the sub as well asked to be collared.
I have been thinking about this for a while but i don't think i know enough about this.

Greetings.

For me, being collared means that i am the property of my Master and i have given myself to Him. It means i am owned, fully and completely. The collar itself is also an outward symbol of that ownership, reminding me that i am owned, and telling others i am owned and who owns me.

my Master did not ask me. The way it occured was perhaps a bit different than most, as i was looking into His branch of the lifestyle, and He offered assistance to learn about it. After some time of talking and His Mentoring me, i knew i was His and He knew it as well. We both realized it at about the same time and one day i asked Him how a slave goes about begging a Master's collar. i was to be collared in person on New Year's Eve, while spending a week together with Him in Las Vegas, but due to unforseen circumstances, He could not make it and while i still ended up collared, it was not in person. i will still beg it in person, but i am already considered by both of us to be His collared slave.

Not all Masters require a girl to beg His collar. Some do, some don't. It all depends on the Master....what branch of the lifestyle also figures into the equation as well. my Master is Gorean, and from what i've learned, most of the time a girl begs a Gorean Master's collar..He doesn't ask her if she wishes it.

i hope my story and the other information helps. Well wishes.

-santalia{JR}t

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 4:35:10 PM

spanklette

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That's why these questions are so hard to answer...in one lifetime one can experience the same thing in so many different ways. But, thank you.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 4:48:52 PM

littleone35

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In My case in 5 ,\months we both knew it was right and i recieved my collar then. I already belonged complety to my Master this was just a physical reminder. Yhe mental collar he has around my mind and the emotional one he has aroud my heart however, is much strong then anything around my neck. We both know who i belong to.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 5:20:13 PM

MasterFireMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subintraining13

Being rather new to all this, i would like to know what does it mean to be collared ?
For the sub and her master.

Whatever the two of you decide it means. It can be for an evening of play or it can be rather like a marriage.

quote:

Is it always up to the master to asked or can the sub as well asked to be collared.

It has been common in the past for slave to petition the Master. My girl petitioned me. I had a Ds relationships that lasted, in contract, for a year and a half. I offered the initial collar, then he asked for a different one (I had a system back then). I've recently decided that I prefer to be asked. A lot of Masters, though, feel it's the Master who should offer; they deem a slave worthy enough to offer.

Master Fire

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 5:30:51 PM

BOUNTYHUNTER

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A collar is a major commitment of both party's,I have been in this LS since the age of 15 do the math and still can count on one hand the collars I have locked around a pretty neck..IT just doesn't seem to have the importance that it"the collar"had in the past, too many cyber Velcro collars out there that is often remove faster then a prom dress.Here the deal is this,you come and serve and if worthy a collar after a year or so may just may be locked around your pretty neck..Yes many come to serve and many stay without the collar..IN the distance path the kollar was part of her chattel and she begged her owner to take it and YES its OK for one to partition for one and earn the Right to wear it with loyal and devote service..AS always just the views of this ol" master...bounty

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 5:48:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

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Whatever the two of you decide it means. It can be for an evening of play or it can be rather like a marriage

It has been common in the past for slave to petition the Master. My girl petitioned me. I had a Ds relationships that lasted, in contract, for a year and a half. I offered the initial collar, then he asked for a different one (I had a system back then). I've recently decided that I prefer to be asked. A lot of Masters, though, feel it's the Master who should offer; they deem a slave worthy enough to offer.

Master Fire

I didn't post on this originally, because I am in the minority, as I still use "the system". I still use training/consideration collars (though it has been some time since anyone has been able to achieve even that level). For the most part as I have certain doubts Myself that complete ownership will ever exist in My case. Could be why I still use "the system" as a consideration collar might be as close as I ever come.

While I am quite content with this, some others are not. I don't view a collar of Ownership lessened because I use collars of different signifigance, but not A/all agree with Me on this. They are entitled to T/their view, as I am to Mine. It's not like I'm collaring T/them, so it doesn't matter much.

It only really matters within My own particular relationships, and that is actually the point. A collar is going to mean exactly what it means to the two (or more) involved in that particular collar want it to mean. IMO, that is what really counts anyway.

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RE: Collared ? - 4/2/2007 7:05:40 PM

MasterFireMaam

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Whatever the two of you decide it means. It can be for an evening of play or it can be rather like a marriage

It has been common in the past for slave to petition the Master. My girl petitioned me. I had a Ds relationships that lasted, in contract, for a year and a half. I offered the initial collar, then he asked for a different one (I had a system back then). I've recently decided that I prefer to be asked. A lot of Masters, though, feel it's the Master who should offer; they deem a slave worthy enough to offer.

Master Fire

I didn't post on this originally, because I am in the minority, as I still use "the system". I still use training/consideration collars (though it has been some time since anyone has been able to achieve even that level). For the most part as I have certain doubts Myself that complete ownership will ever exist in My case. Could be why I still use "the system" as a consideration collar might be as close as I ever come.

While I am quite content with this, some others are not. I don't view a collar of Ownership lessened because I use collars of different signifigance, but not A/all agree with Me on this. They are entitled to T/their view, as I am to Mine. It's not like I'm collaring T/them, so it doesn't matter much.

It only really matters within My own particular relationships, and that is actually the point. A collar is going to mean exactly what it means to the two (or more) involved in that particular collar want it to mean. IMO, that is what really counts anyway.

Actually, I still do have a system, it's just different than what it was. I should have said I had a "color coded system back then". Now, I have different levels of commitment as the system.

Master Fire

< Message edited by MasterFireMaam -- 4/2/2007 7:07:29 PM >

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