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spanklette -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 9:37:33 AM)
Every once in a blue moon, He will require that I end all of my speech with "Daddy." Most of the time, though, as long as I'm repectful, life is good. But...when I really, really want something I go for the cute factor and the question is always the same, "Daddy, could You do me the biggest favor ever?" Sometimes He does and sometimes He doesn't, but I'm beginning to make it into an art form. At the very least, He'll always think it's adorable.[:D]

Celeste43 -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/3/2007 10:14:49 AM)
No speech restrictions here. The opposite actually, he wants emotional transparency and restricting how and when I speak would reduce my communications to him. If I was upset to a point that I couldn't follow the rules, then either I would break the rule or not talk to him about what I was upset over. Unless I was enraged my response is always to shut down and close off communication. By withdrawing emotionally, I keep from him things he needs to know to keep the relationship the way he wants it.

slaveluci -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 5:09:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Celeste43 No speech restrictions here. The opposite actually, he wants emotional transparency and restricting how and when I speak would reduce my communications to him. Ditto here. Master doesn't utilize formal protocols and restrictions. His main requirements for my speech are openness and honesty. Obviously, things such as tone of voice, cursing, interrupting and the like are to be carefully watched as well. For me, it all comes down to respect. i love Him and look up to Him - why would my speech reflect anything other than those sentiments? slave luci

OhBeMyMind -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 5:51:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth recently, Master has instructed this slave to eliminate the word "fuck", and it's derivatives, from her vocabulary... especially at the dinner table. Oh fuck....that would be so hard for me. It's my favorite word. Heh....ditto...I tend to have a bit of a potty mouth...especially with the word fuck, so much so that I think it has rubbed off on Daddy, as he seems to use it more often than he used to.....Ooooo Daddy said a bad word!!!

OhBeMyMind -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 6:04:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: drawntothedark I always try to be respectful. We have a very playful relationship and neither one of us takes most things too seriously. So I can be goofy or silly or down right bratty if I want to be. However, there are times when I know that I should not be. As long as I am respectful and mindful of my place than it's excepted. This is basically what my relationship with my Daddy has evolved to. We both enjoy being goofy and silly and I adore when I make him laugh and he feels the same, he tells me often how much he loves my laugh. No restrictions persay, with all the ups and downs we have worked through and knowing each other like we do, I pretty much know what he expects. If he has something else in mind he lets me know, if I go overboard with my antics he warns me and if I continue ....he gets my attention. If he does not care for a current comment or attitude...he gets my attention. During an intense scene is a little different, more is expected. This probably wouldn't work for everyone, but it works for us. IMO life is too short for me to be in a situation to be bogged down with so many restrictions that I would be cautious to breathe too loud....plus we enjoy each others company and how else could we continue to grow and learn more and more about the other without freely speaking and constant communication.

Obsidiansnamaste -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 6:22:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist I was wondering what if any rules you had when speaking to your Dom. Even if you were never told to speak to Him or Her a certain way did you yourself decide that you needed to change the way you adress them? I love speaking to subs who understand how to speak to a Dom. There's a beauty and a dance to it. It's quite fun. Greetings, i am to speak to Master in third person, i am to to be sure that my tone expresses the proper amount of deference to Him. i am to phrases requests "If it please You...." i am to end sentences with Sir or Master. These changes came at Master direction and they please Him...~smile~

AquaticSub -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 8:53:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WiseCracknSadist I was wondering what if any rules you had when speaking to your Dom. Even if you were never told to speak to Him or Her a certain way did you yourself decide that you needed to change the way you adress them? Also to any Doms who might be reading this post. Are you more inclined to let your sub have his or her way if they approach you with the right tone and speak to you a certain way? I love speaking to subs who understand how to speak to a Dom. There's a beauty and a dance to it. It's quite fun. Umm... he likes it when I speak English. That's about it. Sometimes I call him Sir. Sometimes I call him by his given name. Sometimes I call him Smookie-pants. We don't put much emphasis on protocol. [:)]

juliaoceania -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 9:06:59 PM)
There are no rules I can think of beside he does not like me to raise my voice much at all... with the exception of when we have a few drinks... but we laugh while we talk and debate all at the same time (debate topics we do not always agree upon, but that is the fun of it) He had an exwife that yelled all the time, angry people sometimes do not realize that yelling is something they do in place of ordinary conversation. He has strong feelings about raising my voice too much as a result... I try very hard not to, and I rarely do.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/4/2007 9:34:23 PM)
We do too, I can do just about anything to him, however if he says stop please, then I try my best not to do it again, cause it'd just be plain old rude not funny, cute or playfull. Like when he was laying on his tummy and I was eating honey due I dropped some on his back to eat off him, and he didn't like it cause it was startling and sticky, so I didn't do it again, but damn it was tempting. quote: ORIGINAL: drawntothedark I always try to be respectful. We have a very playful relationship and neither one of us takes most things too seriously. So I can be goofy or silly or down right bratty if I want to be. However, there are times when I know that I should not be. As long as I am respectful and mindful of my place than it's excepted.

twistedkytten -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/5/2007 3:55:55 AM)
I have in my own experiences, noticed that if done correctly, there is not anything I cannot say, it is all in the way one phrases things.. how it is said.. it truly is a dance, one I adore completely

kyraofMists -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/5/2007 4:28:27 AM)
I scrolled through the posts and we have quite a few protocols for interaction with him than it seems others have. I do not see them as restrictions because they do not inhibit our effectiveness at communication. In fact they increase our ability to communicate effectively. Most of them have just become ingrained behavior and I do not even think about them anymore. We have three different protocols for different situations, high protocol, standard and casual. High protocol is typically for lifestyle events or other formal occasions; standard protocol is our everyday interaction and casual is interaction around family or friends who are not aware of our relationship structure. Here are a few of our rules Use hand signals to request his attention, to ask a question, to give information or to get permission to leave his presence (there are others but these are the main ones) When hand signals are not appropriate ask permission to ask a question, give information or an opinion or to leave his presence Ask permission to vent Use my Lord at the beginning and end of each sentence Be direct Don't get snippy Don't interrupt Don't make assumptions Don't use absolutes Don't make negative judgments of self Drama is not tolerated in speech or action and this includes exaggeration and embelishment of facts Negative thinking is to be avioded (hard one for me) Wittiness and playful behavior is highly encouraged and desired at the appropriate time and place. Those are the ones off the top of my head, but I am sure there are others that are just so much a part of my natural behavior I don't even think about them anymore. Following these protocols with him and following some of them with others have dramatically increased my ability to communicate effectively. Knight's kyra

yenlui -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/5/2007 6:18:24 AM)
Respect is the key-word. I may say anything I want, as long as it's said with respect. And that's a two-way-thing: He's respectfull to me too. I mostly call Him Sir, but there's no rule saying I have to, except while being disciplined or recieving a command. All other times, it's my own choice if I call Him Sir, His name or 'love' or just about anything else I might feel like (I like calling him names from my own language, which He's not able to understand anyway [:D]).

CrazyC -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/5/2007 7:55:12 AM)
When i become more submissive, i get to be a tease/brat all in fun. One Dom mentioned that i could be that way with everyone else except him which was a disciplen i had to learn.

tulinwl -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/5/2007 9:07:25 AM)
I'm respectful, but sometimes I can get pouty and whiny - and depending on His mood, it can be a good thing or a bad thing.

stella40 -> RE: Talking to your Dom (4/6/2007 4:34:41 PM)
Unless I have justification to do otherwise, I speak to everyone with courtesy and respect. Even when I have justification to do otherwise I will still remain courteous and respectful, it shows class. Communication is a keystone of any Dominant-submissive relationship. My experience has taught me that genuine Dominants insist on open and honest communication, and I have no interest in serving any Dominant who seeks to restrict me in the way I communicate or express myself.

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