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littleone35 -> Trust (4/3/2007 7:35:17 AM)
I need to ask this question. Let me give you some background first. Between the death of my late Master and the time i met my wonderful Master i had several play partners. Some of them still call me and Master does not share. They want to get with me and when i tell them no i have a Master the say don't tell him. I would tell him though, Master trusts me and i would not risk his trust or love for a fling. He is all i want or need. My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? Matt's littleone

bandit25 -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 7:37:23 AM)
Why would anyone risk the love of their Master so they could play with someone else? Doesn't make any sense to me.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 7:37:54 AM)
Almost everyone online gets these propositions on a regular basis. I don't not cheat because of the trust between us- I don't not cheat because it would go against my sense of self and devastate the things I claim to hold true for myself. As a former cheater, I've been down the road of justification and rationalization, it leads to nowhere but emptiness.

Mercnbeth -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 7:41:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 ... Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? Matt's littleone No. the commitment does.

jauntyone -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 7:43:07 AM)
quote: My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? Greetings I think that everyone has issues like this at one time or another. However, it is not the trust that keeps me from taking up the offers. But rather my own sense of worth. If I was to go behind Master's back and do something like this, I would feel cheap. I wish you well melissa

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 8:43:26 AM)
one of my formers out of the blue one day (when he IMmed me) wondered if i still "play" around now that i have a Daddy. another guy from my past asked the same thing. i told them i don't play behind Daddy's back because i'm completely committed to Him. when i mentioned that i was collared by Him, they took the news with a "oh you'll be back begging me to fuck you in a week" type of attitude. now i have permission to meet and date other men however sex with them isn't allowed until we really know each other. Daddy's very particular with the men i meet and doesn't want them mistreating His daughter.

curiouslyseeking -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 8:44:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Almost everyone online gets these propositions on a regular basis. I don't not cheat because of the trust between us- I don't not cheat because it would go against my sense of self and devastate the things I claim to hold true for myself. As a former cheater, I've been down the road of justification and rationalization, it leads to nowhere but emptiness. *Words of wisdom, LA...* *I too have been the cheater in a vanilla relationship, but never a D/s relationship..(this is no way justifying my actions)..* *The point is, I could not bear to bring the emotional and physical marks of another man before the One I've committed to to be His slave and Him, my Master...* *My mind just won't comprehend the feeling in that..there would be an implosion by my own making.* *There has also came a point in my life that integrity and honor means more to me than self-gratification....* *So, for me it's trust, commitment, honor and integrity.* *~curious~*

curiouslyseeking -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 8:46:31 AM)
*PS...Didn't your momma teach ya that guys are always going to ask? [:D]*

ownedgirlie -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 9:04:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? It is never a problem. Anyone who tells me "Do not tell your Master" is nixed from my communications for a complete lack of respect for my Master, and that's that. The idea of someone even suggesting that to me is appalling. The idea of playing with another for my own self gratification does not enter my mind. It's too foreign a concept to think about. My commitment, our bond, my devotion, my love and respect for him are just the beginning of the list of reasons which prevent me from such an error. The moment I let another touch me would be the moment my slavery to my Master ended.

junecleaver -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 9:34:47 AM)
My Dominant is very picky about letting me play with others. I know he would let his closer lifestyle friends play with me if they asked. But I don't really get to pick the partners. He is fiercely possessive and wouldn't let me play with someone he had never met---which would be all of the people I have formerly played with. I would never cheat on him. We are both working to build a foundation of trust, love, and understanding for our relationship. I wouldn't throw away all that hard work or dream of hurting him so deliberately especially for something that wasn't fufilling in the long run anyway.

juliaoceania -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 9:42:22 AM)
quote: My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? I am not collared, but we are exclusive and he does not share me. I have shared emails of a friendly nature with my former dominant, very very rarely though. It was basically to share information about politics and spirituality. He knows I am serious about my Daddy, he is happy for me, and I guess it ended with enough respect for me that he would not do that. Although it ended badly and I felt pretty crappy about him, there is still a fondness there that has nothing to do with D/s, but our friendship (we were friends a year before I even knew about him being a dominant). quote: Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? It is not just the trust between us that keeps me from playing with other dominants, I have no desire for anyone else. I cannot conceive of someone else playing with me... I am his. The idea of violating his trust is also repugnant to me.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 10:04:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? Matt's littleone No, my comittment to him does.

jauntyone -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 10:05:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 ... Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? Matt's littleone No. the commitment does. Greetings how beautifully and simply said I wish you well melissa

Celeste43 -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 10:10:15 AM)
Some people can play with others, some people can have sex with others. Some have totally monogamous relationships. However for these types, I would suggest just asking them what part of NO they don't understand.

starshineowned -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 10:39:54 AM)
Greetings..~smiles~ As a possession of Masters..the ability to make decisions regarding such are no longer mine. It's just that simple. The wanting to or not wanting to doesn't come into play anymore. Well Wishes starshine Happy slave of Master Delvins

akisha -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 10:46:39 AM)
When I'm in a relationship and I care for the one I'm with I have no desire to play with anyone else so it's extremely easy to say thanks for the offer but I'm totally not interested in playing. Then I'd ask them how they would feel if I was theirs and I lied to them and played with others behind thier back. I'm betting they'd be pissed. People that ask you to cheat on your partner are not friends, they are just selfish.

mellian -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 4:29:07 PM)
That and if one cheats behind their Dom/Domme's back with someone online sign of great weakness I say. -mellian

myobedience -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 5:15:28 PM)
well said Mercnbeth !!

IrishMist -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 5:18:45 PM)
~ Fast reply ~ Perhaps I am just too cynical but please...why would anyone care what someone on the internet wants them to do? Why is it such an issue to tell someone to go fuck off? I just can not figure this one out.

LaMspeach -> RE: Trust (4/3/2007 7:25:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 My question is for slaves/subs that are not shared. Do you have problems like this? Does the trust between you and your Master prevent you from playing? It is never a problem. Anyone who tells me "Do not tell your Master" is nixed from my communications for a complete lack of respect for my Master, and that's that. The idea of someone even suggesting that to me is appalling. The idea of playing with another for my own self gratification does not enter my mind. It's too foreign a concept to think about. My commitment, our bond, my devotion, my love and respect for him are just the beginning of the list of reasons which prevent me from such an error. The moment I let another touch me would be the moment my slavery to my Master ended. Ownedgirlie said it better then I could.

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