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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 9:38:22 PM

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I would not block him, he may be the stalker type that hates being ignored and makes up dozens of screen names just to get you to read abuse and drivel. Instead I would open his emails so it appears you actually read them and then delete them before you do. That way he does not make 100s of identities just to get the last word in... these types are the ones that tend to get off on any feedback... even blocking them can be interpreted as feedback. They feel powerful because they pushed you into doing something and in tormenting you.

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RE: confused - 4/3/2007 10:16:57 PM

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And by the way you can report him for harrasment, I don't know if it'd do any good, but try.

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RE: confused - 4/4/2007 1:23:31 AM

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Since there isn't any sort of relationship to 'protect' (it would seem), the direct approach would have to suffice.

'Sorry, but you can't 'have' what's not being offered to you to 'take'.' I can claim an orange off a tree, or a box of cereal from the supermarket, but they don't put up much resistance. It sounds like you're not quite that simple. (Not that that's a bad thing.) Those other things don't have opinions of their own, and you do.

You can couch NO in any language you wish, but you ought to find a way to get your point across.

'Claiming' (which is one way of looking at it) should be mutual. One in, one out, doesn't work so well.

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I wuz going to say all this stuff, but I am too lazy to knock the quotes off and accuse Jeff of using the magic 8 ball to divine my post before I got to it. So make up whatever sounds good that makes me look all spechul.

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RE: confused - 4/4/2007 4:05:18 AM

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Hey passionate....if you find yourself still feeling badly about saying no then how about lending me $300. Promise I'll pay ya back.

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RE: confused - 4/4/2007 4:27:19 AM

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RE: confused - 4/5/2007 2:26:33 AM

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Everybody must take personal responsibility for establishing their own limits and boundaries. Once established and clearly communicated, the violation of one's boundaries is abusive, and not SSC or RAC. That is, violation of one's clearly expressed limits indicates an unsafe environment -- a lack of honor, integrity, and respect.

One who believes that they can psychologically manipulate another to exceed their boundaries -- they are probably a self centered taker. typical of the narcissistic master.

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RE: confused - 4/5/2007 7:07:59 PM

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thank You Masters...i have done just that, put Him on ignore...but that doesn't stop me from feeling badly.

Do you feel bad because you ignored him or because the fucker wouldn't take no until you had to block him? I hope the latter. If you walk around smelling like an easily wounded animal you may just attract more sharks like this one. IMO being able to take care of yourself is pretty essential if you're gonna do this dance.

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RE: confused - 4/5/2007 7:10:14 PM

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