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WhiplashSmile -> RE: slave under consideration (4/3/2007 7:53:26 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
Let's see, we "met" online, we chatted online, we talked on the phone....a LOT. There was a connection - a chemistry. I found myself mentally and emotionally submitting to him. He found himself impressed with the way I responded to him in conversation, and he considered me as a potential slave to him. I asked him to train me to his liking, which put me "under consideration" at which time I ceased conversations with other potential Masters. If you think a person can only submit in person, your thinking is limited. Two months later we met in person and he took ownership of me. That was almost three years ago. Oh yeah, and there was no, nor has there ever been, "cyber sex."
Works for some, not for others. If I felt our connection was "crap," simply because we hadn't met in person yet, I would not currently be experiencing the most beautiful relationship of my life. But everyone's different, of course.
I believe I'm in the middle of the same chain of events now! To the point we have both deactivated our profiles. The connection, a chemistry... a mental and emotionally connection. I was totally impressed with the way ONE responded to me, and even to how I myself have responded. I find that I'm having to let a few I have been talking with go right now. There are a few that I had already been communicating with before meeting this ONE. I deactivated my Profile this morning, I tried to be fair with some in regards to keeping in touch. However, as one pointed out in an Email to me today....
"I'm not going to have you tell me your interested one min then get rid of me the next because you think you found better hmmm" I had thought I was being considerate, however I totally understand and see her point without question. It would be wrong for me to be going back and fourth between he and another. Somebody might/will get hurt in the process.
So basicall, Under Consideration is a time out to explore having a relationship with Somebody Specific. It's not fair to keep anybody else waiting in the wings or expect them to suddenly be reduced down to Friendship status, when they are seeking an honest relationship. Whew....... This is where I'm at with all the "Under Consideration Business". There are a few that I may or may not be able to manage or maintain friendships with. I'm not certain myself, since this is an ALL new experience for me. Guess time will tell.
One today, actually felt that it was too soon for me to be taking somebody under consideration. I said maybe so, but I have a habit of doing crazy things at times. I do know this... It actually feels good to be able to more clearly focus effect on somebody specific, instead of having focus on many who their focus is upon many at the same time. It's like one big vicious circle of chasing ass... Chasing phone calls, IM's and emails... that really do not lead to anywhere.
I actually was thinking that submitting long distance was just a strange act of behavior. Right now I think my mind is more open to it, I'm not really thinking about this type of crap. I'm sitting here a bit blown away, that I'm sharing all this with you. Back a month ago, If I read this thread I probally would have stuck my nose in here and said that Online "Under Consideration" was a shit load of crap....
The funny thing is that this actually happened very Naturally. I made no requests or demands for this to happen. This whole "under consideration" business is a complete choice of free will.
There are aspects of this online long distance dating game, that I'm still getting used to. Perhaps, this whole thing may blow up in my face! If it does, then at least I will have experienced something new and different, will learn and live from it!!
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