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Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 5:46:44 AM   
Aneirin


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Status: offline 		To other subs and slaves here,in particular males.If you have not harboured desires for sexual contact with your own sex before,how do you deal with a sudden desire to do so?Do you shut it to the back of your mind and hope it never resurfaces,pass it off as an insane whimsy or embrace your new desires and interests?If you had not previously considered you were bi and now do,how do you deal with it?The final part of this,I have to ask is,is this predominantly a desire as a submissive,or do dominants go through it too,a part of what we are to be human?
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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 7:12:09 AM   
CrazyC


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Status: offline 		I recognise that mine is my curiousity. If i am ever in a comfortable situation, I will explore it.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 7:19:16 AM   
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I recognise that mine is my curiousity. If i am ever in a comfortable situation, I will explore it.


Only problem with waiting for comfort is it often doesn't come. The whole thing about exploring is branching out onto unknown territory. My first experience with a woman as an adult was anything but comfortable...it was hot and scary...uncomfortable to say the least. But every bit worth the risk and the exploration.

But then again, so was my first experience with a man...

MNN

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 7:26:15 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		To repress your feelings is never a good thing, in my book.  It is one thing not to act upon desires, but to try and shut them away in the back of your mind is self-defeating.  Most of us are 'here' because we have somehow overcome what someone else thinks is appropriate in favor of following our hearts.

The question then remains whether to go about and experiment.  There should be no concrete reason why not, and I would guess that this interest has come from a particular source, a particular person.  You should find out if there is any reciprocation, and go on from there.

Good luck.

Jeff

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 7:26:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mine was completely comfortable, which is why i say that. It was a situation where one of the men involved was someone i was close to, so i trusted the situation.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 7:28:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why not try the slow and steady approach?  Mull it over in your mind, talk it over with some people you trust, research it with others, do some mental exploration.  Then, perhaps if you decide you want to take it to the next level, do some experimentation and see how that feels.

People are always going to the extremes- I wish we were taught how to deal with this sort of stuff as we grow up like we should.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 8:37:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know i am not bi i did try it when i was younger mostly out of curiosity.  Was not for me.   I was very uncomfortable.  Did nothing for me. I like men in genreral and Master in paticular.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 9:17:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't classify myself as bisexual, merely sexual. I have served Masters & served then sexually. I have pleased many with my mouth & was happy to do so. If you are worried about labels, or classifications don't be. Let others do that.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 9:22:13 AM   
yugla


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Status: offline 		Aneirin,

Although this does not relate to me, it does match somewhat another forum of forced bi here on CM. I have a question to you. Is this something that your owner, mistress, GF etc wants you to do or do you ask of your own will?

If the prior I would be very careful of obliging to this if you are involved with one you care about. Even just talk of it when I was asked and replied ‘ Ahh well I guess if I was forced to at gunpoint” mooted two past relations of mine. Female Domme friends only I know who I have no desire towards other than friends have concurred that making their slave suck off another man was used as a reason to terminate their D/s relation. If they did then perhaps that equated to competition. He can enjoy sex with another man. If they didn’t the sub was labeled as disobedient and let go. It all came down to the mistress; she wanted the power of that head game for her enjoyment. <The power edge I deduced. That would be TOO much to share with a guy friend>

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/5/2007 3:22:53 PM   
Aneirin


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ORIGINAL: yugla

Aneirin,

Although this does not relate to me, it does match somewhat another forum of forced bi here on CM. I have a question to you. Is this something that your owner, mistress, GF etc wants you to do or do you ask of your own will?


No,nothing really to do with that other post,or others,just something which comes to haunt every once in a while and did so again recently.I suppose a question,a curiousity that needs an answer.Thinking on it,now,that is since I have joined the kinky community I am kind of ok with that curiousity.Prior to that,when I was in denial of my kinky interests,the vanilla world,it horrified me,and I would bury it deep.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/6/2007 11:20:09 AM   
BoundDragon


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Status: offline 		I am tatally straight when it comes to my relationships.... I couldnt ever consider getting emotionally involved with another girl but sexually I have no such feelings.
I have had past experiences with other girls and have always enjoyed them, although not quite a ssatisfying as being with a man.

I am now very much in love and would do anything for him. He knows of my past and we have said that one day if the situation is right then you never know.... but if that never arises I am more than happy with what I have got

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/6/2007 11:25:21 AM   
diz


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Status: offline 		i am happy and comfortable with a Master or a Mistress.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/12/2007 11:13:07 PM   
RowanJ


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Status: offline 		My first Domme and I were each other's first homosexual relationship.  It absolutely terrified me that I was feeling that way toward her, and she told me that she felt the same way.  My mother wanted to send my to a psychiatrist to "fix" me.  I hated myself for a while. 

But once I discovered that this was ME, and became proud to be ME, I came to realize that being bisexual is great because it's natural for me.  Follow your heart, love.

~Rowan

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:14:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		i guess i'll be the oddball on this one and say nope don't have any curiosity, interest or desire in being bi or sharing myself with another woman. the thought of being with another woman doesn't even turn me on.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:15:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i guess i'll be the oddball on this one and say nope don't have any curiosity, interest or desire in being bi or sharing myself with another woman. the thought of being with another woman doesn't even turn me on.


How about a Troll lesbian?

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:17:30 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		that includes Troll lesbians too, Troll. 

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:19:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

that includes Troll lesbians too, Troll. 


Aw man... and I really thought we had sumthin too.

Guess I will haul my Lesbo Troll ass back under the bridge.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:26:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		i feel to say 'ive been bi' is an insult to those that are bisexual.  i assume i am not bi because i view sex as sex and ive been with women before and it wasnt that big of a deal.  i like to look at beautiful women, love to watch women have sex but to lay with one doesnt turn me on or off.

The nice thing about this lifestyle or 'alternative lifestyles' is that that's just what we are doing, embracing our desires or interests.  i don't think bisexuality has much to do with whether youre submissive or Dominant.  There does of course seem to be a pattern that Dominants seem to prefer their submissives to be bisexual...gee i wonder why

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 1:55:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have known I was bi since i was pretty young but I can offer some perspective I think.

I think many male bisexuals have more female experience or have been attracted to females more at least, because we see so many images of the female body. Next time you watch TV or read a magazine or see a billboard or something, compare the images of females to males. Images of females are out there a lot more and the male images are much more subtle. lol I remember a few times in my early teens looking for some male images to masturbate to and usually have little luck, while it was quite easy to find female images.

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RE: Bi-sexual? - 4/13/2007 2:07:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think you concern is cool Servilecat, but, at least for me, it is not insulting. I have known a lot of people who consider themselves bisexual and people who dont but most people would and there isnt really a consensus as to what bisexual really means. For me it has always meant that I like both sexes, but is does that have to be sexual or emotional or both? If someone has only liked women but likes one man does that make them bi? Is bisexuality based on purely attraction or behavior or sexual fantasy or emotional prefence or a combination? I think it is a comibination and you could as you get older move on the scale to hetero or homo
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ORIGINAL: servilecat

i feel to say 'ive been bi' is an insult to those that are bisexual.  i assume i am not bi because i view sex as sex and ive been with women before and it wasnt that big of a deal.  i like to look at beautiful women, love to watch women have sex but to lay with one doesnt turn me on or off.

The nice thing about this lifestyle or 'alternative lifestyles' is that that's just what we are doing, embracing our desires or interests.  i don't think bisexuality has much to do with whether youre submissive or Dominant.  There does of course seem to be a pattern that Dominants seem to prefer their submissives to be bisexual...gee i wonder why

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