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normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 1:44:18 PM   
daejannaO


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Status: offline 		i was wondering if it was normal for a Master to be picky about which order your interests are within your personal.  i thought i had done a good job in saying what interested me and what didn't but a Master has come to me saying that i should be more specific?  i think it's more of an anal issue.  i don't know how to go about changing it all to His liking...... so i guess i'll forget it and go ahead continuing to enjoy myself here.  thanks for listening.....
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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 1:56:42 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Everyone's got their preferences.  Nice that he felt his was so important he had to share.  If you find it useful, then use it, if you don't, then forget about it.

Yes, it's common for people to offer their opinions unprompted.

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 1:59:22 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Instead of complaining, why didn't he just say he was curious and ask you what exactly you meant? That way he might have initiated a conversation with you rather than have you decide he's not worth talking to right off the bat.

It is the worst of poor manners to go around ordering people who have not consented to submit to you.

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 2:03:52 PM   
daejannaO


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Status: offline 		Thank you LuckyAlbatross and Celeste43.  i think that some do take others for granted  thinking they can control them already.  all He really ever had to do was to try to get to know me as me first.
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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 2:05:16 PM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		I took a brief look at your profile and the only interests I saw were the general lists provided by the site.  For me, I thought you had too many listed, and if it were me I'd suggest going with a shorter list of the things you are most interested in.  But that's just me, a different perspective.  My point here is, you can't please everyone so the best thing to do is to think about how you wish to present yourself and go with that.  Anyone seriously interested in you will work with that, and if they're worth knowing, they'll be polite enough to engage you in some conversation instead of making lazy complaints.

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/5/2007 2:33:47 PM   
daejannaO


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Status: offline 		ok thank You.  i'll go back to the interests and see what i can do.....

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/7/2007 7:54:27 AM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		I don't think it's a matter of what he told you to do, as much as that some "Doms" - particularly those with little to no experience, and that experience being online only - think that it comes across as "Dominant" to tell you what to do in their first contact.

The assumption being that if you obey, you are a submissive, but if you don't, you are just a "fake"...~chuckles~

Don't stress it.
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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/7/2007 8:22:29 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		Someone that picky is not gonna be a long trem match for me.  I don't sweat the small stuff and am not interested in being in relationship with someone who does.  Now I can be picky -- but about the order of a random person's interests?  Kinda absurd IMO.  Material for weeding.


< Message edited by arayofsunshine55 -- 4/7/2007 8:24:05 AM >

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/7/2007 9:22:06 AM   
BrutalDemon


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Status: offline 		The ONLY time I ever have reason to comment about someones order of preferences... is, maybe, when a submissive lists Massage (getting) higher than Massage (giving). Is it just me, or does that sound like a greedy, attention seeking way to put it if you're supposed to be submissive?


Oh, and the occasional "Oh, darn" when I see a profile that has something I like on their Hard Limits section

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RE: normal to be picky? - 4/8/2007 6:33:15 AM   
Elorin


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ORIGINAL: BrutalDemon

The ONLY time I ever have reason to comment about someones order of preferences... is, maybe, when a submissive lists Massage (getting) higher than Massage (giving). Is it just me, or does that sound like a greedy, attention seeking way to put it if you're supposed to be submissive?


Sounds perfectly normal to me. Most human beings prefer to be pampered and soothed more than they like to work. The key is...did they list receiving massage but did NOT list giving massage anywhere? If someone lists GIVING massage under like or love, I think that's a pretty good indication of a service attitude. So what if they love getting and like giving...that's just human.

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