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sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 6:05:18 PM

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Are there boundaries W/we should not cross?

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 6:10:30 PM

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In terms of the subjects in your thread title - only if you are uncomfortable with crossing them.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 6:30:19 PM

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There are no "shoulds" in my life. I do what I want. Really. And I have every intention of loving, adoring and beating the fuck out of my subboy as soon as I settle on one. Cause I want to. Even if no other domme is doing it. Simply cause it works for me and that's who I live with. Me. And if he can't handle it he's not the man for me. Period.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 6:51:08 PM

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To each their own. I plan on falling madly in love with a dominant woman, submitting to her and having as much sex as possible with her all in pursuit of the goal to make her and I the happiest people on the face of the planet.

This may not work for everyone though.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 6:54:29 PM

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LOL! Great post!

I agree...the Dominance/submission is the icing on the cake made of sex and love.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/5/2007 9:07:03 PM

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Well...I...heh, this may not be popular, but whatever. I think that noone should totally dominate another person. By that I mean completely, utterly, 100% take control of their mind body and soul. I think everyone should be able to be self sufficient.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 5:03:58 AM

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Just because someone completely submits to another doesn't mean they aren't self sufficient. It simply means that they have completely submitted themselves to ONE person. He could submit to me today and go rule the corporate world tomorrow. The two have nothing to do with each other.

And yes, I expect sex, love and submission.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 5:55:05 AM

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For the right person I can not imagine I would have any boundaries.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 7:03:51 AM

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quote:

He could submit to me today and go rule the corporate world tomorrow. The two have nothing to do with each other.

Good point. :-)

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 7:11:34 AM

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Do not do anything that you know would cause permanent damage, either mentally or phyiscally. Hence chainsaws are a nono.

But seriously you have to get to know you sub/slave and find out what their hard limits are and stick to them because if you don't you could seriously damage them. BDSM isn't about damaged goods.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 7:48:36 AM

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Are there boundaries W/we should not cross?

Yes indeed.
But those bounderies are as numerous as the stars as each individual has their own set.
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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 8:01:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: mistresszariah1

Are there boundaries W/we should not cross?

There are legal boundaries -- you can cross them but you must be willing to deal with the legal results then. I wouldn't hold your breath for others in the BDSM community through to offer support if you commit murder or things of that nature.

There are moral boundaries -- each person should have a moral or ethical code. Again if you cross your own or your partners you will have to deal with the results, could take therapy and in some cases might cross the above legal boundaries too..

There are physical boundaries -- as much as you may wish you had four arms at this time I don't think medicine can do that for you. One can wallow in sorrow because you physically can't do everything you want or you can be realistic and enjoy what you can do.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/6/2007 1:35:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky

To each their own. I plan on falling madly in love with a dominant woman, submitting to her and having as much sex as possible with her all in pursuit of the goal to make her and I the happiest people on the face of the planet.

This may not work for everyone though.

No doubt you will find that :-)

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/7/2007 1:32:15 AM

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I apologize if I was unclear in my earlier post. I meant...let me see...
I meant, by COMPLETE domination, driving someone into a state where they can no longer think for themselves, not even an option. I don't think that's right. Does that make sense?

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/7/2007 1:46:17 AM

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Re sex, love and submission

Some pro-dommes have warned me "never let a slave fall in love with you" and "never bonk a slave you wouldn't want as a boyfriend"

But why?

It is very cruel to get carried away and have sex with a submissive you do not love that way.

It might (and its a big might) be OK to bonk a vanilla you do not love. IME it is a giant mistake to bonk a sub if you do not love him (or her).

Sex with one's Mistress is sacred and means a lot to a submissive. Their hearts break easily. You should not bonk unless sex with the submissive means just as much to you as it does to him (or her).

The consequences otherwise can be really awful.

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RE: sex,love and submission? - 4/7/2007 2:03:08 AM

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Does death count?

Just kidding.

Personally, I'd be moderately sadistic with someone (if they wanted me to be. Frankly, I could get as much satisfaction out of going either way, and being "softer", or not).

But - they'd have to let me know it was okay. Consensuality (regardless of the arguments I've read that it's all an "illusion" anyway) is important to me, re: Bdsm activity w/someone else.

Of course, I feel I can always "force" myself to do anything I want, he.
Alone, that is.

- Susan

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