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Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 7:01:22 AM

georgejames68

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I seem to be seeing more and more of profiles by submissive ladies seeking submissive ladies. It seems a bit odd to me, but it's happening a lot lately. Perhaps it also happens on the male side too, but men aren't my bag, so I don't read those messages. Like to hear from those who feel that way as to what the attraction is? I would think that a submissive would gravitate toward the offsetting/compensating dominant person.... am I missing something? Got my curiosity up!!! george_james68

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 8:31:11 AM

mstrjx

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That would be 'submissive ladies seeking submissive ladies for their male dominant partner'. They already HAVE a partner.

Perhaps that makes a little more sense.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 8:41:04 AM

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I am seeking one for myself and I suppose him also. I don't really want a dominate woman, but I miss having one. I am hoping to find a sister, and I am sure others are also.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 9:13:49 AM

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hello,

plus, subs are on sale....59 cents each!

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 12:16:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: georgejames68

I seem to be seeing more and more of profiles by submissive ladies seeking submissive ladies. It seems a bit odd to me, but it's happening a lot lately. Perhaps it also happens on the male side too, but men aren't my bag, so I don't read those messages. Like to hear from those who feel that way as to what the attraction is? I would think that a submissive would gravitate toward the offsetting/compensating dominant person.... am I missing something? Got my curiosity up!!! george_james68

(Raises hand)....I'm one of the submissives that my profile states looking for female submissives.

For me, I'm looking to explore the sensuality with a woman, not a Dominant adventure from my side or theirs at this point in time.

Contrary to popular belief all subs aren't pimping for their Master; however I would if he asked, but he is MORE than capable or picking up women or submissive women.

He got me hook line and sinker!

Best wishes,
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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 12:19:55 PM

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I hate when I see something afterward... I meant a dominant woman, not dominate.

Yes, I know it's anal to fix it now..but I can't help it.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 1:50:35 PM

tricia

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I am also looking for other bisexual submissives. While I enjoy the intimacy of being with a woman - i have no desire to submit to a dominant woman in any way, shape or form. Nor do I switch.

While my profile states I would like to find a woman to join my Master and I - I am surely not pimping for him. He is more than capable of finding a submissive who will serve him outside of our relationship. My goal is to find someone who has a desire to join us. In the meantime, as my profile states - He more than encourages me to play with other couples as a way to broaden my mind and my experience.

Just to touch on what sleazybutterfly said - I am not looking for a 'sister' and have my own personal doubts as to whether a harmonious relationship of that nature can even exist. But that's another thread.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/7/2007 2:05:46 PM

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My Master would like a second slave to serve with me, and I think the right person would be a nice addition. He conducts his own search, however. My profile simply says I'm open to it, and invites anyone to contact me about it if they wish. I am not in the habit of contacting other girls for this purpose. I have contacted submissives who are local to me from time to time, simply because I think it would be nice to have local friends who can relate to what the heck I'm doing. No pimping here, lol, if so, I'd have a cool hat or something.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/8/2007 6:16:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: curiouslyseeking

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ORIGINAL: georgejames68

I seem to be seeing more and more of profiles by submissive ladies seeking submissive ladies. It seems a bit odd to me, but it's happening a lot lately. Perhaps it also happens on the male side too, but men aren't my bag, so I don't read those messages. Like to hear from those who feel that way as to what the attraction is? I would think that a submissive would gravitate toward the offsetting/compensating dominant person.... am I missing something? Got my curiosity up!!! george_james68

(Raises hand)....I'm one of the submissives that my profile states looking for female submissives.

For me, I'm looking to explore the sensuality with a woman, not a Dominant adventure from my side or theirs at this point in time.

Contrary to popular belief all subs aren't pimping for their Master; however I would if he asked, but he is MORE than capable or picking up women or submissive women.

He got me hook line and sinker!

Best wishes,
~curious~

ooo! lol i completly am with you on here curious :) im very bi-curious and well I really dont want a Dominant Woman would settle for one but would really want a submissive woman, just becouse I know we would both be... "equal" in a sense...equal in our directions.. we just wanna explore... not Dominant or submit, just have fun *evil grin*

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/8/2007 6:23:19 PM

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Most of the sub women I have met that are seeking other sub women are doing so for one main reason. If they are going to be joined in a family, they want to know who will be joining them. I can most definately see the reasoning. If I were going to share my home, my life and my partner with someone else, I would want to make sure it was someone I connected to on a very major level. How better to make sure there is that connection between the subs than for them to seek one another out?
Also, some submissive women are just not interested in a woman to Dominate them. Their interest in other women are sexual, not lifestyle. Finding a submissive woman is a better fit, since there wil be no power struggle or want to submit. I can understand that well too.
I do not see much of this on the male side, but then again most males do not wish to find themselves brothers to serve a mistress. From the interactions I have been part of and privy to, male subs dont share quite as comfortably as their female counterparts.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/8/2007 8:48:03 PM

Passion357

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Greetings,

quote:

ORIGINAL: PolyButterfly

I am seeking one for myself and I suppose him also. I don't really want a dominate woman, but I miss having one. I am hoping to find a sister, and I am sure others are also.

I am seeking a slave for him, a sister for me, and any friends that happen along the way...
I already have my own girl under consideration, so for now, I am not seeking that.
Yes I seek submissive women, or those who are already slave, because there is not a place in our Family, at present, for a Dominant woman.

Just my 2 pies worth
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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/10/2007 10:30:17 PM

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It is always nice to find someone that one can relate to, especially in those times when it is hard to decide if one's Dom has "gone too far." A strong grounding with another sub can be very helpful.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/11/2007 12:58:55 AM

ownedkitten

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Most of the sub women I have met that are seeking other sub women are doing so for one main reason. If they are going to be joined in a family, they want to know who will be joining them. I can most definately see the reasoning. If I were going to share my home, my life and my partner with someone else, I would want to make sure it was someone I connected to on a very major level. How better to make sure there is that connection between the subs than for them to seek one another out?
Also, some submissive women are just not interested in a woman to Dominate them. Their interest in other women are sexual, not lifestyle. Finding a submissive woman is a better fit, since there wil be no power struggle or want to submit. I can understand that well too.

This post sums it up well in terms of how it went for us. Master was interested in taking on another sub/slave, and one of her primary duties was to be my companion and partner as well. So it was very important that she and I connect as people, not just s-type women.

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RE: Submissive seeking submissive - 4/11/2007 5:05:10 AM

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Sub women who seek sub-women...

As with most aspects of BDSM, there are many sub-categories. As a dom, I am always looking for the sub girl who submits to a male, but will take charge of another sub woman....be the alpha-sub.

Being the dom of two subs, but having my commands to the beta sub transmitted through a 'chain of command' adds layers of complexity to the mastery. And--telling the alpha, in general terms, what you want done, and let her gain that result in her own way---serving directly herself, directing the oother girl woman-to-woman is a rich experience....but only when the alpha and beta subs desire those roles, want to make it work.

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