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Elorin -> RE: spoiling your Master for something (4/16/2007 7:26:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: rollinonward05
This goes along with the spoiling Master thread in Ask a Master.
If you spoil your Master/Mistress with massages, candy, sex and all the other things mentioned in that thread why do you do it? Is it unconditional or because you want something or this leads to something you want ( or think you need)?
Many of the things that were mentioned are not really spoiling your Master but the duties of a slave .
Just curious to see how many here do sometimes do things to gain something by it. I admit to doing so myself on occasion lol. That is only human....
While I'm sure that you feel that many of the things I do to spoil Sir are the duties of a slave, it is not one of Sir's practices to have as a "duty" something that leaves me unable to work. He used to get daily massages from me - at least 45 minutes of every time we were together. The pain in my hands and wrists when I went out into the workplace again became debilitating. Now a massage for Sir is a treat, not a duty. He can order me to do it, but he doesn't, instead choosing to ask for one and accept my judgement on whether my hands and wrists can handle it. I'm under orders to stop if I begin to feel pain.
Any of the things I do for Sir he could order me to do. He could do it in the moment or he could say "It is your job to do X Y times a day/week/what have you." But that is obedience. Spoiling Sir is when I do those things for him without him having to ask. Spoiling Sir is when I put all of my own personal cares and concerns aside and focus attention solely on him.
I'm sure that ideally, I would be in this mindset all the time. Unfortunately, I have to deal with bus routes, infuriating co-workers, that hideous thing called money, an ex-husband, bills, physical illness, mental illness, and to top it all off, pets that are demanding, inconsiderate, and do things like hack up hairballs in the middle of a scene on Easter day ~mutter mutter grumble grumble clean up wet hairball after a scene b/c I stepped on the nasty wet thing~.
Most of the time, Sir wants me to be his partner. Even if I can't sit on the furniture, or I'm washing dishes in the open cup chemise and black stockings and 4" heels, he understands if I think about myself, if we speak as equals, if I leave the room without asking. Hell, asking every time I leave the room would grate on both of our nerves.
But sometimes he asks me to focus on just him. And sometimes I decide to focus on just him and put all of my needs aside. And that is when I am spoiling him. It may be just for 3 minutes while I take off his socks and shoes, or for an hour while I give him a massage, but doing something that is just for him without him asking is spoiling him.
And why do I do it? I love the look on Sir's face when he tells me how spoiled he is. I love it when I can see that he has not just heard, but felt emotionally and spiritually as well as intellectually HOW MUCH I love him. I do it because it makes him happy, and I like making him happy.
And yep, there are ulterior motives. Being called good girl makes me purr. Hearing him say "I love you..." in that way of his after he is a puddle of goo from a massage is something I'd walk on hot coals to hear. Giving him regular massages means that he feels better all around which means I get laid more often and more vigorously. Giving him regular massages means he's better tempered with me - and with others - because he isn't in pain. Scrubbing his body all over or giving a full body rub is an excuse to get up close and personal with every inch of his body, and I'm all for touching him everywhere I can. Many of the things I do for Sir to spoil him make him all about being turned on, and they turn me on too, so I'm all for mutual arousal and the things it tends to lead to....
Excuse me, I now need a cold shower.
~E
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