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When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 10:54:15 AM   
love2tieup


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Status: offline 		Was reading an informative article posted here on collarme.com (thank you),
http://www.browardpalmbeach.com/2007-03-01/news/tie-me-up-nawashi/full, and found it very interesting how a person who needs to experience and live the B/D, S&M lifestyle, first figured out they were turned on by bondage. Some of the examples include first seeing a tied up girl on the cover of a Detective magazine, or seeing a comic book cover of Wonder Woman tied and gagged, or even playing cowboys and indians as a child. Could you please share your first urges/experiences toward bondage that you can remember?

I remember fantasizing as a child (10 or so) about tying up a girl and keeping her at my "fort" (made from scraps of wood) in the woods. I definitely was influenced by comic book damsels and how sexy they were bound and gagged. This actually led to tying myself up (age 13?), a loop from my bathrobe tied in a small loop and forced over my wrists behind my back, a gag always in place before I began.

I was taken to a new level when I found some hidden pulp bondage magazines at the barber shop I swept at night in high school. These B&W magazines were exactly what I wanted my tied up girls to look like. I loved these magazines!

And finally, in college I chanced on a great girlfriend who, while making out in her room one night, pretended to not want to be kissed. At first I was taken aback, but she persisted on kissing me and roll playing me into attacking her, asking me to tie and gag her to a metal pole in her room. This was the beginning of my real life search for a girl who really enjoyed being tied up. And at 47, I'm still as horny and in need of bondage as ever, having accepted it will always be a strong influence in my life.

Any other good stories out there?
Thanks!

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 11:02:26 AM   
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http://www.collarchat.com/m_801288/mpage_1/key_innate/tm.htm#801320
What event or series of events leads one to become Dominant or Submissive?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_575022/mpage_1/key_cyber%252Csex/tm.htm#575202
who taught you about bdsm?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_615627/mpage_1/key_cyber%252Csex/tm.htm#615885
bdsm humble beginnings

http://www.collarchat.com/m_693002/mpage_1/key_cyber%252Csex/tm.htm#693352
first time submissive feelings


http://www.collarchat.com/m_744252/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#744266
Do you think you were "born this way"?

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naturally Ds?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_499963/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#499979
Nature or nurture?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_307130/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#307130
Do you feel being a dom/me is innate or can be learned?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_461558/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#461558
hard-wired, why why why!

http://www.collarchat.com/m_143698/mpage_1/key_born%252Craised/tm.htm#143698
nature versus nurture

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born to serve?

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nature vs nurture

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born or learned, how we become dom?


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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 11:26:27 AM   
love2tieup


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Status: offline 		Thank you LuckyAlbatross for all the previous similar postings. will read them all!

Would still like more stories from our members!

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 12:17:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, the playground, kids running and pretending, and someone has to be the bad guy.   Innocent and not at the same time.  A seed that grew into a need.



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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 12:28:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unrelated to sensual context I imagined when I was little (say around 5) that I could feel ropes holding my crossed wrists over my head and across my crossed ankles much like I was a slave in a boat tied into my little thin bed.
It was a great comfort to lay in that position and pretend I was tied into my bed for the night.
I found bondage as something hot sensually at around 20 when I was tied with panty hose or mens ties to my bed during sex.
Once I found BDSM  2 years ago and researched bondage more thoroughly I can say it's one of my very white hottest fetishes.
suzanne

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 12:43:25 PM   
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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 12:46:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		In my early '30s but then fell for it in a big way.

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 12:57:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		hello to fellow "bondageneers",
 
I was 30-years-old and got introduced to breast bondage...then, I grew curious and wanted everything "bondaged".....the whole she-bang...
 
I never in my wildest dreams would have thought rope could lead me on a journey such as this.
 
Twists and turns,
~curious~

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 1:09:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		My earliest memory of enjoying bondage and the like , though I didn't realize it at the young age of course , was when I was around 8 or 9 and myself and a male childhood friend I knew my whole life would act out kidnapping scenes where I would always end up being tied up and gagged..much of the inspiration at the time being innocent enough from comic books and movies. I can still recall the feelings I went through..feeling of happiness..enjoyment..longing and dissapointment when it all ended. That is the earliest I remember but there could be very well other times. It wasn't until I was around 17 or so and stumbled across some softcore porn on skinimax where the young woman not much older than myself was tied up and tortured immensely by both touching and being spanked roughly unable to move..just watching such an act was enough to send me over the edge.

I was not sexually active until I was 20 and my first boyfriend after a few months tied me up..I had never imagined the feeling would be so amazing to feel the rope brush agaainst my skin as I tried to squirm away and feeling the tightness turned me on in ways I never knew possible. As he left me there ands just paced around admiring me.I felt so secure..loving that he enjoyed surveying me like a predator before a kill.

Fast forward a few years and I ended up dating another man who was the changing point in my life for sure. We had a very solid sexual relationship and the subject of fantasies came up..and as I explained my submissive nature and what I not only felt but knew to be a part of my very being..he confided in me that he had always wnated to be dominant over a woman. Though for him it was more sexual and for me and he understood it was much more than that..it was a need to serve and please.  It was as if my greatest dreams had been answered..he took me to many different levels of pain , pleasure , torture and exploration that I am grateful for everyday. THough the relationship went sour , had I not been involved with him there is no way of knowing if I ever would have fully accepted and continued to explore my true self that I continue to this day.

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 1:40:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		As early as I can clearly remember I was into being tied up.

I always read comics and loved movies, any scenes in those with any type of bondage got me secretly excited. My earliest memory of seeing this type of thing was in a pretty gay show called He-Man. The prince guy who turned into He-Man was chained up by his ankles in a cave so that he could not reach his sword which was the key to his power. I also believe this silly episode of television was also responsible for my sock fettish, as the boots the character wore was drawn to look somewhat like long socks.

As I grew older, I began to collect things like rope and handcuffs. Then, when freinds would come over and see those things, they would sometimes tie me up or lock me up with them, which I pretended not to want to do but secretly loved. This is when I also started to think- "do I like guys?" which I later figured out I do.

In High School, I would always try to leave ropes or the like somewhere in sight. When friends of mine got drunk(who were always athletes of some kind- stronger than me who is skinny) they would sometimes use the rope or cuffs to tie me up. I was very happy when this happened. One freind who always had girlfriends but seemed to have some gay tendencies took the handcuffs to his house. I immediately went to the Army/Navy store to by more :) When I would sleep over his house, he would once in a while take them out and lock me up for the whole night. I can at least remember 2 instances of that happening.

I am almost 30 now, but since HS have had few instances of actual bondage play. Still into it though, just very careful as family and freinds are always close by and I am one of those ppl who cares what other ppl think, even tho I wish I didnt.

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 2:01:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Until I discovered bondage I was a pretty confirmed B cup man.  I mean they feel nice and you don't have to wear a bra.  Then I discovered bondage and understand why god made breasts and there is nothing finer that a beautiful rack on a beautiful brunette all trussed up for my pleasure!

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 2:27:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been into for as long as I can remember in some way or another.  I think I tied up my first girlfriend when I was like 14 however I didnt get really into it deeply until the internet came along and sites like CM opened up ... thats when I went from bedposts and tabletops to suspention. I love it... every aspect of it and I could not be involved with a woman without bondage being a part of it.  Fotunatly, I have never known a woman to say no to it.

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 2:42:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't clearly remember what first drew me to bondage or anything, but I always liked the feel of being tied up, mostly just tying anything that could be used as a rope around my wrists when I was younger.
I remember when I first discussed it being my fantasy. I was around 14 or so and at a sleepover. We were all bringing up our biggest fantasies and they all thought I was nuts haha. In high school was a tomboy and used to take auto body. I would pick with the guys and usually win by default. Finally one guy in the class saw me winning against another one and told him that he would show him how to handle me. I was laughing at him when he grabbed my arms and pinned me fast against the wall. I remember not being able to move my wrists, because I tried, I remember looking up at him (he was a foot taller than me), I remember something on the wall digging into my back, and I remember being instantly aroused. He knew it too haha. But those are my earlier memories 

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 5:45:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't clearly remember when it came on me, but I knew I was intrigued by it since my "early years" as a kid.

Giving up that control was something I desired and dreaded, as I know many here can understand. 

So now I look forward to bondage, whether simple or elaborate.   Inside tied to a papasan chair (without the cusion!) or outside for hours tied to the tree and blindfolded.

I hope we get back to it sooner rather than later.  I sure miss it and having Mrs. C involved makes it so much more fulfilling with all those trust bits.


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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 6:17:22 PM   
love2tieup


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Status: offline 		Thank you kuffed kitten for your expert recount of your bondage past and present. You are a great young lady!

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 6:20:27 PM   
love2tieup


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Status: offline 		Great story forgedesire. makes me want to visit you and tie you up for the night!

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/9/2007 10:36:12 PM   
KuffedKitten


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Status: offline 		Thank You kindly for the more than generous compliments both here and in the mail sent towards this one. I have had more experiences as well but was trying to be to the point as much as possible and with myself being a writer , I tend to draw things out too far at times.  This girl is happy to hear You were pleased with the recount of her past.

--kuffed

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/10/2007 1:49:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I first knew for a fact I was "into" bondage was age 7.
I roleplayed a scene with my then boyfriend.
In our underwear-no less...
We pretended we were married and I was sassing him something fierce...so (without any ropes of any kind) he pretended to tie me up and gag me...and he had a (imaginary) remote control that un gagged me.
He would pace the room lecturing me and I would nod or shake my head. When he was satisfied I would "submit" he's press the imaginary button on the remote and "ungag" me...then of course I'd sass again and he'd hit the button, causing my mouth to snap shut (LMAO...) and begin his lecture/pace...

I suppose this went on for about 30 mins, maybe 15 hell who knows..we were young...only as much time as we could spare while our parents were downstairs.
(We lived in an apartment complex and had the only 2 story, all that was on the second story was my room )

After that and he moved away etc etc I moved back in with my grandparents there was no way I would get that much privacy- much less get to shut my bedroom door...so I acted out scene with a girl (Heather) from my second grade class. (still age 7)
We pretended this "old man" kept us tied up in his attic and would come up and beat up with belts whenever he felt like it.
Now we kept this up only on the phone and in our stories to each other at school.
THAT'S when I knew I wasn't alone as a female with these urges.
(I dont' know what she did but at home at night or when Grandma napped I'd lay out my trusty comforter on my wooden toy box, big enough for 2 kids of age 9 to fit in, and I'd pretend that was the attic and I'd tie myself with various things and spank myself with my own belts as well as masterbate while pretending the "old man" was raping me)

The fantasies with Heather continued through 3rd grade and esculated to boyfriends we had. We'd pretend they did various nasty mean things to us and told each other stories. Of course the boys didn't have a clue what was being said. And we knew this was all fantasy...though I wonder how Heather faired...

3rd grade (age 8) marked the beginning of bondage play with others. At school, playground, boys chase girls and bring them back to a certain basketball goal and "tie them" to it, usually by wrapping their arms around the post, (grils had to clasp their fingers together) and the girls who were running free had to get back to the post, past the guards (the boys not chasing), and simply touch a girls wrists to untie her...

You know come to think of it...how in the hell did we get away with this shit with teachers watching???
Could you IMAGINE being a teacher now and seeing this...watching "the chase"...seeing the girls light up when they are caught...and the boys when the tie them...omg! I couldn't teach! LOL

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/11/2007 11:26:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have always been into kidnapping stories, damsel in distress.  My mom gave me some romance novels when I was 13.  I started picking up one that dealt w/ abduction and harem stories.  In my 20's, I roleplayed w/ several boyfriends/lovers.  I brought my then fiance-now husband/Master into the lifestyle w/ me.  We are learning day by day.

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RE: When did your bondage interest begin? - 4/11/2007 11:41:17 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

Unrelated to sensual context I imagined when I was little (say around 5) that I could feel ropes holding my crossed wrists over my head and across my crossed ankles much like I was a slave in a boat tied into my little thin bed.
It was a great comfort to lay in that position and pretend I was tied into my bed for the night.
I found bondage as something hot sensually at around 20 when I was tied with panty hose or mens ties to my bed during sex.
Once I found BDSM  2 years ago and researched bondage more thoroughly I can say it's one of my very white hottest fetishes.
suzanne


I am always amazed by non sexual bondage.... my interested lay in other areas so that idea is conmpletly abstract to me... If I may ask about your opinion about why bondage gives you a feeling of security?
If that is too personal I will understand, but could you drop me a line on the otherside then?

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