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ocilla -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (6/30/2007 7:57:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

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ORIGINAL: MzMiaI have a caveat to add, it would be "nice" to have a male wife that did all or most of the chores.But, I realistically DON'T expect it. If anything it would be shared responsiblities most of the time.
 
To me, my concept of a "male wife" is mainly about the dynamics of power, control and obedience.
A lifestyle Dominant woman/submissive man relationship!
Living that way, not just "playing" it on Friday nights or when in the mood to role-play.
Imagine that?
Traditionally the "wife" is a helpmate to a Dominant male husband. In a role reversal, I AM the DOMINANT party---he is my helpmate/submissive.
Yes please I want this exactly!


Exactly! I think I mentioned this as well on the sister thread I started on this. For example I enjoy cooking. It isn't a chore to me and it's something that relaxes me. Something about all that chopping, slicing and smashing that gets out some aggression I suppose. On the other hand I usually leave the kitchen looking like a whirlwind went through it despite my completely organized mise en place (ahhhaa I see your pro chef experience showing  - me too on the sentiment and the experience - appreciate seeing that here. lol) . So I love the creation and devouring...the clean up...not so much.

I'm perfectly capable of fixing the disposall, I own quite a collection of power tools and my tool box is better stocked than most men's that I know. I can stud, hang and mud drywall as well. So I don't need a male wife to handle these things for me; I'm more than capable of handling them myself. I do however want a male wife that has the desire to make my life easier and take over handling the things I don't have the time to do. One that will do them because I've requested them to, not because I can't do them, but because he wants to do them.
Yes! I long for this.
Some things, like cooking are even better if it's something the male wife and I can do together. Although he better remember he's responsible for turning off the burners when things become a little too heated. [;)]



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (6/30/2007 11:40:00 AM)

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organized mise en place (ahhhaa I see your pro chef experience showing  - me too on the sentiment and the experience - appreciate seeing that here. lol)


Thanks Ocilla, but I'm not even close to a pro chef. Just a great deal of study, some classes here and there and alot of experimentation. Some of which concluded with rather hilarious faces being made and then a call to the favorite Thai take out.



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (6/30/2007 7:02:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

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ORIGINAL: MzMiaI have a caveat to add, it would be "nice" to have a male wife that did all or most of the chores.But, I realistically DON'T expect it. If anything it would be shared responsiblities most of the time.
 
To me, my concept of a "male wife" is mainly about the dynamics of power, control and obedience.
A lifestyle Dominant woman/submissive man relationship!
Living that way, not just "playing" it on Friday nights or when in the mood to role-play.
Imagine that?
Traditionally the "wife" is a helpmate to a Dominant male husband. In a role reversal, I AM the DOMINANT party---he is my helpmate/submissive.
Yes please I want this exactly!


Exactly! I think I mentioned this as well on the sister thread I started on this. For example I enjoy cooking. It isn't a chore to me and it's something that relaxes me. Something about all that chopping, slicing and smashing that gets out some aggression I suppose. On the other hand I usually leave the kitchen looking like a whirlwind went through it despite my completely organized mise en place (ahhhaa I see your pro chef experience showing  - me too on the sentiment and the experience - appreciate seeing that here. lol) . So I love the creation and devouring...the clean up...not so much.

I'm perfectly capable of fixing the disposall, I own quite a collection of power tools and my tool box is better stocked than most men's that I know. I can stud, hang and mud drywall as well. So I don't need a male wife to handle these things for me; I'm more than capable of handling them myself. I do however want a male wife that has the desire to make my life easier and take over handling the things I don't have the time to do. One that will do them because I've requested them to, not because I can't do them, but because he wants to do them.
Yes! I long for this.
Some things, like cooking are even better if it's something the male wife and I can do together. Although he better remember he's responsible for turning off the burners when things become a little too heated. [;)]


I know, I quote the quote they quoted! lol.
 
I agree with the above, want the same things in my man, and can do many diy things myself. It's the whole Dynamic relationship I seek. The full support of someone who lives for it, gets high on it, and the thai food, of course. (wink)
 
 



bettamorphasis -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/20/2007 12:17:47 PM)

WANTED one male wife.. with detachable testicles  and latin style furry chest for public roleplay/decoy  preferably with silver spoon up his ass and Hot Pink Ferrari..must moan in bed even when has headache...and insist we go to his mothers for lunch after church..yeah  that gets me wet!!!!!!!!!



AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/20/2007 8:06:50 PM)

I'd LOVE to have a male wife!! I'm training a sissy at the Academy this month that I'm hoping will be owning material soon but in the meantime I'm going to keep looking for that male wife of my dreams.

he better like cooking because I like eating, and I don't do dishes!! :)



Thomas13 -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/20/2007 9:00:42 PM)

I really love the concept of being a male wife, with a very dominant female husband. The total role reversal really adds so much to the overall relationship and defines the roles of each the Domme and sub pefectly



MzMia -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/20/2007 9:13:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Thomas13

I really love the concept of being a male wife, with a very dominant female husband. The total role reversal really adds so much to the overall relationship and defines the roles of each the Domme and sub pefectly


Well stated thomas13, that is the main concept "Complete total role reversal".
I so love the idea of having my little man in the kitchen cooking my dinner, and please
fetch me a beer.[:D]



puppy4 -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 12:57:52 AM)

i love the idea of male wife, the unltimate in a Mistress/slave relationship. i am going to suggest it my next long term relationship. Not sure of the rules, does the woman propose to the man?



EmpassionedRogue -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 11:07:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
I did it the other way, been there, got the ring and T-shirt, won't marry vanilla ever again!** [sm=ugh.gif]


house husband, house-mouse... male wife.. is there a differance?  sounds... actually qite relaxing.  limited responsibilites except for maaaybe a part time job out of the home  (or better yet working from home itself), house, home and Most importantly: Her. I can see the attraction really well. ive been on the other side.. ut uh.. never again. as you say Miss Mia & i really couldnt agree more.

@ BayouSub:  why should he care what others NOT in the relationship have to think or say?  it isnt about them at all.  hell with em. then again, im not normal by any means.  :)

@ AAlasha:  i have to disagree im afraid Miss. on several points.

lack of social interaction with peers... eh.. some of us dont have that problem. i dono about many, but im asocial. i dont need a lot beyond a very small group. minimul peer interaction beyond that... is totally fine with me. even ideal.

Peer Pressure isnt a problem at all... if you have none or choose the peers you do interact with, with care. and largly if you do, the annoying rest can be ignored as.. really not worthy of the respect to listen to. so, what's it matter what they say?

ladder climbing?  who cares?  job satisfaction in this case is by pleaseing the domme. really, what could be More rewarding?  Her pleasure, is Mine.

intellectual growth Miss, hardly stops just because of one's home situation. there's always new challanges and obsticles to overcome. always.  is just a change of one set, for another.

the rest.. is largly up to the indivual and couple, but very positivly doable.



MzMia -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 11:11:16 AM)

EmpassionedRouge, there is nothing for "society" to notice.
I am NOT seeking a house husband, we both bring home the bacon {in my home}.

Now I am not opposed to a male wife that wants his Mistress to stay home,
and can support them both on his income.
That gives the male wife something to strive for and he should be attempting to increase his salary.
 
Of course IF the Mistress does not have to work, she will even cook him a meal! [:D]
Understanding he must do the dishes. 



DrkJourney -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 11:14:31 AM)

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AAkasha -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 11:27:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

EmpassionedRouge, there is nothing for "society" to notice.
I am NOT seeking a house husband, we both bring home the bacon {in my home}.

Now I am not opposed to a male wife that wants his Mistress to stay home,
and can support them both on his income.
That gives the male wife something to strive for and he should be attempting to increase his salary.
 
Of course IF the Mistress does not have to work, she will even cook him a meal! [:D]
Understanding he must do the dishes. 


I've had a lot of experience (more than 5 years) with the male wife, including times when he worked full time vs.  not worked at all.   In my experience, the only way it can run with full harmony is when the man does not work.  Any man who is worth his salt as a worker will have some devotion to his career and job; he will have another "boss" besides me.  Work consumes and distracts people.  You bring home work "troubles."  You have bad days.  You have deadlines.  Often, you have bosses that make demands that creep into your personal life.

My pleasure comes from having a man who has one boss: me.  No one competes for my time and no one distracts him or saps his personal, emotional or mental energy.  There's nothing like the devotion of a man with full energy to spend on making my life easier, handling all the domestic duties and having enough energy and lack of distraction to be ready physically for any sexual needs I have -- whether it be 4am or 10am.   Face it - employment is distracting!

Of course, it's not easy for two people to live on one income, but I have lived both a financially thrilling lifestyle (with dual income, no kids) and a more conservative lifestyle (on one salary, mine) and gladly trade all the extra cash and glamour to have a full time WIFE as a husband.  I am the envy of all my girlfriends; yet, none of them are willing to have their men stay HOME because they want all the money goodies that come from having two incomes.  You can't have both!

I'm reminded of these differences between a man who is a "wife" and also works because my stay-at-home-submissive/husband just recently started working part time.  And even though it is part time, it clearly does CRAMP our lifestyle, because there's something competing with me for time and MINDshare.  I don't like that; I like his focus to be on my pleasure.  He devotes himself 100% to everything he does, so his little part time gig is causing some re-adjustment in our lives, and I may opt to eventually tell him to quit.  The money is makes is totally insignificant; he does this only because it's a hobby he could only take to a certain level, and this apprenticeship, so to speak, is more for learning.   Still, it ruffles my feathers if my time with him is compromised or he is ever, god forbid, too tired to do something I require.

Having a fulltime "wife" is absolute paradise.  I won't settle for part time.

Akasha



MzMia -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 12:38:54 PM)

As all things in life AAkasha, to each their own.
I have business projects that will allow me to retire early,and run my business from home.
I have always planned to retire EARLY, with or without a mate so that has ALWAYS been my
plan/dream.
That said, the TYPE of man I enjoy is the TYPE that really needs to get OUT of the house, work and make money.
In fact, I will be retired for years {running my business} and he will continue working.
I probably will have to MAKE him stop.
Again, this is MY preference and the LIFE that I want. 
I tend to like men that are professionally driven and can afford to pay for a maid service, lawn services, etc.
Aren't good maid services and lawn services great?  I tend to prefer successful men at my age, not someone poor, just starting out or struggling to eck out a living.

I also am working on adopting, so IF anyone stays home, again it will be me.[:D]
 
Something does not set right with ME working, and the man at home unless he is sick, handicapped or disabled.
Again......that is ME. 
It is something that I am not interested in, I enjoy a man that is career driven.

As always to each their own.
I am fortunate to find men that want to maintain their day jobs AND be my wife.
In fact, I will make his lunch and cook him dinner.[:D]

Would it not be great to have my wife work to make OUR lives better and I stay home?
When I was married my vanilla husband gave me his check and I gave him an allowance and took care of the bills, and the running of the home.
I ENJOY controlling the home, and the maid services, lawn services, will help me maintain it.
Some women prefer to keep their wife home, Some {as I do} want him to pursue and be SUCCESSFUL $$$$$ in HIS  career, isn't it great to have a choice!
 
**Lets see, you can QUIT your 6 figure income job that you love, so you can stay home to cook, clean, and do yard work? and I freaking have to work?????**

AH that would be, no![sm=whap.gif]  Let me add, HELL NO!!!!!, unless you are sick or disabled. I am NOT supporting any able bodied grown ass man, that is not even a relative.


In fact my ex-husband doubled almost now tripled his income, because I am the type that WILL motivate YOU to be successful.[:D] 

Each couple can pick what is best for them!
Viva la difference.



MistressCara -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 12:55:04 PM)

lol never thought about this before but, yeah.... good plan!! :)



ocilla -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 2:00:41 PM)

I am right there with you MzMia.  I run a non profit organization - the goal is to accomplish our mission of saving the planet as opposed to increasing a bottom line - we run the organization as frugally as possible in order to make what dollars come in help advance our cause rather than line our pockets. It's exciting and important work but not the kind of work that will support a male wife who does not work too.  And if he makes enough to gtive us some extra comforts of a house and garden help all the better.  Of course even as the husband/dominant that does not mean that I would not pitch in and cook (I love cooking anyway but hate the cleaning up after so he cleans) or shop or participate in gardening, walk the dog or do the recycling or compost and such - I like doing those things.  Nesting and being part of a house hold does not nessessairly divide D/s and nesting is a strong and pleasing instinct for me - but each of us is her own woman I suppose.  Balancing both our jobs is likely to be a challenge but then I do not know of a single couple where both parties do not have to work to make ends meet.  The Census indicates that this is the way it is in the US economy now and is not likely changing anytime soon.  And too, I do like my fella/wife to have some strong professional desires, ambition and interests - it opens our lives to other interests and ideas.  He would not be able to take a typical or old school male approach of "my job comes first" and if a conflict arises we will work it out - but he knows I come first.  And, I do not want to be the sole light in his life.  I want to be the overwhelmingly brightest and warmest and most satisfying light in his life but not the only one.  Now a shameless plug - I live in Georgia and I am excepting applications for a male wife. Send your credentials and you will be considered.  tee hee.



MzMia -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 2:07:02 PM)

Ahhhh I totally agree with you Ocilla and good luck!
The "potential" male wife I am talking to currently, approached me and his first email
included the line "I want to be a male wife!".

hehehe
I have it on my profile, so they have a clue what I am seeking.
Good luck!



petdave -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 7:20:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
That said, the TYPE of man I enjoy is the TYPE that really needs to get OUT of the house, work and make money.
In fact, I will be retired for years {running my business} and he will continue working.
I probably will have to MAKE him stop.
Again, this is MY preference and the LIFE that I want. 
I tend to like men that are professionally driven and can afford to pay for a maid service, lawn services, etc.
Aren't good maid services and lawn services great?  I tend to prefer successful men at my age, not someone poor, just starting out or struggling to eck out a living.

I also am working on adopting, so IF anyone stays home, again it will be me.[:D]

(snip)

As always to each their own.
I am fortunate to find men that want to maintain their day jobs AND be my wife.
In fact, I will make his lunch and cook him dinner.[:D]



Okay, so you're staying home to take care of the UMs AND doing the cooking, the help is doing all the dirty work around the house, his most important role is slave to the grind... Where does the "male wife" part come in, when he tells You he's too tired for sex tonight? [8D]



switchsecrets -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 7:26:33 PM)

what if the Domme and the male wife both have enough money not to work  in a full-time career? then they can spend more time focusing on each other. 



ocilla -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 8:07:35 PM)

You know I can understand Aakasha's point of view on this as well.  Really - everyone's lives will be different and a malewife-femalehusband dynamic will take as many forms as would any relationship whether D/s or vanilla.  Life has demands that do not comply with out D/s desires and we can be as creative as possible but still have to exisit in the world.  I totally agree with your point Aakasha about choosing to have less money and material trappings in exchange for time, relationships, other pursuits that have nothing to do with all the material trappings our society is so addicted too.  But then sustainability and alternative economies as well as alternative relationships are what I am all about and I am definitely unusual in my thinking this way. Your money or your life, is a very valid approach but I have found that there are limits. 



MzMia -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (7/21/2007 8:26:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: switchsecrets

what if the Domme and the male wife both have enough money not to work  in a full-time career? then they can spend more time focusing on each other. 


I love that idea, focusing on each other and their heart's desires.
Hummmmmmmmmmm



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