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littleone35 -> Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:11:48 PM)
This is for all to answer. Now i know some things Masters/Doms do bother us(subs) a little sometimes. What i would like to know what is a total deal breaker for you?(Besides lying about being married) Matt's littleone

missturbation -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:18:23 PM)
Lack of honesty.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:20:15 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_526440/mpage_1/key_breaker/tm.htm#526448 Deal Breakers http://www.collarchat.com/m_154756/mpage_1/key_deal%252Cbreakers/tm.htm#154756 deal breakers (2) Reposted: My deal breakers are generally the same for all relationships, but with a few specific differences. Deal breakers tend to be the same as hard limits (in fact I'd consider using them as synonyms) though "deal breakers" can be more personality conflicts or personal issues that have nothing to do with any action or reaction on the d-side of the slash. For example "he never brushes his teeth, that's a deal breaker" doesn't mean that you have some limit on teeth brushing, simply that as a compatibility issue for forming a relationship with someone, it's not what you consider a good thing. But the two are so synonymous I don't think it would be wrong to use them the same way for the most part.

ayasha -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:22:24 PM)
Lying in general, not just about being married.

completenz -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:24:02 PM)
hi ditto from both of us C & c

damia -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:31:30 PM)
Coming directly from my 'playlist' which is basically a contract in that it is negotiated over time, and that it discusses everything I really LOVE, my fetishes, and my deal breakers, which read: Deal Breakers Deal breakers are things that could render a contract null and void or end a non-contracted relationship. Second chances happen, depending on the reasons for the actions. Malicious Conduct: Behaviours or actions done solely to hurt another, especially me, are deal breakers. Being cruel just for the sake of being cruel is not acceptable. There’s a difference between a humourous jab or a pratical joke and something planned just for the sake of doing harm. (Malicious conduct includes breaking a hard limit for the purpose of hurting me). Lying: A blatant lie told for cruel intent is a deal breaker. Lying in such a manner that affects me in a negative way is a deal breaker. I won’t lie to you, and I expect you to extend the same courtesy to me.

StellaByStarlite -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 1:52:22 PM)
Deal breakers as in... something that would stop me from getting involved with a person? Or deal breakers as in.. what it would take for me to end the relationship?

SusanofO -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 2:06:26 PM)
The following is a deal-breaker for me: Inhernet unfairness as far as what one requires of one's partner vs. oneself. For istance, my ex-Dom was Poly and was seeing others when we were together. I had no problem with this. What I had a problem with, was that he said he didn't mind if I was actively Poly as well - but he really did mind. And he wouldn't allow it, actually. I know the Dominant is dominant, etc., but I just find that kind of reasoning to be hard to stomach, when taken to an extreme. - Susan

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 2:21:56 PM)
my deal breaker with Daddy (besides lying and lack of committment) would be wanting to move our D/s relationship from monogamous to poly.

littleone35 -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 2:39:48 PM)
Deal breakers as in what would cause you to end a Relationship after you are already involved. Matt's littleone

jauntyone -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 2:58:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Deal breakers as in what would cause you to end a Relationship after you are already involved. Matt's littleone Greetings Release from Master would end our relationship. Death would end our relationship. Other than those two; there is nothing that would entice me to end the relationship that I have with Master. I wish you well melissa

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 3:56:14 PM)
that is a deal breaker for me. so i did answer your query correctly. i'm not interested in a poly relationship and if Daddy (He wouldn't but speaking hypothetically here) was to suggest that we move into a poly dynamic without discussing my concerns and feelings - i would uncollar myself walking away forever. it may sound childish to you however this is what happened with my last "Master". he wanted a poly ...actually a stable of women (he was into sales so he travelled a lot) and felt i should enjoy it even though i said i wasn't interested in becoming # whatever in his sexual barn. so i walked away. that's my deal breaker

slaveish -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 4:29:17 PM)
Intentional emotional or physical abuse (and I don't mean the sort of mind fucks / physical punishments he uses to correct my behavior). In short, if he flipped his wig one day and turned into a sociopath, it would end it. Lying is another big thing. If a man is not man enough to say "This is how things are so you deal with it or leave" then he is not man enough to Master me. If he has to lie, he is letting the potential consequences of my potential actions control him into lying to me, which essentially puts me in a Dominant position.

Quivver -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 4:53:55 PM)
Considering topic's have been covered, and limits or the extent of pushing of them stated and agreed to there is one HUGE deal breaker for me and that's action. All too often people talk, sell themselves, promise and have good intentions. But after a while, at some point talk has to turn to action or it's all a mute point.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 4:54:54 PM)
Deal breakers would be cheating on me serious lies done wityh intent to hide something he knows would get his hide in a sling. Telling me he couldn't come because he had to do something really important, and deciding to goof off.

lockedaway -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 4:59:38 PM)
Cheating (as opposed to polyamory) is a big deal breaker. Lieing in general pretty much will destroy the relationship. Probably anything other than duplicity can be overcome.

gypsygrl -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 5:03:12 PM)
Things that would make me end a relationship? In the past, I've ended relationships because of ceaseless button pushing and mind screws without consent, passive aggressive behavior, inconsistency between stated intentions and practice, defensive and evasive communication styles, unpredictability, and lack of respect. They're basically things that make me really unhappy.

hereyesruponyou -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 5:23:27 PM)
Lying, one big one or a constant little ones rank the same to me. Not being trustworthy or following through on things you promise. I am big on don't promise anything you do not KNOW you will do. For me smoking or excessive alcohol/drug use. Excessive to me is anything that controls your life and i do NOT play with people who are drunk or high, period.

minnetar -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 6:18:18 PM)
lies in general and not honoring the safeword. minnetar

Mercnbeth -> RE: Deal Breakers (4/12/2007 6:35:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 This is for all to answer. Now i know some things Masters/Doms do bother us(subs) a little sometimes. What i would like to know what is a total deal breaker for you?(Besides lying about being married) Matt's littleone being released. TOTAL deal-breaker.

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