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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 12:22:51 PM

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But I think the distinction is that not all online revolves on 'getting off'. Some of it is of the mind, just like BDSM...

Just to clarify, I was speaking specifically about cyber sex alone, not about online relationships.

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 1:19:11 PM

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I really enjoyed reading through this post...the main point I like best is...No one needs to be judgemental of another who chooses to do something different. I have never been able to understand some one who looks down their nose at others. What works for some is not meant for all, so why be a snob.

I also enjoyed the check list...I can already think of a few people who need this list!

Best wishes..

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 1:30:12 PM

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I also enjoyed the check list...I can already think of a few people who need this list!

Thanks! Although the concept was stolen from the comedian who does the "You may be a redneck if..."; the content is original.

So, what was your "score"? Wondering if I should move or copy it to the Polls area?

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 1:58:38 PM

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So, what was your "score"? Wondering if I should move or copy it to the Polls area?

I am guilty of scoring a two on the list...LOL, but what the heck. I was thinking about the You Might Be A Redneck jokes while I read throught the list, but then again...I always have to check my neck,lol. Love great humour here!

Imho, post the list in as many places as possible...People need to laugh more in this world.

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 6:28:09 PM

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Ugh.. does this test count if you're married to a computer geek? Or are a geek addict?

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Your know you have lost touch with reality and don’t have a life if…

…You know from memory how to make more than 5 “faces” or “emotional” expressions using keyboard letters and symbols.

…The last time a hug you received wasn’t typed as a chat message was more than 6 months ago.

…You don’t have “Real” friends.

Can I get a bit of lenience if all my real life friends live in a different state and we use the internet to keep in touch?

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Your know you have lost touch with reality and don’t have a life if…

…Your cat died because you didn’t feed it, your house plants died from lack of water, but your “cyber-pet” has 100% “Life-Force”.

…Your chair in front of the computer has more stains then your mattress.

…You can type faster with one hand than 90% of the people can type with two.

Well lucky for me hubby feeds the dog when he gets home. My houseplants almost died.. they're in recovery. But I never had a cyber-pet, took too much time away from my chatting. :)

I don't eat or drink in my bed, but I do at my computer.

Umm.. I use two hands to type... most of the time anyway *grins*

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Your know you have lost touch with reality and don’t have a life if…

…You believe that the person on the other end of the chat looks like the IM display image or the pictures they have sent you. And they believe the same of you.

…You start to get wet (or hard) at the sight of a computer terminal.

…You are seriously considering buying a “FuckU-FuckMe” peripheral for your computer. (You have to see this site: http://www.fu-fme.com/)

…You tell your friends that you’re “busy” when they ask you to join them for socializing after work and instead go home and log on to your computer.

*laughs* Only the people with the ugly pictures look like the picture they sent me. Everyone else is questionable.

Umm.. not at the sight... but sometimes at whats on the screen.

Damn.. does that drive work? *gets out her credit card*

Umm I don't work, and we already established my friends don't live here. But thanks for the reminder. *runs off to cry*

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Your know you have lost touch with reality and don’t have a life if…

…You’ve spent more than 5 minutes deciding your screen name.

…You have more than 1 profile on CollarMe, in case you want to disagree with yourself.

…The only sunrise or sunset you’ve seen is your screen saver.

…You have told people, and believe; that the most satisfaction you have ever gotten from a relationship is one you have maintained on-line.

Yes I have spent more than 5 minutes on my screen name. Thats because "V" was taken. *grumbles* So I had to find something else. I don't think i should be punished here cuz I'm picky.

I started a new ID when Mark and I split. Not that I ever used the other one or even remember the password now. But I think its still listed here somewhere.

Woo Hoo... Lately I've seen the sun rise from my bedroom/office window as I'm signing off to sleep. Does that count?

Crap.. Yes.. last night I told my best friend that the healthiest relationship I ever had was with Mark which was long distance and was unfortunately maintained by a significant amount of time online.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Your know you have lost touch with reality and don’t have a life if…

…Instead of going to bed with your spouse or significant other and making love or just holding them as you fall asleep, you say; “I’ll be right there” and go on the computer.

…You can’t wait to see a thread about the legitimacy of on-line relationships so you can rationalize that you are living a fulfilling life.

Ok.. to be fair.. hubby started it. And we no longer share a room, so its no longer an issue.

*sighs* I actually avoided this thread because I didn't want to realize how much of a loser I am. *laughs*

I'm a net addict. What do you want from me!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/22/2005 9:45:07 PM

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I don't think one or two is so sad. I bet there are some out there that would get an almost perfect score!

That was me about 4 years ago.

Fortunately i have discovered real life again.

Those are hilarious!!

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/23/2005 2:33:59 AM

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Thanks Mercnbeth...that link is hilarious....too bad they did not list a price though...*wicked grin*

*chuckles softly*...I do admit to one or two in that list

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/23/2005 4:47:41 AM

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I think the online/offline aspect is simply a tool if used properly. I met my wife and Co-Dominant on-line and I will be eternally grateful for that. As well, I have met and located several submissives on-line, some have panned out as friends, some have lived with us for a while and some were simply figments of their own imagination..lol. And I have simply met many like minded "stylers" through this electronic media that I would not have otherwise. But I have to believe if you are using it as a tool toward a goal of real time, it is a valuable asset, if you are using it to fulfill your urge to Dominate or be Dominated by someone..I won't pass judgement if that's your thing..but I hope someday you have the opportunity to take it that next step into reality. Yes, I do know of several "folks" who have no choice but to use it as a release and a way to be able to live out their BDSM yearnings, as their real life situation simply won't permit it, but I would hope the ultimate goal is to be R/L. In a nutshell, as long as they are honest about what they are on-line..who cares. As for if they mis-represent themselves and are living a lie..well there is an advantage to cyberfolks over the real life fakers...you can block and delete them, I haven't figured out how to legally do that to them in R/L.

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/24/2005 5:09:44 AM

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I am one of those "unfortunates" where online is my only link to BDSM. I am married, he doesn't like it ....thats the bottom line. Oh sure i have left hints....just last week i was waiting for him to pick me up and he was late. Told all the girls i was going to spank him when i got home, told him i was going to spank him when i got home...he laughed...we got home and i swatted his butt a few times. He smirked and told me i was sick *sighs*. I haven't recieved a hug in years...let alone been in the same bed with him. I want to find someone i can share what i am feeling without being referred to as a sicko. If it means going online and finding a "kindred" spirit to confide my feelings, share my "sounds", well then so be it. I haven't been online, got this computer two months ago, to say i am addicted. My pets are living, my daughter is sharing, and i still know how to cook as opposed to ordering out. I dunno i am not good at saying what i want to say so i will just say that people shouldn't look down on people who don't share their intersts. Sorry for the long post.

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/24/2005 8:58:13 AM

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I am one of those "unfortunates" where online is my only link to BDSM. I am married, he doesn't like it ....thats the bottom line. Oh sure i have left hints....

That was me a few years ago. Have you ever sat him down and had a serious discussion about your needs? I used to drop hints too, that didn't work, but the discussion did. That's when He said He wanted to learn to be my Master.

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RE: Offline/Online - 4/24/2005 5:19:47 PM

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Don't want to take up other peoples messages with my reply but, Yeah i've sat him down but I don't get too far before he gets up and leaves...maybe i'm just not saying it right I don't know....thanks for the encouragement though :)

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RE: Offline/Online - 5/16/2005 11:56:48 AM

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I find the only problem is when people who have only online experience try to act like it's the same as offline, when it isn't. It's a totally different type of relationship and they really can't be compared.

This is exactly correct. I do indeed enjoy both emmensely. Each is as different as baseball and softball...similar in some respect, yet vastly different in others.

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RE: Offline/Online - 5/16/2005 4:51:51 PM

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There is no way that on line can compare to real. The pc is so very limiting opposed to the sky is the limit in real life.

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RE: Offline/Online - 5/17/2005 2:21:52 AM

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There is no way that on line can compare to real. The pc is so very limiting opposed to the sky is the limit in real life.

I don't think that any compares online to offline - I think that would be like comparing rope to handcuffs.

I think it is much easier to view online as another fetish and tool - that way it is just as valid as say - ageplay pr victorian play.

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RE: Offline/Online - 5/28/2005 10:52:08 AM

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I Myself could not even imagine an on line relationship, it just seems so lame compared to real.

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RE: Offline/Online - 5/28/2005 9:44:19 PM

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Personaly I feel that online and offline are like and apple and an orange. They are both the same in many ways but in other very diffrent.

Online seems to me to be used in distinct ways. like many newbees, younger generation, and people who need to be very descreate tend to lean towords the online. While the seinors to the lifestyle tend to be more comfortable with offline, and want things to be more personal, because there not afarid of who they are, and they have passed the stage of being courious.

I think the online vs. the offline are just diffrent phases, just like growing up, we start small, simple and safe, and grow from there as we expand our knowlege.

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