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Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/12/2007 11:40:38 PM

Dragonfurguy

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Hello everyone- I'm the female subbie half in a 24/7 lifestyle life. My Sir is taking me to a LARGE event in 2 weeks- This is a camping event aimed to those of us in the lifestyle, and lasts at least 4 days. There are workshops, vendors, and a Dungeon play space for communal use at night. I've never been, but my Master has been several times, and it is his favorite time of the year. He has many friends that will be there, Tops Dom/mes, subs, slaves that know him. I would very much like to plan a special something for Him, but I'm in a quandry as to what- I would very much appreciate imput from anyone, if you have an idea for me. What I am thinking at this time, is to invite a few of his friends back to our camp for a dinner, one where I would (obviously) cook a special meal, and serve Him and his guests as a gift of respect in a very classy, subbie manner. I'd like to show his friends how much love and I have for this Man, and how devoted his subbie is to him. I'd like to do more than an average sit down, pass the potatoes please dinner.....I have a vague idea of seating his guests on a large rug (This is outdoors), with pillows and act as a service sub for him/them. PLEASE- if you have any ideas at all, tips, suggestions, ect. that would help me make this special for him, I'd be very grateful. Ours is a relationship that works in this lifestyle, and I would hope that all of you would recognize the spirit in which I want to do this. I will, of course, come back when it's done and update you all. Thanks to you all- j

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/12/2007 11:52:29 PM

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This is just me...but, I'd probably wait until next year to do your something special for him. Unless, this is something that he has specifically asked for, but it seemed like you want to make it kind of a surprise.

My reasons for saying this are two-fold...you will be able to enjoy the event without stressing about your own upcoming affair. You will also show your submission by being respectful of him and the limited time he gets to enjoy this event, which you have stated that he has an affinity for.

If I were in your shoes, I would want to have seen the event play out once before making any grand plans...besides, he may have his own surprises planned for you.

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 12:09:31 AM

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This is just me...but, I'd probably wait until next year to do your something special for him. Unless, this is something that he has specifically asked for, but it seemed like you want to make it kind of a surprise.

My reasons for saying this are two-fold...you will be able to enjoy the event without stressing about your own upcoming affair. You will also show your submission by being respectful of him and the limited time he gets to enjoy this event, which you have stated that he has an affinity for.

If I were in your shoes, I would want to have seen the event play out once before making any grand plans...besides, he may have his own surprises planned for you.

This actually sounds like great advice. If you get too stressed out in planning this it will be no good for either one of you. Also, if this is a suprise be prepared for it to fail. You are going to a special event, He may be wanting the freedom to do things in his own impulses. He might want to do something else the very moment you wish to spring this suprise upon him. I would say, simply be prepared to entertain guests though. I suggest you be prepared to do this, but don't put so much of your heart into making this a suprise. Work at simply being prepared for quests, if he to entertain them you'll be more than ready.

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 6:28:52 AM

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There's a really good camping meal I make when I go camping with my kids.
You take a pot roast and divide it up into individual portion hunks. You take whole carrots and cut the ends off and wash them real good, but you don't take the skin off. You take the little red potatoes and divide them up into individual portions.
Lay out tin foil about as long as twice your arm, fold it in half, lay each person's meal on a section like that.
Add about 1/2 a tablespoon of butter, or a tablespoon of olive oil to the pile, I usually also use onion powder, garlic powder, salt and pepper and chives.
Roll the tin foil like a big burrito being sure to seal up the ends tight before tucking them around.
Lay them all at the edges of your fire in more coals than flame.
Leave them there 15-20 minutes.

Let them sit about 10 minutes before you open them up, then dump them out on the plates right before serving garnish with jar gravy and fresh parsley.
It's a nice camping meal.
A good dessert is to buy Pillsbury flaky biscuits in the tube & 3 cans of sliced peaches.
Butter the bottom of a thick bottomed tight fitting lid pot.
I use an oblong stew pot.
Pour the stuff in after the butter's melted and add a teaspoon of cinnamon, and three tablespoons of brown sugar.
Mind you the pot will be mostly empty and the stuff just covers the bottom of the pan.
I bring a brick with me camping.
I set the cold brick in the fire and the pan on top.
Leave that cook while you guys eat checking on it about every 10 minutes.
When it's done it's a nice peach cobbler.
If you don't like peach you can also do cherry with cherry pie filling in a can.
Bring the already made (like jello brand) cups of vanilla pudding so it doesn't need refrigeration and top the cobbler while warm right before serving.
I'd say maybe the rest are right and this year you should just go riding on your Dom's itinerary he's got planned for your first experience.
Maybe have a more intimate camping trip with friends for the dinner another time this summer.
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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 7:28:59 AM

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Since this is your first time, I think you'd do better to simply attend with him. You have no idea what his schedule will be like. Usually these events have a workshop schedule and whatnot. Go this year and just have fun. Nexy year, mention AHEAD OF TIME that you'd like to do something special for him and his friends, then let him decide if he wants to work that into the schedule.

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 7:39:29 AM

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He dips His lid,

Nice post Dragonfurguy. I'm with the other Dom/mes. He will have His own plans. You could express your anxiety over the trip and that you would like to relieve the anxiety by planning a meal, but I suspect His reply will be for you to 'Serve Him appropriately during the camp' so He can remark on how much you 'please Him'. Either way you will relieve some of the anxiety and show your devotion to pleasing Him by discussing the issue with Him.

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 7:42:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: spanklette

This is just me...but, I'd probably wait until next year to do your something special for him. Unless, this is something that he has specifically asked for, but it seemed like you want to make it kind of a surprise.

My reasons for saying this are two-fold...you will be able to enjoy the event without stressing about your own upcoming affair. You will also show your submission by being respectful of him and the limited time he gets to enjoy this event, which you have stated that he has an affinity for.

If I were in your shoes, I would want to have seen the event play out once before making any grand plans...besides, he may have his own surprises planned for you.

I'm really enjoying you Spanklette!

If you really WANT to plan something- be the one in charge of packing and unpacking for the event. In past events I've bought cute folders for everyone, labeled with their names and the event, put copies of the schedules inside, highlighted with the classes and events I thought were most interesting, some lined paper and a pen. It's hard to keep track of papers running around at an event, and this is a great way to keep stuff AND put more papers/handouts/business cards as you go along.

Also, be in charge of snacks, making sure there's juice and snackage in the room and area. And do a regular cleaning check on the room. Specially since it's a camping event, there likely wont' be room service and you can take that job.

Thirdly, plan your outfits and practice them ahead of time. You don't want to be wasting hours freaking about getting into a skirt you've never had to manipulate before. And it's not worth the energy.

Finally, plan the after convention time. Maybe go to a quiet soft dinner, or just go to your house to sleep in a real bed and be close. Drop from an event can be really harsh for some people and making specific downtime to prepare can be very helpful.

Otherwise, just go with Spanklette and don't worry. You'll have so much else going on and you'll see just how hectic "planning" is for anything that trying to plan things ahead of time is just wasted. Go and enjoy!

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RE: Could you help me with ideas please? - 4/13/2007 1:45:59 PM

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Why thank you! I've enjoyed too many of your posts to count!

Besides, I've gone to these things. Everyone has something going and really are trying to make the most of the event and all of the stuff going on around them. Those "weekends" are over sooo frickin' fast, especially when one is enjoying them.

But, in regards to the OP...your desire to please and be pleasant will be evident without any real plans on your part. Enjoy the event and the time spent being out in the open with other lifestylers!

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