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subyearns -> Help finding Dom (4/13/2007 6:25:22 AM)
Good morning all. I am very new to this and am wondering. How do you know a Dom is right for you?

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/13/2007 7:39:37 AM)
How would you know if it were a vanilla, dating relationship? Our relationships on differ from these in that we desire a transfer of authority inside a stucture. Master Fire

Mustardseed -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/13/2007 8:07:50 AM)
I've got to agree with Master Fire. It's easy to put Tops, Masters, Owners and others in a specific relationship niche -- as though they're a different species -- but really: if I wouldn't date them if we were both vanilla, why would I bottom or submit to them? [:'(]

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/13/2007 8:00:38 PM)
I'm with the others. I know what people work for me and which do not. Most importantly I know myself. And did not expect to change my core when I started WIITWD. That was never up for grabs. knowing myself has enabled me to find someone who works well for me. But at 45 I am really clear on what works for me. My friends, family, co-workers. The life skills you have developed these years should not be jettisoned 'cause you are looking for a dom. In fact you will need them more than ever IMO.

Celeste43 -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/14/2007 12:57:44 PM)
I knew because I felt comfortable talking to him about anything and everything and I am usually a very private person. So for me to be able to open up it was obvious that he was (and is) a very special person.

bandit25 -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/14/2007 12:59:49 PM)
MFM is right (as usual). How do you know if anyone is right for you? It's the same with a dom.

briarrose -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/14/2007 1:17:11 PM)
I agree with the others. A Dom is still human, as are you. If you wouldn't have a relationship with that person w/out the D/s, why would you with it? At the end of the day, it is still a relationship and needs compatibility to work. Keep your eyes open and don't settle for a crappy relationship because the person makes your pink bits tingle but sucks in every other aspect/the way he treats you, etc. --b

saphiradraca -> RE: Help finding Dom (4/14/2007 11:19:09 PM)
If I wouldn't have a vanilla relationship with someone, I wouldn't have a D/s relationship with him either.

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