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MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/15/2007 7:13:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SusanofO To me though, it isn't necessarily all about sex. Given a choice (or having to make one), I choose an intense emotional connection, over sex or even bdsm activity. Spot on Susan, but don't you find that once that intense emotional connection occurs, sex is almost impossible to stop? Even ( maybe moreso) with non-sexual submissives.....forbidden fruit tastes best :) sigh Some mistakes are too good to only make once :)

SusanofO -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/15/2007 9:34:54 AM)
MsCfromMelbourne: Yes, I do. I agree. I find myself thinking about it a lot then, in fact, practically all the time, if I am really, really into them. I can make a sacrifice, though, if for some reason I am separated from them (or there is some other extenuating, strange circumstance). - Susan

MisPandora -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/15/2007 9:41:58 AM)
Perhaps you're approaching women who have different expectations, namely the ones that have no interest in body worship? And for many who do incorporate sex as a part of their dominance, they don't feel they need to limit themselves to foreplay activities, therefore, your proposal would not be sufficient to their desires. Keep searching....find a domina who seeks someone FOR body worship. There's got to be women out there in the Northeast who just want that.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/15/2007 1:36:18 PM)
Strangly enough, it's that way with me also. Casual players next to never get to play with me sexually, including fingering or oral,or ass play, but My Dominant, my partner my everything hell yes it's about the sex lol. quote: ORIGINAL: TigressFL For me...Sometimes it is about the sex and other times it is not about the sex. If I plan on being long-term with someone there will be SEX!!! lolol Tigress~FL

FelinePersuasion -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/15/2007 3:23:30 PM)
Maybe for you it is. There are other people out there for them it's not. And your partner does not have to be butt ass ugly to not desire sex from them. I play with plenty of people who're nice people not butt ugly, But I don't want sex from them. Please do not present your opnion about how it is for you, as how it is for every one. quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne quote: ORIGINAL: Olias Of course its all about sex. BDSM is all about having a better sex life than if you were vanilla I suppose there might be situations where your play partner is so butt ugly (inside or out) that you feel no sexual attraction to him or her whatsoever. I sincerely hope that is the exception not the norm in loving D/s relationships BDSM is always about sex, sorry. But we pretend it is not because denial and unattainability are such great aphrodisiacs!

LadyPact -> RE: I thought it wasn't about SEX (4/16/2007 1:20:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn I remember serving a dominant woman who was married to a male dominant. They had a completely open relationship where they both had slaves, and he had sex with his slave all of the time without any second thought. The marriage was completely open this way, and I'd heard them talk this way in the past. Well, one day, he and I were working in the garage (he needed some help, and we were friendly so I offered), and he was really curious about something because I represented the kind of male submissive he didn't understand, the service submissive. He asked how it was possible for someone like me to be so willing to do everything my mistress desired, but there was no sexual contact whatsoever. He wanted to know what was in it for me. Well, I stammered a bit and really didn't answer. I then found my mistress and told her about the conversation. Apparently, she never got around to informing him that sex WAS part of the relationship between her and HER slave. It kind of made things really tense for quite some time because I discovered it was okay for him, but it wasn't okay for her, even though both agreed that it was. Whoa. I don't mean to highjack the thread or sound judgemental, but I am so glad this is not the way it works for Me. Thanks for sharing this.

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