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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/14/2007 6:30:00 PM

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For me the best part of being Dominant is the look the boy gets in his eyes when he gives himself to me. I know I control what I want to control, and there is an amazing feeling knowing how much trust he puts in me to alow us to enjoy the things we do together. Being needed and wanted that much by my Angel is what makes me love being not only Dominant, but his owner.

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/14/2007 6:34:12 PM

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Wow, Diurnal, that describes exactly the emotional response I'd look forward to getting, from a male submissive. It sounds so rewarding, having someone trust you that fully, and knowing they appreciate you so much, and that they feel fulfilled and safe with you .

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RE: Devotion vs. surrender - what's your kink? - 4/23/2007 10:06:14 AM

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Subs, have you submitted to a woman (in a non pro environment) who was energized and excited by the bending of your will, in a non-domestic, non-service way, and how important is that aspect of your relationship quest moving forward?

My first post pubescent girlfriend could wrap me around one of her manicured fingers with nothing more than a sideways glance and an almost imperceptible smirk. She was quite petite, but could drain my power from me like a vampire. It was almost like a feeding session for her. I would use the word seduction, but it was more like an execution. She would straddle me, hold my arms over my head and tease, whisper, torment me with her mouth and body. Tease and denial at it's best/worst. Each time she would go for the hollow above my collarbone with her mouth, my body would ache to marrow of my bones. It hurt as much as being flogged or caned. When she was done with me, she would be glowing with her power, almost taunting me with it. She set the stage for me for the rest of my life. She reveled in her feminine power. No service, non-domestsic, just raw surrender to her power. I outweighed her by 80 lbs and she could leave me breathless in a pile of quivering and useless muscle.

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/23/2007 10:33:48 AM

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its like being at a restaurant and ordering the tasting menu. the chef has control of your palate for a few hours.

DrPleasure I really like this. As an analogy for a BDSM scene it works for me...the willingness to completely surrender to my palate.

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/23/2007 3:57:48 PM

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It is all about manipulation, which I have had the practice many years ago now, from childhood.

To use My femininity, alluring qualities, impulsive frame of thought & creativity , and to enjoy all that I am, Dominant.

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/23/2007 4:30:14 PM

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i'm actually a submissive by nature thou i "played" Dominant one time with a Switch.

Being the Dominant, i enjoyed the Power and Control. i felt a deeper connection as i knew, thou i had him in fear, he was still in trust of me. It was like his outter nature, who he was on the surface, was in fear, but his inner being, had given me absolute trust to override the fear and do my biddings.

i got the wanting to please aspect there in which i have with my submissiveness, but it was of a completely different kind when i was feeling dominant. i wanted to make Him happy.. but it was more like how id be feeling if i wanted to be comforting or wanting to make a child happy or something. (its hard for me to explain), completely different feel to when i want to make a Dom happy.

The protective feel for him i got from it all, (again as if He'd been a child), that made me feel such a bond to him, thou it was only play, i really did feel it and to this day feel that still protective of this one. he could come to me anytime about anything, and i'd help him out and listen.. Playing with him did something, formed a bond of some kind with him, thou seeing he's a switch.. i'd never be comfortable being a Domme to him all the time.. and right now im exploring my natural submissive nature anyway, it's my strongest nature :) . (thou with someone much much more submissive than i.. i probably could be a good Domme with one day).

It was more work playing Dominant, than being a submissive .. as being in charge.. and being responsible for two, is much harder.. but boy did it feel good! lol.

It also gave me a rush when he begged and begged for me to play again, he'd really connected with me too.. but cause of my submissive nature, ive said no.. to me, playing Domme to him was a fun thing.. and not who i could truly be with him all the time.

So for me what i got out of it was feeling of power, control, a motherly protectiveness of him and a feeling of him being completely mine.

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/23/2007 9:28:48 PM

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I enjoy the power. I relish the feeling of being responsible for another. I derive pure excitement from the seduction and mastery of his will.

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RE: Devotion vs. surrender - what's your kink? - 4/23/2007 9:58:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: Nikko1962

Subs, have you submitted to a woman (in a non pro environment) who was energized and excited by the bending of your will, in a non-domestic, non-service way, and how important is that aspect of your relationship quest moving forward?

My first post pubescent girlfriend could wrap me around one of her manicured fingers with nothing more than a sideways glance and an almost imperceptible smirk. She was quite petite, but could drain my power from me like a vampire. It was almost like a feeding session for her. I would use the word seduction, but it was more like an execution. She would straddle me, hold my arms over my head and tease, whisper, torment me with her mouth and body. Tease and denial at it's best/worst. Each time she would go for the hollow above my collarbone with her mouth, my body would ache to marrow of my bones. It hurt as much as being flogged or caned. When she was done with me, she would be glowing with her power, almost taunting me with it. She set the stage for me for the rest of my life. She reveled in her feminine power. No service, non-domestsic, just raw surrender to her power. I outweighed her by 80 lbs and she could leave me breathless in a pile of quivering and useless muscle.

DAMN!!!...i might have to change my profile to switch...<wink>....LOL

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RE: What Do You Like About Being Dominant? - 4/26/2007 8:09:35 PM

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I like EVERYTHING, but I think it might be easier for me if I was submissive.
Oh well.

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