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Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 10:05:12 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		Good morning to all,
  i was wondering, and hoping i'm not hijacking another thread here, about your need to be with your Dom/Master/Mistress? Specifically this question is geared toward submissives, but slaves are always welcome as well. My question is this: For those who don't have a 24/7 relationship and only see their Master/Dom/Mistress a few times a week, do you feel that after they have left  that you need to stay in the room that you last played just to get a "wiff" of their scent? Knowing that in a few days they will be back to play? Or am i just totally abnormal when it comes to this?
  Thank you
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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 10:27:14 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The answer to any question that starts "does anyone else?" is always yes.

I was very lucky in my LDRs to be allowed to have a shirt they had worn so I could keep that with their scent and even wear it myself to feel more connected.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 10:39:26 AM   
viperess


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Status: offline 		Greetings,
Even though you are asking those not in a 24/7 i can say we even feel that way many times. When life feels like it is crushing in on me and Master is not home i will go curl up hugging His pillow so that i can feel Him even closer to me and hope it is not on a day i have just washed the sheets. All of us be it in a 24/7 or not feel the need to be with those we serve even when They are not there at the moment. Yes i can feel Him all the time even when apart but there are times i need more than others.
respectfully

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 10:46:38 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		vipress i do apologize, i did not realize that even people in a 24/7 can be without their Master, so thank you for sharing yours with me. And ty LA for sharing yours as well. Mine is that when we get done playing and he has left i like to just sit on the bed knowing that he was the last one there beside me.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 11:10:33 AM   
LaMspeach


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From: Philadelphia area, PA
Status: offline 		I cant sit in the spot that we were last together  but if i could i would.
I have a tshirt and some other things that help me get through moments of missing him so much it hurt. *smiles*  Some time i just long to smell him. Someone scent has always been a very powerful thing for  me.

Edit to add. I take my pillow sometimes with me on visits and it is very soothing at night to know he has slept on my pillow ( yeah i know i am corny) But sometimes the simple things are the ones that give you the most comfort..... Dont worry about what anyone else feels as long as you happy.

< Message edited by LaMspeach -- 4/14/2007 11:14:28 AM >

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 11:19:26 AM   
HerEmeraldEyes


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From: Joliet, IL
Status: offline 		I as well am 24/7 with my Owner.  I am an overly social person who feels the need to fill her life with friends so my house is a revolving door to all those that know me.  As such, between that and Master's 50+ hour work week, sometimes we see each other rarely. 

When I need him, and he isn't available, I meditate.  I sit in our bed, leaning against his pillow and I close my eyes.  I breathe deeply through my nose, out my mouth and hear his voice in my mind, telling me to breathe.  As I mediate I allow myself to be bathed with memories of our last play time, how I felt when he used me in whatever way, until I can feel him and remember that the collar around my neck means he's always with me.

And when all else fails I call him just to hear him say "you're mine."  (and text messages have become my life boon!)

Miss Emerald 

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 11:20:13 AM   
farmlandsub


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Status: offline 		i do very much need to keep getting whiff of Maam. Her perfumes, Her smell i do really enjoy have the opportunity to continue to smell her when we are not together.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 11:29:41 AM   
kishasub


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Status: offline 		my Domme was with me over the easter weekend to help celebrate my birthday, before she left she kindly left me a bottle of her perfume and robe so i can keep her as close as possible, i curl up on her spot on the couch and snuggle in the blanket she gave me when we first got together, all these things help a lot but none can replace her touch or the way i feel just being close to her again.
I miss her every second we are apart but i lead a full life so can function without her but function better when she's close if that makes sense.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 11:34:18 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Try only getting to play once every few weeks, at best.  Maybe every few months at worst.  Angel and I have several shared items that we keep to stay connected. He plays with me here at my home since he lives on campus ao his dallying in the place weve played isnt an option. However I do send him home dressed as he was when we played, and he sleeps in whatever I dressed him in that night.  He also has several outfits he knows I enjoy which he can wear whenever he needs to feel as if he is pleasing me when we are necessarily separated. 

DV

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 12:17:33 PM   
amiciaN


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Status: offline 		Try going almost a year and then having just a few precious weeks. Then it will be another year... However, I know in the end it will be for good    (I wanted a smiley that does backflips but there isn't one.)

Seriously though, it seems like most subs/slave crave the presence of the one they serve no matter how much or how little they are actually together.  Considering some of the amazingly strong subs and switches I know personally who feel the same, I just take it as one of those traits common to the condition and accept it without judging myself.  I crave being with Him, I will always crave being with Him, indeed it is why I belong to Him.  So I will continue do the little things that make me feel close to Him when we are apart.  From what I have seen, most Dominant types don't really seem to mind that those who serve them feel this way.   

As always, just my opinion based on my own experiences; ymmv.


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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 1:55:48 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		I love being with him. I love his care and concern. At the moment, however, his physical presence isn't my focus. He is breaking me down, I'm to' up from the flo' up, and I can actually feel his presence because of this lesson and his skill. I don't know if it would be the same in his presence. At the moment I need to be where I am and doing what I am doing, exactly the way he's making me do it.

That doesn't mean I wouldn't love to feel his lips on mine, or feel his goatee with my fingers, or any of a tremendous number of things that I love to do and feel and say ... I would love to be in his house, walking up the stairs to the bedroom, knowing he's lying on the bed and knowing how his eyes will look when he sees me standing in the doorway ...

Omg. I am feeling very emotional. It is the way he intends me to be. It's scary. It's awesome. (So yeah, I ~need~ him but as you are witnessing, he present even when we are physically a couple hours apart.)

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 1:56:57 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		Sorry - was trying to correct a typo. Hit quote instead of edit. Snot.

< Message edited by slaveish -- 4/14/2007 1:58:07 PM >

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If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. ~~Mother Teresa

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 2:10:23 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		You are not abnormal at all!  Sometimes we go weeks at a time without seeing each other and it can be very difficult.  I am allowed to keep clothes with me that he has worn, so I can inhale his scent.  I don't sleep with a teddy-bear - I have a wardrobe in my bed!!

I have said before, I need him like I need air.  What began as a desire to be in his life has evolved into a need to belong to him.  When I do not have those physical reminders of his presence, I hold tight to his presence in my very core.  I feel him, whether at his feet or at home, two hours away.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 2:39:34 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		i'm intrigued at how many of us feel such a closeness to our Master/Dom, it's just a wonderful feeling. i like to also sleep on the pillow that he laid his head on earlier that day, which is why i love my small bedroom

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 3:02:43 PM   
impetuousone


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Status: offline 		Submission begins in the mind.... Dominance invades the soul... I find my deepest feelings of submission are when I am not with my dominant.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 3:05:52 PM   
His1kitten


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Status: offline 		Hi grlneedstolearn,
 
   Before my One came here to live it was more than a few months in between seeing Him, on His departure i was given a shirt that He wore.  That shirt helped me so much.  The day He left he gave it to me and i would wear it often.  i can so relate to the need to "feel" Him  when He is gone to work  even with us being  24/7.     i believe that is something precious.   mmmm His scent. 

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 8:01:54 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		greetings grl,

we do not live together and only spend a few days a week together but i consider us to be 24/7 because the dominance and submission do not stop when he drops me off at home or takes me to work. our time together, also, does not revolve around play, although of course we enjoy sex and play very much and it's important to us.

we always spend time together at his house, not at my apartment, because he lives alone and i have roommates...so i can't curl up in the spot where he sat after he leaves, because he hasn't been over here since we first got together. i wish i did though...sometimes i will just lean into him, or hug a pillow or something, and breathe deep, because being near him - his scent, his energy, anything - is very comforting and refreshing to me. that said, i am a pretty needy person in general and being with him has forced me to be more independent because he wants me to be okay with being apart from him and focusing on other things. i've made a lot of progress, but it is still difficult sometimes.

annabelle.


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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 8:08:02 PM   
ftmouse


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Status: offline 		I am in a 24/7 situation.  I live with my Mistress and her hubby.  She willl often put her perfume on my pillow as a treat just i can have her with me in my dreams.  I think we all desire that closeness to someone we have that special place for.

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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 9:05:32 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		i see nothing wrong with wanting something to still feel a connection to the Master. 


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RE: Needing your Dom/Master/Mistress? - 4/14/2007 9:17:11 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		if i ever get lonely, i have a secret box under my bed where i keep all the cards/notes, a special handkerchief and photo (have a couple saved on hard drive too) of Daddy. yet wearing His collar and chain constantly has kept me grounded that i don't miss Him as much as i use to when we first met.

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