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Bri4fun -> messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 8:26:50 PM)

I have heard this from many of the people both Dom and sub on this site. How difficult it is to gain any form of response. I tried it out...as others have...and sent a few well thought out and polite msgs. Only to discover it IS difficult to get a response as normal politeness would dictate. In my experience I've even responded to submales even though my interests clearly do not fall in that direction...since they were polite, they deserved a response to let them know I did read it and it is not "my cup of tea".
Everyone here should think about rudeness and that it is rude to not tender a response to someone who approaches you politely. Particularly when you can obviously see they spent time and effort to write you. I learned enough with that to not bother wasting time sending msgs. Would you deliberately and obviously ignore someone in the "real world" who spoke to you and addressed you with respect and politeness?



FangsNfeet -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 8:38:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bri4fun

quote:

Would you deliberately and obviously ignore someone in the "real world" who spoke to you and addressed you with respect and politeness?



I've done it before and I'm most likely to do it again. So save the Drama for your Mama and allow us to have our freedom to speak or not to speak.

Politely Suggested,

FnF



siamsa24 -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 8:43:19 PM)

I'm sorry, but this has been discussed TO DEATH. Here are some links to a few of the threads:

Manners

Why is politeness and respect such a big deal in BDSM?

Showing Respect

Rude and offensive e-mails

Deleted unread

Being Rude

RUDE submissives



That's not all of them, but I am tired of pulling.

I have so much respect for you Proudsub, I really don't know how you do it [:D]



ellegantsub -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 9:02:20 PM)

How about the people who message RUDE statments?!? Hey, if you aren't into something or have a prejudust why would you send a hatefull message to a person who has made no contact with you! I could not believe this person would find the time to insult me for no reason. Sad person who finds that thrilling.



siamsa24 -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 9:06:54 PM)

There are links discussing that issue in the above post as well.



SirKenin -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/22/2005 11:11:02 PM)

Blah. It was the Scorpions that said "over and over and over".



Jacen -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 1:04:25 AM)

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results



perverseangelic -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 10:26:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jacen

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results



heh. Or the sign of someone who just read Hume.



siamsa24 -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 10:48:43 AM)

LOL *claps hands* I got the reference! That just made my day [:)]



onceburned -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 11:37:44 AM)

quote:

Would you deliberately and obviously ignore someone in the "real world" who spoke to you and addressed you with respect and politeness?


Of course not, but email is not the same thing as 'in person'. Otherwise it would be as if every woman here was surrounded by a throng of men, all talking at the same time trying to get her attention. The polite thing to do would be to systematically talk to each person in turn (while still more men arrive) ... but its a heavy burden to expect of someone.

I understand the frustration of trying to get the attention of women here. May I suggest that you establish some 'name recognition' by posting more frequently to the message boards? I think you will find that this will help, especially if you develop a good reputation.



siamsa24 -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 11:40:28 AM)

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May I suggest that you establish some 'name recognition' by posting more frequently to the message boards? I think you will find that this will help, especially if you develop a good reputation.


Believe me, this helps. I tend to read email from names I recognize first



perverseangelic -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/23/2005 1:04:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: siamsa24

LOL *claps hands* I got the reference! That just made my day [:)]


:) Yay! I'm writing an exam today, I'm glad I was able to make someone happy :)



temptation -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 12:00:08 PM)

at least you dont get shit like this;

"nice pictures, all fake and a very stupid profile. why do you men even bother doign this shit. go play with your self "

it happens every once in a while.



siamsa24 -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 12:11:24 PM)

I think I may have gotten one from either the same person or someone who thinks the same "those pics dont even look like the same person nice try "sir""



masterstrict -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 1:15:56 PM)

i am a firm beliver in treating people as they deserve , so do as you would be done to , the main thing we all have is the ability to just treat with the contempt they deserve



darkinshadows -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 2:00:55 PM)

What I do not respond to -

'Hi'
'up 4 a chat?'
'r u busy'
'whats wiv da plumage'
'will you save me or corrupt me?'

any mail (even plesent ones) including the words -

'on yer knees'
'little one'
'vanilla'
'bitch'
'girl'
'gift'
'true'
'real'

Any mail that talks solely about what a person is and wants.

Any mail that looks like a piece of spam (the repeatable kind not the pink stuff).

I do reply however to a well thought out mail that shows that the person writing has read my profile and has taken a note of my interests.

I also reply to mails that are sent with kind words about my profile.

And genuine questions.

Peace and Love



DreamWeaverAz -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 2:35:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dark~angel

What I do not respond to -

'Hi'
'up 4 a chat?'
'r u busy'
'whats wiv da plumage'
'will you save me or corrupt me?'

any mail (even plesent ones) including the words -

'on yer knees'
'little one'
'vanilla'
'bitch'
'girl'
'gift'
'true'
'real'

Any mail that talks solely about what a person is and wants.

Any mail that looks like a piece of spam (the repeatable kind not the pink stuff).



Peace and Love


well there go all My words of wit and wisDom...*grins* oh and btw...

will that lovely plumage be My salvation or corrupt Me, will it take Me deeper into vanilla or will your gift be a pet that is true and real?

*ducks and grins*...heheheh

Luvs ya back D



PenelopePitstop -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/24/2005 7:37:06 PM)

That last message by dark angel has a very pleasing lampshade/tree shape, I'm noticing.

This is what I won't respond to. I've just had it:

U hot. Want 2 talk? Got cam?

And this one person who, bless him, has just put so much effort into all five of his posts, but COMPLETELY ignores my requests to tone it down, and refuses to accept that I won't be phoning him.



Bri4fun -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/25/2005 1:05:32 PM)

"So save the Drama for your Mama..."

You can say "respectfully submitted" all you like...you meant to be annoying and insulting. My recently widowed "mama" is not someone you should be using in your infantile and insulting manerisms. THIS is one of the very reasons I do not post much. Too many like this one. Normally I don't respond to children, but I'll make an exception in your case.
Also, if people acted honorably and treated others so UNTIL someone proved they didn't deserve it, being online would be a much more positive experience for everyone.
When those of you who pretend others aren't real people (even online) realize rudeness is rudneness on the Internet or in the "real world", more enjoyment would be gleened by all when they were online.
And I'm sorry to bore those of you who may have seen this before, if you didn't like it why not just ignore it?
I DO thank those of you who were more constructive, though.
Well, you "regulars" who live and die by these msg boards and chats have a good time. Most days I have better things to do than vicariously live life on a machine.





perverseangelic -> RE: messaging rudeness (4/25/2005 1:11:49 PM)

Oooo. I got a -great- one today.

The person wrote to me fairly politely, but addressed me as "girl."

I responded politely to the message, and added at then end that while I very much appreciated being written to, I'd prefer not to be addressed by diminuatives.

The respones? "whatever loser"

I responded again, to say that I hadn't intended to offend, and that my partner prefers I not be called diminuatives.

I doubt she'll write back.



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