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Mom - 4/14/2007 1:48:35 PM   
Termyn8or


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Whatever your beliefs, if you could possibly think some good wishes for someone with the initials PZ in Cleveland, I would appreciate it. That's my Mom.

After working all her life, a few weeks ago she finally retired. After all the years of scrapping and scraping she eventually got a good job. As a divorced Mother she did more than most, with very little reward. Us kids were hell, but we were young and dumb.

She gave her all for us, and then some. She put up with a drunk, and when that crossed the line she threw him out (Dad) and fended for herself and us. Games ? We didn't even have a friggin Monopoly game. We were lucky to have a TV. And if you think that's bad, her Mother, Grandma told me about real poverty. From what I'm told, stories from Greatgrandma would make Grandma look like a rich princess. The old country.

Ma's last job was the best, she got some recognition, and of course the right money. She wanted to retire early, but did not. Now she, as of a couple weeks ago, is officially retired. The company threw money at her a couple of times, but at 65 she said this is it, I am done.

It is time for her to have time. Her time. She is pretty much set for life, and not from winning the lottery or some shit, from HARD WORK. And very little reward, she saw her daughter become a good person and her son become, well what I am.

Today may have been our last hug.

Tomorrow she goes in for a quadruple bypass. The time before that when I saw her, at 65 she looked like she ws 50 at most. Today she looked a bit older. She had multiple heart attacks in a quite short time.

Statistically, they say the older you have a heart attack the more your chances of survival. I'm glad she waited. As my sister and I chatted with her in the ICU I made it a point to make her laugh. I did get a pretty good chuckle out of her and the lines on the monitor moved.

Whatever, because though I don't want to, I could handle losing my Ma. That's not the point, it is now her time, she is pretty much set with her retirement. All her stuff is paid off, work is going to give her her workstation to take home and eventually I figure I'll hook up a router and get it online.

This is her time to have the time to explore. Research the net, go gambling or SHOPPING ! Whatever. She earned it. Seeing her die or infirm I could handle personally,. I am stoic and mature and in control, but to see her get cheated out of the time in her life when life doesn't suck as much is hard to swallow.

Things are not all that bleak. At one point her BP was 120 over 60, which is a good indication that much heart muscle damage has not happened, yet. But this is not a 15 minute procedure.

I do not ask for good wishes because of me. It is because of her. She is by far the strongest Woman I know, and now that she can finally relax, this happens. Life can really suck sometimes.

I value old people, very much so. They can tell you about history that is very little known, or even unknown. Even though I came from Parents who divorced, in a way I am not from a broken home. And that is to my Mother's credit. I had books and she let me take apart the ol man's hifi. That'll teach him :-)

We shall see if I cross the bridge tomorrow.

If you got down to here you probably read it, thanks. I appreciate it.

T
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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 1:57:32 PM   
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My thoughts are with you and your mum. I hope she has a speedy recovery and goes on to enjoy the retirement shes deserves. xx

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 1:57:41 PM   
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i wish her the best with the procedure and thoughts will be with her.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 2:05:25 PM   
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Sending positive thoughts and wishes.  Keep thinking positively.  Your post was a beautiful tribute to your mother.  Her chances of flying through this are much higher than not, and success is what you should focus on. 

Keep us posted as to how she's doing...

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 2:13:59 PM   
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Good thoughts to you and your mom.
My father went through the same...quad bypass and abdominal surgery to repair bulging,
about to burst abdominal aortic aneurysm. 
He came out of it with flying colors and is so much stronger and healthier now. 
He was 74 when he had it done four years ago. 
Medicine and surgeries are so advanced now.  I'm sure she'll be fine.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 2:18:38 PM   
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mom for a speedy recovery and for her to enjoy all that she worked so hard for. She earned it.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 2:28:28 PM   
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That was an awesome tribute to your mom, and I hope, as soon as she's awake and smiling again, that you'll print a copy of it and show it to her. 

My mom had two bypasses, and I remember how, after the first one, she hit the ground running and had a whole new lease on life, until other medical complications slowed her down (but not much).  She eventually had a second bypass, and eventually passed away a few years after that from kidney failure. 

Your mom sounds strong and with her great positive outlook on life, I'm sure she'll do great after the surgery.  Bypasses are common today and, like Aileen said, technology has come a really long way. 

I'm sending good thoughts and wishes to her, and your family.  Please keep us posted.  And congratulations to her on her retirement!  She deserves it!

(Also, Cleveland has a great hospital system, whether it's the Cleveland Clinic, University, Case Western or wherever....your hug tomorrow after she gets out of recovery will be the first of many for the years to come.)

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 2:40:58 PM   
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I am saying lots of prayers for your mom.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 3:47:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Whatever your beliefs, if you could possibly think some good wishes for someone with the initials PZ in Cleveland, I would appreciate it. That's my Mom.

After working all her life, a few weeks ago she finally retired. After all the years of scrapping and scraping she eventually got a good job. As a divorced Mother she did more than most, with very little reward. Us kids were hell, but we were young and dumb.

She gave her all for us, and then some. She put up with a drunk, and when that crossed the line she threw him out (Dad) and fended for herself and us. Games ? We didn't even have a friggin Monopoly game. We were lucky to have a TV. And if you think that's bad, her Mother, Grandma told me about real poverty. From what I'm told, stories from Greatgrandma would make Grandma look like a rich princess. The old country.

Ma's last job was the best, she got some recognition, and of course the right money. She wanted to retire early, but did not. Now she, as of a couple weeks ago, is officially retired. The company threw money at her a couple of times, but at 65 she said this is it, I am done.

It is time for her to have time. Her time. She is pretty much set for life, and not from winning the lottery or some shit, from HARD WORK. And very little reward, she saw her daughter become a good person and her son become, well what I am.

Today may have been our last hug.

Tomorrow she goes in for a quadruple bypass. The time before that when I saw her, at 65 she looked like she ws 50 at most. Today she looked a bit older. She had multiple heart attacks in a quite short time.

Statistically, they say the older you have a heart attack the more your chances of survival. I'm glad she waited. As my sister and I chatted with her in the ICU I made it a point to make her laugh. I did get a pretty good chuckle out of her and the lines on the monitor moved.

Whatever, because though I don't want to, I could handle losing my Ma. That's not the point, it is now her time, she is pretty much set with her retirement. All her stuff is paid off, work is going to give her her workstation to take home and eventually I figure I'll hook up a router and get it online.

This is her time to have the time to explore. Research the net, go gambling or SHOPPING ! Whatever. She earned it. Seeing her die or infirm I could handle personally,. I am stoic and mature and in control, but to see her get cheated out of the time in her life when life doesn't suck as much is hard to swallow.

Things are not all that bleak. At one point her BP was 120 over 60, which is a good indication that much heart muscle damage has not happened, yet. But this is not a 15 minute procedure.

I do not ask for good wishes because of me. It is because of her. She is by far the strongest Woman I know, and now that she can finally relax, this happens. Life can really suck sometimes.

I value old people, very much so. They can tell you about history that is very little known, or even unknown. Even though I came from Parents who divorced, in a way I am not from a broken home. And that is to my Mother's credit. I had books and she let me take apart the ol man's hifi. That'll teach him :-)

We shall see if I cross the bridge tomorrow.

If you got down to here you probably read it, thanks. I appreciate it.

I do as well.
 
What a great story.  You paint pictures exceptionally.
 
"Ma" is in my prayers.
 
Tell her I said hello :)



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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 4:22:51 PM   
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Good vibes, best wishes, and lots of luck to your Mom. 

Many hugs to her and all she's worked so hard for.


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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 5:14:17 PM   
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You and your family are in my thoughts.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 5:39:30 PM   
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Termyn8or, big hugs and lots of positive thoughts going to your mom. Heart disease runs in my family, so I understand bypass surgery (to some degree). My Mom had her’s awhile ago (I think it was a double). And my uncle (a little younger then your mom) just had his a few months ago, quad. And my mom said they had made so many positive changes. And he is doing great.

So your family will be in my thoughts. I’ll be thinking of her.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 8:11:38 PM   
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A prayer said, and good thoughts sent.

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Skinned up knees and salty lips
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One more trip and I'll be gone

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 8:16:10 PM   
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We wish your mother a safe return.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 8:51:46 PM   
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I know it's scary to have a parent undergoing major surgery like that. You and yours will be in my prayers. I have a friend who has had 2 quadruple bypasses. The last one was almost 10 years ago. She's still busily active and ordering everyone around, though no longer at the hospital. (Charge nurses are very dominant at work!!) Your mother has every chance of coming through with flying colors. She'll still be in my thoughts and prayers all day.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 9:00:19 PM   
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i had sent you a message on the other side.  My dad has gone through 2 procedures, my brother one, and i have also had one.  My dad's first procedure lasted 20 years.  It is just a long recuperation and following dietary restrictions and exercise.  The pain can be excruciating but she will have meds to contain that.

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 9:29:13 PM   
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Thank you all so much.

I am remaining optimistic about this. As we chatted in ICU she said that with the O2 and whatever she actrually feels good. That and sixty points between the diastolic and systolic are making a good case for optimism.

I'll keep you "posted". And best wishes to you and yours.

Tomorrow is another day. I'll reserve judgement on that day until the phone rings.

Be well/

T

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 9:30:38 PM   
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Thanks for the update!!!!!!!!  She sounds alot more coherent than i was as i don't remember anything for like 2 days after the surgery so that is fantastic.

minnetar

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 9:32:53 PM   
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Thoughts, prayers, and all best wishes!

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RE: Mom - 4/14/2007 9:41:51 PM   
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>sends well wishes and healing prayers to PZ<

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