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How long is too long after first meeting? - 4/14/2007 9:40:11 PM

Alexedra

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This question applies to any situation where a woman is meeting a man (I specify opposite genders because the question involves communication differences between men and women, but this could also apply to two people of the same gender) in person for the first time - BDSM, vanilla, friendship, gym buddies. Suppose the woman meets the man in a reasonably public place and the two seem to get along fairly well. Perhaps it's not crystal clear that this man and woman are immediately going to mate for life - but well enough to where it seems a second meeting is warranted. There is no sex or kissing.

That night, upon getting home, the woman sends an e-mail or text message saying thank-you, she had a good time but hears nothing back from the man for a period of time . . . but then, later, she gets an email from him.

How long is too long to receive this response? How much time would you allow to go by before you would totally ignore the response from the man?

I was starting to get frustrated when I received several of these kinds of responses - but then my male friend told me that the time period was perfectly normal and that I was, in general, much too impatient (and that my demand for a more immediate response from him had been a source of tension between us in the past).

So I was just wondering what women (and men) think is a "normal" period of time to lapse before responding to a communication would be, when specific plans are NOT being made, and if there is a difference in opinion between men and women on this subject.

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RE: How long is too long after first meeting? - 4/14/2007 9:47:48 PM

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Keep in mind not everyone checks their email every day. Some people dont take the time to reply to personal email as often as others, and some arent comfortable responding to someone they just met to make simple small talk. Depending on what sort of email you sent as a thank you, there may not BE a reply waranted. If you want to gaurantee a response, make sure you ask a question. Sometimes when a guy doesnt know what to say in response to a thank you, itl delay the response time. For e, If I havent heard back from smeone in a weeks time, I tend to assume they have disapeared. If they reply after that, I'll ask them what hapened, and make sure everything is alright and if they are usually that long getting back to someone. The more I know about their emal habits, the better I can judge how to take what they do or dont say.

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RE: How long is too long after first meeting? - 4/14/2007 9:48:05 PM

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lmao i think in some cases Doms are strange. A sub is all excited about the meeting and the Dom has a more non chalant approach to it. i understand your feelings. i am not sure there is a right answer. Maybe tell us how long it was before you received a response.

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