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being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 3:56:25 AM

napoleankjj2006

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is it weird for a guy to want a girl to force him to dress up in prom dresses all day an dmak ethem their perosnnal slave. ? would u know of any in the indiana region closer in the terre haute area?

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 4:03:10 AM

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Why not a wedding gown or a quinceanera dress? The more specific your fetish is, the less of a chance you have of someone who happens to have exactly that fetish. So quite possibly there may be a Domme in Terre Haute who is into feminization, but you may have to expand your horizons if your needs are as precise as you imply.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 4:18:24 AM

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A few bits of advice for you:

1 - change the color combo on your profile ... dark blue background with black type is nearly impossible to read
2 - try to be a bit more careful with spelling, grammar, typos in general - again, makes it easier to read
3 - as the previous poster stated, the more specific your fetish, the more difficult it is to find someone to fulfill it, try to expand your horizons
4 - if you are already interested in more than just that, then make it clear that you have more to offer than being a giant dress-up doll (because I can assure you that there are very very few non-pros who only want a giant dress-up doll, in or out of Indiana).
5 - be patient ... you are only 20, and you have plenty of time to look ... not to mention that the more difficult it is to find someone, the longer it will take. With a fetish that is so very specific, you could be looking for a very long time.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 6:21:56 AM

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as a sub male with simular likes and fetishes i agree you need too be relax and dont push your own wants on other when you meet dont just push for your wants toobe dressed up make sure you understand the other wants of you as well and time yes tkaes some time not all Doomes / Doms have same wants and needs too ruch and push your wants frist only pushes other way unless you waan be the dress male whip welding panty Master ???? LOL just kiding

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 6:41:52 AM

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is it weird for a guy to want a girl to force him to dress up in prom dresses all day an dmak ethem their perosnnal slave. ?

I notice that you are only 20.

No you are not weird. My boyfriend sleeps next to me at night wearing silky ladies nightgowns. He is a gorgeous, capable, smart and kinky man. It is possible to meet someone who does not think you are weird (but it can take a long time - be patient!)

Warning: but do not tell too many people about your desires. Outsiders are afraid of things they cannot understand.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 7:01:11 AM

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I just wanted to point out that the title of your post does not match the content of your post.

The content is about a particular type of clothing and accessories.

The title is about having what you wear controlled by another.

So someone could indeed control what you wear and require you to wear a three-piece suit whenever you are with her, or bike shorts, or overalls.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 8:50:21 AM

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woo hoo I have nothing to add the ladies have certainly covered everything I thought of outside of...

Good Luck to you!

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 9:28:15 AM

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quote:

I just wanted to point out that the title of your post does not match the content of your post.

The content is about a particular type of clothing and accessories.

The title is about having what you wear controlled by another.

So someone could indeed control what you wear and require you to wear a three-piece suit whenever you are with her, or bike shorts, or overalls.

Hear, hear. You, OP, have a fetish, or at least an attraction to a particular type of clothing. You might even say that you're attracted to crossdressing generally. You might find it hot to engage in roleplay about your crossdressing being forced, or about it functioning as punishment. Nothing wrong with that. It is, however, quite different from wanting to defer to another on clothing choice, and if you frame your desire in terms of clothing control, you will likely find it harder to get what you want.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 9:29:25 AM

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 3:48:15 PM

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Good luck in your quest. Speaking from experience there are some interested and obliging mistresses out there, but they are somewhat rare. If you should find one, serve her, cherish her and most all place her above all in your life. Even though you are only 20 you may not get another opportunity.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 5:06:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: napoleankjj2006

is it weird for a guy to want a girl to force him to dress up in prom dresses all day an dmak ethem their perosnnal slave. ? would u know of any in the indiana region closer in the terre haute area?

First of all, it is not forced if you want this anyway. All you are doing is searching for someone who will give you a venue to do what it is you want to do anyway.
Secondly, I agree with TammiJo. You are not being controlled in what you wear. You are controlling the situation by stating what you want to wear. Think about that.
Finally...Weird? No, it is not weird...it is a strong fetish desire. However, I do not consider this submissive behavior. I consider it a "scene" that is meant for your satisfaction.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 5:58:36 PM

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I had a girlfriend some years ago who would buy me underwear and say from that point I would be wearing those. Other than saying something like: "Um, change that. I don't like it", there was no real direct control about what I wear. As a matter of fact, that happened to me a few weeks ago. I was wearing my favorite yellow shirt, and a friend came over, and she told me to change it immediately because she didn't like it. Guess it was too bright. Some things never change.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 9:32:51 PM

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My boyfriend wears womens silky panties and thongs everyday, I tell him which ones to wear. On our play weekends he dresses up in a french maids outfit complete with thigh hi's and high heels so he can tend my needs. Then at night he sleeps in a silk nighty. It makes him happy and feel content and I think he looks sexy.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 11:42:19 PM

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I have zero interest in cross dressing men.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/15/2007 11:59:13 PM

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quote:

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I have zero interest in cross dressing men.

Me, too.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/16/2007 1:10:50 AM

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I have zero interest in cross dressing men.

Nor I, but I have to say some of the TG, TV and sissy boys look damn good.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/16/2007 3:40:17 AM

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napolean, I see that you took the time to check out our profile, yet completely ignored the advice given.

You have been given some decent advice, by more than just me. If you are really submissive, then you need to show that in your profile - as it stands, it's incredibly difficult to read and doesn't say anything that indicates that you are submissive when it is finally readable (for the record, I eventually had to highlight it so that the colors would change enough to be readable). Your initial post here simply re-inforces the image that you are not really submissive ... but instead, simply looking to have a specific fetish fulfilled.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/16/2007 7:20:29 PM

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i took your advice ad i fixe dmy profile.

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/17/2007 12:12:11 AM

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I'm going to add here.. your chances of finding a lady go up 10fold when you adresss them properly instead of "hey wazzup dominant"

I wasnt impressed

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RE: being controlled about what to wear - 4/17/2007 8:41:42 AM

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Oh yeah ... not really an improvement. The color combo is still difficult to read (I quit after the first few lines this time) and ... yeah ... "wazzup" is not exactly something I want a potential to say to me.

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