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Question!!! - 4/15/2007 6:33:28 AM

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A simple question for all of you this day...WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR YOU AS A DOMINENT MALE TO BE HAPPY AND CONTENT...good say...bounty

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 7:17:24 AM

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can female switches answer????

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 7:26:18 AM

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ok well i am gonna answer any way....happiness for me comes from balance....mind, body spirit...nature figures in very heavily...if i am not in nature surrounded by nature, i can get depressed....

nind....i need to be challenged in my career, my relationships and in myself

body...i need to be getting fresh air, and moving my body...i like the beach and hiking in the mountains

spirit...i need to be meditating, and i need to be really connecting to the the human and animal kindgdom....i need pets, and as far as humans go i need touch and mental exchange.

as far as when i am in a dom/sub relationship, there needs to be open non-violent communication on both sides, there needs to be humor and lighheartedness, there needs to be quiet and reflection, and there needs to be effortlessnes in relating....peace, no chaos ...maturity no drama

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 7:27:14 AM

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can female switches answer????

ONLY if you're a "Dominant-Male" female switch, I think

Happy:
In the lifestyle?
A brand-new sub to train...

In my endeavours?
Achievable challenges that force me to be my most creative.

At home?
A clean house, full 'fridge, and gigbite-sized thru-put.

When I drive?
Higher speed limits and more people using their blinkers and keeping right unless passing.

In general?
Peace within. No conflict to my heart, mind or soul. Peace make me HAPPY!

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 7:29:33 AM

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she's pushy, huh? LoL out loud

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 7:44:16 AM

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Hmmm lots of individual things can make me happy. To generalize, making progress towards long term goals makes me happy.

Lifestyle related: I feel the most content and happy when i am in a serious D/s relationship with a slave i love and adore and who is so eager to TRY to please me. There is nothing that can really compare to this, not even reaching a long term goal. This alone is enough to keep me happy indefinately, i think. And when im in such a relationship, its really hard to rain on my parade.

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RE: Question - 4/15/2007 7:47:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

A simple question for all of you this day...what does it take for you as a dominant Male to be happy and content?

To know the one serving me does so out of authentic love and unquestioning devotion—to experience true worldly gain and pleasure from this, not just an erotic simulation of submission which merely serves the servant.

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RE: Question - 4/15/2007 8:11:09 AM

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Happy as a Dom I guess was the question, not in general terms. Well when the dynamics works, when my dominance flow into a needy receptacle and that not only my love to dominate is fullfilled , but also my love to feel the need and the eagerness in the slave

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 8:22:50 AM

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For me to be happy, I must have peace in my House. I am realistic enough to understand that life outside my House is beyond my control for the most part but, when my property (both real and personal) is well-tended to and the cares of the world are left at the end of the driveway and I can relax while watching my slaves putter around with smiles on their faces, then I know all is well and I am at peace...

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 9:08:35 AM

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Peae in my house is on top of my lists as well..BOUNTY

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 9:14:35 AM

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TY for all the responses,this question arose from our weekly Dom poker game and the consense was as follows..the majority 6 out of 10 said,fuck me ,feed me keep the tv remote handy and the beer cold in the fridge,,Most of theses are married to their slaves and knows this will happen any way..MINE are peace in the house..2 seeing growth and development in those I mentor.3 TO have those come back years later to serve and offer them selfs...MY grandchild a genius,and without saying my beautiful domme wife DIANE

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 9:40:37 AM

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Simple question, simple reply. I am happy and content being me, challenging myself to be the best me I can be.
Namaste, Sir Dominic

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 10:34:31 AM

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Having a submissive to protect and who neededs to be protected. As long as that need to protect is satisfied, all else becomes secondary in importance

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 2:31:11 PM

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Happiness is a transient state based on everything from a full belly to a happy family and a full bank account.

Fulfillment is what I get when I am being true to myself.

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RE: Question - 4/15/2007 3:54:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

A simple question for all of you this day...what does it take for you as a dominant Male to be happy and content?

To know the one serving me does so out of authentic love and unquestioning devotion—to experience true worldly gain and pleasure from this, not just an erotic simulation of submission which merely serves the servant.

I couldnt have said it better than this.

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RE: Question - 4/15/2007 4:34:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER

A simple question for all of you this day...what does it take for you as a dominant Male to be happy and content?

To know the one serving me does so out of authentic love and unquestioning devotion—to experience true worldly gain and pleasure from this, not just an erotic simulation of submission which merely serves the servant.

I couldnt have said it better than this.

Is it part of your (collective) point that neither happiness nor contentment is available to you (individually) by your own devices, but only through the efforts/attitudes/emotions of a submissive partner?

I ask because I, as a dominant male, gratefully enjoy happiness and contentment in a wide range of circumstances, many of which don't include a submissive partner, or any partner at all. That is not to claim that I don't also experience unhappiness and discontentedness. Frankly though, these seem more often to arise as a function my own attitude, behavior, and orientation to life in a given situation than as a function of my partners' doings.

Not that a fucked up relationship can't fuck me up, of course. But I sure don't need this or that list of submissive qualities laid at my feet to allow or ensure my happiness, say.

As for what does correlate with my (domly) happiness, I won't attempt to give a laundry list of the conditions. Without thinking too long or hard about it I'd expect that some of the same factors which contribute to my happiness and/or contentment in one situation might be irrelevant, or even militate against those responses, in another context.

I'm using the word context broadly. A certain day, or season, might the context in question. A certain partner might be as well, but again there's no necessity for this.

(By the way, MR, did you ever get around to taking a look at that epistemology paper? Feel free to reply offline.)

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RE: Question - 4/15/2007 5:25:23 PM

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MR, did you ever get around to taking a look at that epistemology paper?

Oh man there is a epistemology paper going around and i missed it??? and here i am sharing porn files all this time....boy do i feel silly

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 5:48:09 PM

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To know that I own a obediant little girl

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 6:21:52 PM

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For me to me happy there has to be a certain level of respect maintained. On top of that there are chores that I require to be done. Then there are the kinks I like to play around in. I also need to know that she does those thngs because it makes her happy and not because I make her. But mainly what I am looking for is a life with as few conflicts and arguements as possible. I don't like to be angry and I manage to take things way over the line when I am. So I've tried to structure my life to keep that from happening.

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RE: Question!!! - 4/15/2007 8:22:57 PM

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A crisp Sunday morning, the taste of sex still in my mouth as I hold her hand as we walk up to my favorite cafe, the smell of coffee and the sound of conversation wafting around us.

Driving down the road looking at the beautiful scenery on the crazy narrow mountain road, knowing the edge is a precarious drop of thousands of feet and the feel of her mouth on me as I try not to crash.

Laying there in the half light listening to her soft breathing knowing how safe and cared for she felt as she slowly fell asleep in my arms.

That first purple tip one sees thrusting up out of the ground in spring, knowing that bulb has waited so long to shoot up and blossom just for your pleasure.

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