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Priorities - 4/15/2007 4:10:14 PM   
M1cslave


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Status: offline 		Just a question rolling around in my head.

Do you feel you are one of your Dom/Master's priorities?

Do you think you should be?

Or do you think that as a sub/slave you should (or are) a low priority because of your status?  (as such that he/she may view you as 'always there')
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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 4:12:42 PM   
minnetar


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Status: offline 		i would not be concerned about the issue as it isn't my place to judge Him.

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 5:33:21 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I think you should be at whatever priority was agreed upon within the relationship.  Presumably, you know what to expect BEFORE you say yes.

If I have a project at work- my partner knows that dinner together is not priority to that.  He also knows if he's sick in the hospital, he's priority to that.

Priorities are rarely absolute.



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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 5:46:27 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Our relationship is a priority. It is what we agreed on. Of course we also have everyday lives to live too. I expect to be whatever priority he wants me to be.

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 6:10:56 PM   
Obsidiansnamaste


Posts: 266
Joined: 1/7/2007
Status: offline 		Greetings A/all,

i - as a person and His property -  am a priority to Master (by His words) however to what degree my wants and desires are a priority is for Him to determine as He sees fit. Granted my needs are always met (by needs i mean literal needs, food, water, clothing, and home) however what i may feel i "need" at a particular time may or may not be fulfilled at that time based upon His discretion. To grant or withhold is His right.

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 6:11:21 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: M1cslave

Just a question rolling around in my head.

Do you feel you are one of your Dom/Master's priorities?

Yes
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Do you think you should be?

Yes. If I wasn't on his priorities, then he would not value or love me the way I desire to be. And since I refuse to live without that again, I refuse to be in a relationship where I am not valued as a priority. I am not always the highest priority, but I am always a priority.
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Or do you think that as a sub/slave you should (or are) a low priority because of your status?  (as such that he/she may view you as 'always there')



I don't see why I would be a low priority because of my status. I am valuable. If someone doesn't believe me to be such, then they really have no need to possess me, now do they? Simple belief that I will always be there does not make me any less of a priority. A house will always be there, provided you take care of it. That doesn't make it less in it's owner's eyes.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 4/15/2007 6:12:13 PM >

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 6:18:01 PM   
sleazybutterfly


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Status: offline 		We are priorities to each other, equally.  It's what the need is at the time as to who comes first (meaning if one of us is sick, or something like that). 

I know that all sounds too simple, but it's just the way it is.

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 6:34:28 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		Yes. I am one of the top priorities. Yes I expect to be.

No I do not think I should because I sub to him I am or should be a lower priority.
quote:

ORIGINAL: M1cslave

Just a question rolling around in my head.

Do you feel you are one of your Dom/Master's priorities?

Do you think you should be?

Or do you think that as a sub/slave you should (or are) a low priority because of your status?  (as such that he/she may view you as 'always there')



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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 7:57:08 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Yes of course I am one of his priorities.  Were I not, he would not spend the time, energy and effort on me as he does, nor would he spend so much time enjoying me.  However, life brings about competing priorities.  I am not his A-#1 priority day in and day out.  When he is at work, work is his priority, unless he takes time out of his day to talk to me.  When he is training a girl, she is his priority during that time he tends to her.  Sometimes his family is his priority.  Sometimes I am.  And so it goes.  I have learned not to be jealous of him, and jealousy of his time went into that mix.  I am amply cared for, loved and tended to. Wherever I fall in his day is where I fall and I am happy for it.

Edited to add, yes he does view me as "always there" because I am.

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 8:12:05 PM   
PoeticMotion


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From: Atlanta, Georgia
Status: offline 		We are each other's priorities, but only to an extent. I insist that her college and family take a priority over me, and she insists that as well. My events (I'm a rave promoter) and my family take a priority over her to an extent, but only when there is stuff I have to do for an event that is unavoidable, and it's a sliding scale; obviously i'm not going to be available as much if I have an event coming up, but if it's something serious like her being sick or something like that, obviously that's more inmportant than anything. Or if she's been bad :)

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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 8:56:45 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		greetings m1cslave,

i know that i am a priority for him, and i would not want our relationship, and myself, not to be a priority...i wouldn't choose to get into a relationship where it wasn't. that said, we know when to rearrange things because of outside commitments and he certainly doesn't fulfill my every whim or anything silly like that. but we both invest a lot of time and energy in the relationship and in each other, so yes, i feel i am a high priority to him. being property doesn't make me less of a priority; some might be comfortable with that, i would not.

annabelle.


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RE: Priorities - 4/15/2007 9:33:01 PM   
Elorin


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From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline 		Do you feel you are one of your Dom/Master's priorities?
Yes
Do you think you should be?
Yes
Or do you think that as a sub/slave you should (or are) a low priority because of your status?  (as such that he/she may view you as 'always there')
Oh hell no

I do, however, sometimes feel that I wish I were a higher priority than I am. Frustrating.

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RE: Priorities - 4/16/2007 2:27:19 AM   
rollinonward05


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Status: offline 		I feel i am a priority to Master. He has put way to much time into what we have together to not make this true.  That does not mean i am on His mind every minute of the day though. He has a job, family and other people in His life too.
Yes i am always there ( or just a mouse click away) , He is a priority to me but still i too have a life and job that needs my attention also.

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RE: Priorities - 4/16/2007 2:30:47 AM   
Tannie


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Status: offline 		I am a high priority to both my mentor and my man, but not an absolute priority.  If either of them put me at the top of their list, I would be a bit worried.

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RE: Priorities - 4/16/2007 5:33:19 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		If I was low priority to him, then I wouldn't have gotten into the relationship. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't think or care about me?

With that said, of course there are other things that come into play. And timewise we don't always have enough time together. Work, taxes, family obligations all enter into this on both sides. But in terms of emotional priority, we put each other first.

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RE: Priorities - 4/16/2007 7:17:45 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: M1cslave

Do you feel you are one of your Dom/Master's priorities?

yes i am since i'm His daughter just as my own 2 are my top priority

quote:

Do you think you should be?

that was already agreed upon after accepting Him as my Daddy and Dom. He told me other men will come and go but Daddy will always be there to take care of me.

quote:

Or do you think that as a sub/slave you should (or are) a low priority because of your status?  (as such that he/she may view you as 'always there')

personally that would seem neglectful on the Dom/me's part to me. technically i'm "always there" for Daddy not because of my (as you put it) "status" because i desire to be but there will be times when i cannot due to work and/or personal obligations. however, as i mentioned earlier, Daddy's always there for me when i need Him.


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RE: Priorities - 4/16/2007 9:23:44 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I don't feel i am i know i am one of Master's priorities.  He gives up sleep to spend his time with me.  I think i deserve one of his top priorties to be just as he is to me.  I am not always his top priorty when he is at work he has to conctrate on that, i am sure i am in the top 3 though.  Whwn i am in college that at the moment is my top priorty when i am with him he is always #1.
Just because i am his sub does not mean i should be a low priorty.  it would make me feel i am just a convience for him if he made me a low priorty.  Of course i am always here for him and if i can't be (Drs appt or something) he understands.  I save most of my time for him.

Matt's littleone

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