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hereyesruponyou -> Long Term Chastity (4/16/2007 11:09:17 AM)

It seems to me from what i have read on these boards that chastity is something that needs to be given, much like submission. I know alot of sub males interested in trying a chastity device or the idea of being locked up, but do you feel you could really live this as a lifestyle?

What characteristics are needed to be able to give yourself over to someone else?



gregor2001us -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/16/2007 6:30:24 PM)

Well, I am living this lifestyle.  Not with a device, though at first I tried using a device.  It just didn't work out.  But I still wanted to and suddenly I realized I could do it without a device.  So I promised I would never ever play with myself again, except under her specific direction.  That was over 5 years ago.  I am not sure what characteristics I have that made this possible...except an intense desire to give her control over me.



lockedaway -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/16/2007 6:34:27 PM)

i could not live it as a long term lifestyle.  Although it has been part of my submission, the Dommes that required it enjoyed seeing me sexually satisfied, it was just what i had to do to get there.  If a Domme wanted me to be chastised for a period of time in excess of a month, i would have to question how much she cared about me.



BalletBob -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/16/2007 7:41:58 PM)

I think I could live like that, but then again it depends on the amount of time. I have gone for almost a week in my Cock Harness, and I think that is worse than a CB3000. Also I read where small men have a chance to fall out, so I am not sure if I would able to try. I love the idea of Chastity, since it takes away my choice, of when to play. I miss that of MADAM.

Take care, and good luck in your search.

Sincerly, Sub BalletBob

PS I read your profile, and if you would like to chat sometime, just as friends, please let me know. I am always open to ideas.



littlesarbonn -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/16/2007 8:20:12 PM)

I'd be all for it. Just never been given the opportunity.



hereyesruponyou -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 6:43:16 AM)

gregor

thank you for replying. i think you have touched on what i was looking for. HOw long did you use the device? Also do you consider it chastity to just devote your cock and orgasms to your Mistress, or does she also control your general rules about even touching etc..

Do you feel this decision has changed your personality any or made you feel more like who you tought you were?

It is the psychological effects that i am most interested in. Thanks again for sharing!



hereyesruponyou -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 6:48:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

i could not live it as a long term lifestyle.  Although it has been part of my submission, the Dommes that required it enjoyed seeing me sexually satisfied, it was just what i had to do to get there.  If a Domme wanted me to be chastised for a period of time in excess of a month, i would have to question how much she cared about me.


I would never want to "experiment" this way on someone who saw it as a means to an end. (ie... i'll do it but it's only so i can get off later).  That is much different than what i am proposing. I am not at all against a sub having sexual release, but rather in the fact that i control the time, place, and manner. With a device there is also the idea of controlling all aspects of the handling of the organ, which is a powerful mental control. For me i need this given freely to me, it is not something i would be interesting in "taking" from someone.



openmindedslave -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 8:50:34 AM)

Chasity  for some , at the begining , can have a sub show signs  much like those of a smker going cold turkey.While they may not have a chemical issue like nicotenine, they certainly have habits they must break  while in chasity.. From a dom side, it can rather amusing :

For example, many guys get off before going to bed  or sometimes when they get up in the morning .Much like a ritual in their  minds, "take care of themselves can also help them to get to sleep  sooner and more relaxed. And to some in the morning , it helps them to get going .Elimating this will not only put stress on their sleeping habits but may show signs of stress in their days for a while until they learn to accept chasity.

The other factor which they will  be observation  to you will be their need to rub up againest things...much like adog as thery try to stimulate themselves or at least try in some small way arrousal. This too will disappear after a while.

And of course going to public bathrooms.The control of this is he will need to take more time in public places including not using wall urnals. Prety much have removed that man hood experience from their lives.

Akll of this is a reminder that the sub/slave will have to relearn certain  aspects of their life. Long term  generally suggest that the slave will get accustom to this new requirement and will not get  so in need of personal gratification.That once the newest wares off, they slave will be easier to learn other task and expectations that you  expect from them. Also, the reward system of being able to cum will feel more fullfilling than ever before for them.And all of this will be because of your doing ..



slcsub -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 9:49:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I'd be all for it. Just never been given the opportunity.
Likewise, although the prospect of total chastity is a little scary...in an exciting way. [:)]

Regards,
- don



Casie -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 12:58:35 PM)

I have no expeince, I don't personally think it is something I could do in the long term. Short term would be torture enough [:D]



gregor2001us -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/17/2007 5:49:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

gregor

thank you for replying. i think you have touched on what i was looking for. HOw long did you use the device? Also do you consider it chastity to just devote your cock and orgasms to your Mistress, or does she also control your general rules about even touching etc..

Do you feel this decision has changed your personality any or made you feel more like who you tought you were?

It is the psychological effects that i am most interested in. Thanks again for sharing!


I tried using the device (a CB2000 by the way) for around 6 months.  I tried extending the time I wore it for, but could not keep it on for more than 3 days without "resting" for a few days to let the irritation dissapate.

My promise is specific and unyielding.  She has additionally required that I try my best not to cum, but she realizes I cannot reaaly control that very well...she gets me too excited, lol.  And I cannot always tell how early i have to stop...so sometimes I stop when I think it is early enough...but the sensations keep going.

But I can clean myself and rearrange myself as needed.  I just cannot pleasure myself, and this is in effect 24/7/365.  If she wants, she could require more restrictions, but she has not so far.

Yes, I consider it chastity, but others may wish to classify it differently.  The word is not really important to me.  What is important to me is that I have lost control of my pleasure and am dependent on her for pleasure.

Yes, it has enhanced and made sex for me much more exciting, but at times more trying.  I have found that I look forward to sex and giving her pleasure far more than I used to.  I have found that i enjoy nonsexual service for her more than i used to as well.  I have found that I do not enjoy masturbating the way I used to.  I crave her giving me pleasure, becuase it is sooo much better.  And I am eager and hard for her very quickly, lol.  And I have found that I may like being teased and denied more than climaxing...but i am still sorting this one out.  I also feel very strongly how restricted I am, or controled I am, at times.  So it has worked well for me and her.  But, as with anything 24/7/365, there are times that are not so much fun.  Those times have reinforced that this is not a game, and that I am truely trapped/controled.

I am not sure if I am giving you what you wanted, so please ask some more if you wish.



subtill -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/18/2007 5:30:34 AM)

i couldn't understan all speeches before,but my english is very little to understand. So i try to give You an answered,what i think. For me its realistic to be real owned by a Lady some day.My thinking and dreams i would discribe with D/s and later real TPE,when i be in love before for HER,i have frightened to be owned by a Lady,who i can't love or like.If there is one Lady,who has real interest to own me ,as in this beeing as only she want,but in a similar Power,as i like her.Then i will go with her this way,so in the end i am real her own,as what ever she think. On this way for me its my duty to be closed by her,if she decided.But i don't like it,if its only my fantasy to be in chasterty. Ok i have a little bit feelings,during i think and i have my fantasy to be closed.In this moment iam real sexual stimulated.
But for me its more important to live in a Way of Her dreams.i want to understand myself,as a Gift for HER.As Her gift i try to be what she Want,what she decided,what is the best way for me to live under,perhaps by her.The main think are Her Fantasy,Her Willingness,Her real Dreams to be live for me. with Casterty or without.   



lockedaway -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/18/2007 5:48:34 AM)

Mistress, thank You for the clarification.  i have worn chastity devices in some relationships and in one relationship it was throughout the entire time.  The post said "long term chastity" which i understood to mean wearing a chastity device indefinitely with no interrupting release.  THAT was what i was referring to.  As i now understand Your reply, my response is that wearing a chastity device all the time over a  30 year relationship with a Mistress i worshipped would be fine. 



cloudboy -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/18/2007 10:07:54 PM)

LT Chastity (which seems to be undefined here) might make for an interesting D/S dynamic, but to get there you'd have to throw good, bonding, sexual intimacy out the window. Why would any sensual couple want to do that?



WilliamTheSlave -> RE: Long Term Chastity (4/18/2007 11:22:53 PM)

Can anyone suggest a device that is comfortable enough for long term use by a male?



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