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m0nk -> complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:40:19 PM)

I do not like these people on here who complain they can't find any 'serious' subs on here and that they all just 'play games'.


But then they do not even respond to any of the messages they get even when you are 100% sincere. ITS SO RIDICULOUS I CANT UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE BECOME SO MUTATED IN THE BRAIN WITHOUT DYING?



I do not understand why God allows people that behave this way to continue to breathe.....I am very very confused...



bandit25 -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:43:43 PM)

Dude...chill.  This is the internet.  We're just pixels on your screen.  Take a walk and clear some of the bad thoughts out of your head.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:44:32 PM)

And those that complain on the forums about them are better?
From one message, how is someone supposed to know you are 100% sincere?  I am pretty sure this is the product of not getting the response you wanted from someone. You dont know that someone doesnt respond to any of the messages they get.  Maybe they just didnt respond to you.  Chill out and dont take it so personally.  If one person doesnt respond, then move on and find someone else.  Dont chase someone who doesnt want you... theres no point.

DV



TantricOne -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:46:05 PM)

I always respond to messages, but then I've got the courtesy to do so, even a "no thanks" is better than nothing at all



LadyPact -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:47:43 PM)

I should put this on My copy/paste clipboard, since I get to say it about once a week.
 
Some of U/us do answer at least the initial email that W/we receive.  I'm not excused from manners just because I'm a Domme.  It doesn't mean I'll continue to answer emails, if I've already said that I'm not interested, but I do try to be polite.



Mustardseed -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:50:06 PM)

Did you know that if you run a search on the main page -- if you specify location, age, race, gender, orientation, role, etc. -- that unless you clear that search CollarMe automagically filters your mail based on the criteria you used? That means that any mail you get from someone who doesn't fit that specific search criteria -- by someone of the appropriate gender but outside of your preferred location, say -- will go straight to your Bulk Mail folder? And did you know that CollarMe only tell users when mail arrives in the inboxes, not in their bulk mail folders.

It could be that you're simply not making the cut, and that the people you're mailing are either making it a priority to respond to the people who did, or simply have no idea that you mailed them at all.



blushingflower -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:52:29 PM)

Considering that your profile only has one word, I can see how a person might not believe that you are 100% sincere.
If someone doesn't respond, they have reasons.  Maybe they just haven't read your email yet, or they haven't had time.  Or maybe you're not what they're looking for, and they receive too many emails to bother responding to ones that they don't think will work out.  Not everyone you're interested in is going to be interested back.  That's life.





darchChylde -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:54:43 PM)

sorry, but the bolk of my emails come from people who obviously have not read even the barest bit of my profile... right at the top it says i'm owned, and that i'm submissive, only looking for friends; most emails make it clear that none of these facts have entered their minds

so, i feel no regret in immediately deleting them directly after reading... if all someone wants to do is look at my picture and spout off "obey me bitch!!!" or "will you be my Daddy?", i feel no obligation to encourage them any further by giving any sort of reply



DiurnalVampire -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 5:56:46 PM)

Ladies and Gentleman... has the OP disapeared on us after opening up one of the oldest arguements on CM aside from the sub/slave debate?  We are here talking about the virtues of responding or not responding and the OP isnt even watching the forum. 

DV



AquaticSub -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:00:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

And those that complain on the forums about them are better?
From one message, how is someone supposed to know you are 100% sincere?  I am pretty sure this is the product of not getting the response you wanted from someone. You dont know that someone doesnt respond to any of the messages they get.  Maybe they just didnt respond to you.  Chill out and dont take it so personally.  If one person doesnt respond, then move on and find someone else.  Dont chase someone who doesnt want you... theres no point.

DV


Ditto



MyMasterStephen -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:01:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mustardseed

Did you know that if you run a search on the main page -- if you specify location, age, race, gender, orientation, role, etc. -- that unless you clear that search CollarMe automagically filters your mail based on the criteria you used? That means that any mail you get from someone who doesn't fit that specific search criteria -- by someone of the appropriate gender but outside of your preferred location, say -- will go straight to your Bulk Mail folder? And did you know that CollarMe only tell users when mail arrives in the inboxes, not in their bulk mail folders.




Umm...  Pardon?

No, the mail filtering system doesn't work like that at all.

There are filter controls under the Bulk Mail tab, and the criteria set by them determine what is and is not  filtered.  Your search criteria are irrelevant.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:08:41 PM)

I never thought about that.  I wonder how many of the people complaining that they never get responses are actually sitting in filtered bulk mail as we speak, and dont even realize it. I thought it was odd there were that any snubbed people, but I am sure if i chec my bulk mail there are quite a few that are outside my age range or my preferences that assume Ive snubbed them. hmmm



SweetDommes -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:08:56 PM)

I will be honest, I don't always reply to messages that get sent to us.  I have it spelled out in the profile what I will not respond to ... and I still get crap and then people are upset that I didn't reply to them.

Honestly, how exactly am I supposed to respond to a person with absolutely nothing in his profile and his message consists of "hello"?  I will not deal with someone who can't at least make an attempt at a conversation.



SadisticMan -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:11:04 PM)

fill out a profile and put up a pic



selfbnd411 -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:14:57 PM)

I don't think emails are any different than any other sort of public interaction with total strangers.  Some people are going to be interested and chat you up.  Some people aren't really interested, but they may reply to be polite.  Others may be busy, or they could have a crowd of people trying to talk to them, or frankly they could just be rude.  The solution is just as it would be in a public place: Sure you could say "Hey, I'm talking to you!" but you're unlikely to get far.  You're better off moving on, and maybe examining your approach to see if you did anything to put them off.  If you think not, then approach someone else.  Try not to take it personally.



Mustardseed -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 6:17:43 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MyMasterStephen

Umm...  Pardon?

No, the mail filtering system doesn't work like that at all.

There are filter controls under the Bulk Mail tab, and the criteria set by them determine what is and is not  filtered.  Your search criteria are irrelevant.


Either I've had a very different experience here or I sit corrected.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 7:01:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I should put this on My copy/paste clipboard, since I get to say it about once a week.
 
Some of U/us do answer at least the initial email that W/we receive.  I'm not excused from manners just because I'm a Domme.  It doesn't mean I'll continue to answer emails, if I've already said that I'm not interested, but I do try to be polite.


There's a signature option in your forum profile. :-)

Master Fire



Devilslilsister -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 7:13:26 PM)

Anyone want a strawberry?

i think since the OP opened up a complaint thread.......... that i'd like to complain about the fact that the strawberries i get from my grogery store are ALWAYS SOUR.  IMO that is just wrong! 

oh and they're also sour from the other stores around here too....

WHY IS THE WORLD SO CRUEL



onestandingstill -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 7:38:33 PM)

To me it's really sad how many people reach the point that words on a screen r lack of them can cause such strong emotions in our lives.
It's sad how we let the power of someone elses actions or lack of action alter our state of mind or well being.
It's also sad that people don't take time to not only read profiles, but treat each other at least with the same minimal respects we would if we stood before this other person.
It's like the computer makes us all more anonamous in our minds to the point our standards of communication and dating are so very different online and in person we get burnt out.
I know I too have allowed this dang screen before me to have way more power over my mindset than I should have ever permitted it to.
When I get to the point I feel it pull on me to negatively I just instead of these frustrated fighting mad posts, just do the opposite and take the option of flight much like someone above me mentioned to this person.
Instead of fight or flight I'm trying hard to working toward just not giving it the permission to control my emotions when it's really not something that I should allow to alter my perspectives.
You know, the learning to take everything with a good healthy dose of my reality and a dash of salt.
I think as long as there's internet sites to communicate with others this will be a constant thing we see frustrating people in society and even our own selves from time to time. It's the nature of the beast IMO.

And to Devilslilsister I AGREE!
The strawberries in the store taste nothing like one you pick in a field yourself. What's up with that is the ones in the store are picked before they are fully ripe and dipped in/ or sprayed with preservative agents. 
As they ripen off the vine at a reduced rate the sugar content is affected by the chemicles they were subjected to.
Real untreated strawberries perish quickly. That's why you rarely can find organic ones.
They just rot faster than they can be packed, shipped and mass marketed naturally.
suzanne



littlesarbonn -> RE: complete psychos... (4/16/2007 7:48:46 PM)

I'm starting to think that some of my mail I send has been going into bulk mail files. I've written to a few people who really surprised me by never responding, as I wouldn't have expected that from them. Either that, or I have more respect for people who tend to have none for me.



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