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dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 4:52:16 PM

BrazenBitch

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in my BrazenBitch profile, i say that i am a gay woman, and that i am not here to meet guys. but i ALSO say:

And to be clear: I don't hate men at all,
on the contrary, but I have enough male
friends and I am not here to meet any more.

of course, guys still write and want to get together. sometimes they want to whip my ass, other times they want me to whip their asses, even though i clearly state that i am lesbian dominant.

once in awhile, one says he'd just like to chat on a friendly basis. if they're polite, i'll say hi and maybe talk a bit.

i never said anything about transexuals, and i have been involved with 2 people (one MTF and one FTM) who define themselves this way when i was younger.

today, i received the following unsoliticed message that seems very nasty and rude:

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<email deleted>
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now what kind of unpleasant person sends that sort of evil message? pretty much all the transexuals and transgender folk i have met have been pretty nice people. i guess this one is an exception to the rule.

[Mod Note: Please don't paste recieved email into the forums]

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 4:55:38 PM

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Some people are full of hostility and instead of the old-fashioned way of kicking their dog, they go and kick some random stranger they've never met on the internet. And it has just about as much meaning as kicking their dog, I guess. Pointless.

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 5:13:25 PM

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Maybe now is the time to live up to your name?

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 5:13:40 PM

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that's a very true point. the out-of-the-blue message was just such a shock to me, especially right on the heels of yesterday's shocking incident where a sick hostile person lashed out on that university campus. even the 'regular' guys who drop me a line hoping to try their luck despite me being a gay girl aren't rude like this person (who oddly enough can't even spell transexual)!

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 5:23:15 PM

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One day I got a message that said (paraphrasing),

"All Jews get into the ovens now... HISSSSS.... the gas is on now... burn, burn!"

(or something vicious and insane along these lines, after he realized I was Jewish....)

do you think it meant, that I'd offended him or caused him enough discomfort to merit these remarks? Nope. He was mentally unstable and got off on trying to shock and offend people. It wasn't MY problem, and all he wanted was some horrified, frightened or angry reaction. He didn't care how I felt, so long as it was bad.

Once you get over the shock, you can refuse to give this person's behavior a payoff by ignoring him... he WANTS you to feel bad, it gives him the sad little smidgen of control he doesn't have in whatever life he leads. By the way, we all get insane letters from time to time, that's the internet eh?

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 5:27:43 PM

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MODERATOR - is your objection that i did not remove the name of the person?

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RE: dealing with rude messages - 4/17/2007 5:31:09 PM

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MODERATOR, i have now removed the name of the sender, gosh forbid anyone would know the jerk's screen name:

actually, let me just paraphrase:

someone wrote and said they were 'a fulltime Transeuxual' and that meant they were 'femme inside and out' even if they had a penis and that if i thought this made them a man, that we had nothing more to discuss and that they respected that. ok, fair enough. not really polite, but not all that offensive. just them voicing an opinion not shared by all.

but then they weren on to rant that the reason they wrote was because they 'just wanted to put one of your sort in your pathetic snotty-nosed place' and that just because someone had a dick doesn't mean that they were part of my 'historic backwards minded black and white scenario.

they noted that times are 'moving on' and told me to think about that little fact. then they closed with an all caps insult with an exclamation mark, like so 'DUH-BRAIN!'

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