juliaoceania
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
Don't take it personally. When someone doesn't answer...it's not about the person who sent it but about the person who didn't reply. It's all about the non-replyer's "stuff" and how they react to it.
Master Fire
Hmmmm, I am sure there are many people that do not reply to various emails for various reasons that have "no stuff" attached to this decision, they have no emotional attachments to emails sent to them, there is no inner "stuff" they are working on. To me "stuff" has the connotation that there is some negative emotional attachment related to this decision...
Another aspect of this concept is that it comes off as if the sender has no responsibility for the lack of replies to what they send off into the universe. How we preceive the world, how the world perceives us, is all directly related to our own "stuff". If someone is not getting what they desire in life, that truly is all about them, and not other people.
Like my Daddy always says, futitility is doing the same thing over and over and over again expecting a different result. If people send off one liners, canned form emails, crude come ons, pay no attention to the desires of those they are approaching, is that the "stuff" of the recipient of the sender? If they send off sincere emails that are not responded to for lord knows what reason, perhaps the Universe has reasons that are not apparent to the sender... faith that 99% of what we desire to manifest as yet unseen, and gratitude for this is a much more productive way to approach this than to think our personal stuff is the domain of other people... it just isn't
I tried several ways of responding to people that invariably led to opening the door to abusive crap being thrust back at me. My "stuff" was to find an approach that limited this crap in my life, I found ignoring it was the best solution... I believe in taking responsibility for my reality and what comes into it. Not feeding has all but ended abusive emails, which are now just a trickle. Most of these revolve around calling my Dom "Daddy". It is not my responsibility to make others feel good, it is my responsibility to create a world that feels good to me and radiate that out to others.
Personal responsibility is so freeing, and I strongly believe that those who send out emails and do not get the response that they had an expectation of getting are not being personally responsibly. I think this because we cannot create in another person's reality, and when we invest emotionally in the actions of others and allow ourselves to be let down by them we are in fact attempting to create for others. I see myself as a creative being, and I have been learning that the largest obstacle I have to my own personal happiness is the desire to control and create for others... in letting this go I have been much more at peace, my relationships are happier... and although I still struggle with this concept at times, it feels good to honor others by not foisting my own expectations off on to them. I believe that expecting a response from others is indeed trying to create in their universe, and to me this has nothing to do with politeness, it is ethically wrong by my own moral compass.
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